I am asexual

mayhem said:
So you make your judgment based off of ignorance. That is like saying “I’ve live 32 years and I hate potatoes even though I’ve never ate one”.

I stopped being repulsed by sex before I even had it.

If you never outgrow that feeling of being repulsed by sex, then you are asexual. As a child it's harder to tell because it's totally normal to feel that way about it and if you are a teen, still hard to tell because you could just be a late sexual bloomer. I am sure there have been people out there that thought they were asexual only to turn out they were just a late bloomer or hadn't found the right person or they just hadn't found the right sex yet they enjoy while being repulsed by other sex or they just simply hadn't found a way to enjoy it yet. But bring this up to anyone who claims to be asexual, you get treated like you are a bigot or unaccepting or like you are ignorant. They get very defensive just because you disagree with their label and offer a new perspective so instead of being open minded or just politely disagreeing, they get defensive.
 
The problem with the potato analogy, is that, it assumes the, "potato virgin," has no other senses with which to confirm that he, or she, doesn't like potatoes. Really? Because someone hasn't tried potatoes, he or she has no basis for a distaste for them? Has this person no sight, no sense of touch, no sense of smell? I'm not sure how one would hear a potato, in this case, but, yeah, that, too.

I don't like English peas, or those pea pods in Asian food. I've eaten them before, but, I don't have to have tried them, to tell people I don't like them. Even before I tried them, I could smell them. They stink! Then, once I tried them, I could feel them. I bite into them, and they burst! Eeeeew! Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew, ew, just gross! Now, if you cook them to mush, make them absolutely smooth, and hide them in something they're supposed to go with, for example, chicken soup, I'll eat that, willingly, because I can't feel, smell, or taste them.

That's like knocking someone out with anesthesia, doing something evil, that I won't name, and saying, "There, you loved it."

No, I didn't love the peas! I loved the soup. The peas were hidden! Good thing we're talking about vegetables, and I'm glad there's a way to get the nutrition from English peas, in a way I can tolerate, but, damn, it doesn't mean I like them!

Some people are gay from the moment their sexuality kicks in.

In fact, isn't that a, "most gay people," thing?

Point being, if someone asked a gay person who has just always known, "How do you know you're gay, if you haven't tried straight sex," heaven bless the poor person. I hope said gay person looks at his, or her inquisitor, and says, "How do you know you're straight?"!

It's, I'd imagine, the same way for asexuals. The OP may never have had sex, but, I assume, he can hear, see, and sense danger.

When I see something with, "Daddy's Little Slut," written on it, it repulses me.

If I'm his Little, why would he call me a bad name? No offense to anyone. Do what you do.

For me, when anything, shall we say, slightly a Shade or 2 of Gray, touches Littleness, something in my head goes, "Nope. Nope, nope, nope, nope. No! Danger!"

No, I haven't tried it. I'm smart enough to sense a threat. That's how I know I don't want to try it.

Calico, let me see if I can explain why asexuals get so defensive.

It's probably because you wouldn't say to someone who was gay, "No, you're not! You just haven't found the right person, position, kink, or, way to enjoy it."

Would you tell me I'm not cerebrally palsied, because I haven't found a way to walk yet? I know you wouldn't tell a fellow Spectrumite he, or she, isn't autistic, but just hasn't found a way to like neurotypicality yet.

In fact, you'd probably say, "You're entitled to your opinion," but, be thinking, "I'm not a broken NT! I'm a normal Spectrumite!"

It's the way asexuals are wired. You can't feel how they feel, and, neither can I. We aren't in their heads. No, asexuals aren't disabled. This is just me, grasping this, as a sexual person, from an angle I can understand it, as a disabled person. It's my understanding, they aren't broken sexuals, but normal asexuals. There's nothing wrong with asexuality.

I like broccoli, and detest the kinds of peas I mentioned above. Don't tell me I haven't found a way to like them yet. You don't know if I have, or not, and, don't confuse tolerate with like, either.

OP, I'm going to ask a question, with no negative judgement, whatsoever. I'm not pretending to know what you are, or trying to say you're any different than you say you are. Could you be objectum sexual, with diapers being your object? Based on some of your other posts, sounds like it. I'm not you. I don't know, and you may be, and, it sounds like you are, asexual toward people.

