The problem with the potato analogy, is that, it assumes the, "potato virgin," has no other senses with which to confirm that he, or she, doesn't like potatoes. Really? Because someone hasn't tried potatoes, he or she has no basis for a distaste for them? Has this person no sight, no sense of touch, no sense of smell? I'm not sure how one would hear a potato, in this case, but, yeah, that, too.
I don't like English peas, or those pea pods in Asian food. I've eaten them before, but, I don't have to have tried them, to tell people I don't like them. Even before I tried them, I could smell them. They stink! Then, once I tried them, I could feel them. I bite into them, and they burst! Eeeeew! Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew, ew, just gross! Now, if you cook them to mush, make them absolutely smooth, and hide them in something they're supposed to go with, for example, chicken soup, I'll eat that, willingly, because I can't feel, smell, or taste them.
That's like knocking someone out with anesthesia, doing something evil, that I won't name, and saying, "There, you loved it."
No, I didn't love the peas! I loved the soup. The peas were hidden! Good thing we're talking about vegetables, and I'm glad there's a way to get the nutrition from English peas, in a way I can tolerate, but, damn, it doesn't mean I like them!
Some people are gay from the moment their sexuality kicks in.
In fact, isn't that a, "most gay people," thing?
Point being, if someone asked a gay person who has just always known, "How do you know you're gay, if you haven't tried straight sex," heaven bless the poor person. I hope said gay person looks at his, or her inquisitor, and says, "How do you know you're straight?"!
It's, I'd imagine, the same way for asexuals. The OP may never have had sex, but, I assume, he can hear, see, and sense danger.
When I see something with, "Daddy's Little Slut," written on it, it repulses me.
If I'm his Little, why would he call me a bad name? No offense to anyone. Do what you do.
For me, when anything, shall we say, slightly a Shade or 2 of Gray, touches Littleness, something in my head goes, "Nope. Nope, nope, nope, nope. No! Danger!"
No, I haven't tried it. I'm smart enough to sense a threat. That's how I know I don't want to try it.
Calico, let me see if I can explain why asexuals get so defensive.
It's probably because you wouldn't say to someone who was gay, "No, you're not! You just haven't found the right person, position, kink, or, way to enjoy it."
Would you tell me I'm not cerebrally palsied, because I haven't found a way to walk yet? I know you wouldn't tell a fellow Spectrumite he, or she, isn't autistic, but just hasn't found a way to like neurotypicality yet.
In fact, you'd probably say, "You're entitled to your opinion," but, be thinking, "I'm not a broken NT! I'm a normal Spectrumite!"
It's the way asexuals are wired. You can't feel how they feel, and, neither can I. We aren't in their heads. No, asexuals aren't disabled. This is just me, grasping this, as a sexual person, from an angle I can understand it, as a disabled person. It's my understanding, they aren't broken sexuals, but normal asexuals. There's nothing wrong with asexuality.
I like broccoli, and detest the kinds of peas I mentioned above. Don't tell me I haven't found a way to like them yet. You don't know if I have, or not, and, don't confuse tolerate with like, either.
OP, I'm going to ask a question, with no negative judgement, whatsoever. I'm not pretending to know what you are, or trying to say you're any different than you say you are. Could you be objectum sexual, with diapers being your object? Based on some of your other posts, sounds like it. I'm not you. I don't know, and you may be, and, it sounds like you are, asexual toward people.
Just wondering, is objectum sexuality still a form of asexuality, because it doesn't involve people? Does anyone know?