SweetPrincess said:
I am curious becasue I am reading about alot of people's experiences and threads. Some threads say that most people see it as a fetish? Others say that it is cute (partners, caregivers) so is it sexual cute or just adorable cute?
Should it matter if people find it arousing being treated as a baby? Does the AB community encompass both or either sexual and non-sexual desires to be a baby? (I am assuming yes)
I don't know too much about the AB community despite being a diaper lover. I have a few bottles and pacifiers but rarely use them.
Fetish just means, "that's odd," to psychologists.
It's hard to understand, because people think the word fetish means sexual, and it does, but, psychologists extend it to mean not just an unusual way to boink, but to romantically bond, to romantically love. Some people don't like it being called a fetish, because it isn't sexual for them. I'm okay with it, now, but, it took me a while. No, it's not sexual for me, so, for me, it's adorable cute.
It's like, "Okay, he brushed my hair, or read me a book, or, cuddled me, and, now, I know I'm not being used. I can trade him something he wants now. We've bonded."
Yes, it is for some people, so, for them, I assume, it's sexy cute. Yes, the community encompasses sexual AB//Little/DLs, and non-sexual ones. No, it shouldn't matter if it is sexual or not.
Being in Little space last night, I learned something. I had just watched LittleLoliKat. She'd gotten a gigantic box of pink. I get jealous every time she gets a box of pink. The bunny on her snow suit, didn't match the froggy on her jacket.
I said, "Vat don't make no sense! Hew Daddy can't take hew nowhewe! She don't match! I'd be fashionable baby. Daddy could show me off to people. We'd be a set!"
I wasn't insulting Kat. I learned my little side likes to match, and, I learned, after a bit of thought, that I wouldn't have to be regressed, to like making us both look good, by being a coordinating set.
"Wear this dress, please," doesn't bother me, assuming it's comfortable, Little or not.
"Make me a plate, please," doesn't bother me, when I'm big.
"Color this for me," doesn't bother me.
If I'm with someone, making him happy, makes me happy, no matter what headspace I'm in.