Just wondering, is objectum sexuality still a form of asexuality, because it doesn't involve people? Does anyone know?
 
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Calico said:
I stopped being repulsed by sex before I even had it.

If you never outgrow that feeling of being repulsed by sex, then you are asexual. As a child it's harder to tell because it's totally normal to feel that way about it and if you are a teen, still hard to tell because you could just be a late sexual bloomer. I am sure there have been people out there that thought they were asexual only to turn out they were just a late bloomer or hadn't found the right person or they just hadn't found the right sex yet they enjoy while being repulsed by other sex or they just simply hadn't found a way to enjoy it yet. But bring this up to anyone who claims to be asexual, you get treated like you are a bigot or unaccepting or like you are ignorant. They get very defensive just because you disagree with their label and offer a new perspective so instead of being open minded or just politely disagreeing, they get defensive.

I think most asexual people who say they are asexually are pretty much asexual. Don't forget that it takes some courage to come out as asexual, most people don't even know what it means. I don't like people telling me how do I know I'm asexual if I've never had sex? I can tell you that I don't find sex or sexual activities at all appealing.
 
Very interesting to read.

I’m not asexual. I’m mostly lesbian, as in that I have always fallen in love with other girls.

But I’m not “sexual” to the same degree as most other people seem to be either.

it makes a lot of sense that on top of being gay or straight people can have varying degrees of, how to say that - sexual inclination?

I can be very intensely in love, but I am also ridiculously vanilla, as in PG-13 vanilla.
Holding hands, kissing and being romantic and sweet to one another are about as far as my repertoire goes.
I have no problem at all with physical contact though, quite the contrary. It’s just that that steamy stuff doesn’t appeal to me; and the more kinky and let’s-get-down-to-business-like it gets, the more it puts me off.

I used to think that I was merely just girlish in that respect, but it goes deeper than that. It is as if my sexual development stopped at a certain age.
And I’m totally fine with that, especially now that I have a girlfriend who’s about the same in that respect. I think that I enjoy just holding her just as much as other people enjoy their thing.


So yes, why shouldn’t “sexual intensity” be considered part of all the different ways in which people can be unique?
 
You made a good point Iraina. Although I know I'm asexual I would like a male partner to love and cherish but it has to be totally platonic. I wouldn't want a sexual relationship, I would be out my depth.
 
Babyboy -- Unfortunately, it's not people I'd consider close friends who do this crap, it's people like co-workers and I won't turn them in because I'd feel terrible if they lost their job because of something like that. Most of them have young children and need the job to take care of them. If they get too pushy about it, I tell them to f--k off and refuse to interact with them until they can think of something else to talk about. :p We have a guy who used to go into deep details about his latex fetish until everyone basically ganged up on him and said "Please stop bringing that up, OK? We get it. It's what you like. But let's talk about other stuff...like comics and video games at work." So we're all good now. Usually it's a non-issue, people standing there fussing at each other "She's my woman." "No! She's mine." And I'm laughing at them like "I'm neither! I belong to myself!" It's just really hard to get a sixty-five year old guy to understand the concept of someone being gay much less someone being asexual. :lol: But I keep trying.

Mayhem -- I've never had sexual intercourse either and have no plans to try it out. Because it's like my licking roadkill statement, it's 'gross' to me and I want nothing to do with it. But by all means, do go and boink your heart out, my friend. :D I don't care what you do so long as you aren't like...causing terrible bodily harm to yourself or someone else. (Unless that's...like your consensual thing.) Mine may stem from not liking to be touched. At all. (I know, makes my username kinda ironic!) So when someone walks over and pats my shoulder I'm left standing there like "OMG. WHYYYYY?" inside my head. And I've had the gamut of comments about my touch-aversion, too. Some people insist I need to see a doctor because I must have something wrong with my nerves. And I try to explain it's only when PEOPLE touch me. Humans specifically. Dogs, cats, parakeets, turtles, lizards, all fine. Human? No. (Also on my list of 'freakish personality oddities', I don't want to have children, not even through adoption.)

And it's nice that you're, apparently, sexually normal, Calico. But it's not like that for everyone. I'm pretty dang certain that at 35 years old, I am not a 'late sexual bloomer', I'm asexual. XD If I were still fifteen or sixteen, I might think "Well, maybe." But even as a teenager I didn't understand those crazy crushes that girls/boys would get on singers/actors. I still kind of don't...because on a logical level your odds of being seen by said singer/actor are very small and even more tiny is that they'll think "Wow, I like that person! I better go talk to them!" Life isn't like a Hallmark movie where your idol sees you and says "OMG! BESTIES FOREVER!"

And asexuals as a group tend to eventually get super-defensive because almost every person they run into will go "OMG. Stop being 'special'. Just go have sex with someone and you'll be fine." And we're just standing there like "Do you have no idea? Really?" It's like...did they even listen to anything or just shut off the conversation with the first few words?

That being said, it took me a long time to determine, it wasn't just a 'HAH! I'll show them all! I'll be ASEXUAL!' kind of thing, it's a truth that I had to search through tons of information to figure out. Looked at stuff about being heterosexual, didn't feel like I fit there. Tried reading stuff about being homosexual, didn't feel like I fit there. That led me to AVEN and I was like "OOooo...I think I just had an 'aha!'"

Like SweeTot said up there: If you don't like peas, no amount of forcing them down your throat will make you like them.

And the bad bit about it is that people make up a freakin' 'agenda' for asexuals. Like...we're going to run around infecting other people with our asexualness. Like they found out they couldn't catch the gay, so now they're afraid they'll catch the asexy. :lol: (Stuff like "They hate everyone who has sex!" or "They don't want people to have porn!" I don't give a poot about your porn collection people. I just don't wanna watch it with you. :laugh:)

(Although now I totally want a t-shirt that says "I'm bringin' asexy back"...I bet they make them somewhere...)
 
Woozle, does it feel like this?

There's a limit to everyone's patience, open-mindedness, and capacity for polite disagreement. I bet it's hard to have someone who's sexual bring up the same point you've considered a billion and a half times. Sure, if it's the first time you've heard that point, considered that possibility, or looked from that angle, you'll be nice, but, that billion-51st time, you start getting miffed?

That's exactly how Service Dog handlers feel, when they've heard, "How mean! Make a doggy work," or, "What breed is that? Can I pet you're dog?"

Oh, my blessed Gawd! Wor-king dog! Well, gee, I don't know! Would you pet my wheelchair, because, he's medical equipment, you. . . I'm gonna be good. . . I'm gonna be good. . . You perfect little angel!"

Keep in mind, this isn't the first time said handler has heard these things, or, had to explain them, today alone.

"Ooh, I think I'll get my brownie points today! I've got the door for you."

"How do you think I opened it to get in here?!"

Is that close to how you feel when sex comes up?
 
And it's nice that you're, apparently, sexually normal, Calico. But it's not like that for everyone. I'm pretty dang certain that at 35 years old, I am not a 'late sexual bloomer', I'm asexual. XD If I were still fifteen or sixteen, I might think "Well, maybe." But even as a teenager I didn't understand those crazy crushes that girls/boys would get on singers/actors. I still kind of don't...because on a logical level your odds of being seen by said singer/actor are very small and even more tiny is that they'll think "Wow, I like that person! I better go talk to them!" Life isn't like a Hallmark movie where your idol sees you and says "OMG! BESTIES FOREVER!"

Actually I have a low sex drive because I won't suffer without it and I do fine without. I often don't feel like having it and I am not sexually active and I find it boring. I find other sex moves repulsive but I am fine with penises in vaginas since that is normal stuff but i don't want to do the other stuff nor hear about it or read about it and I don't enjoy porn. Maybe this is normal for women since I hear women tend to have low sex drives but I have seen women online who seem to be very sexual as men and can't go without.

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I honestly have not ran into any situations where people bring up sex and start talking about it. I thought sex was a private thing and no one's business. Do people actually just bring it up randomly like "How often do you have sex asexual?" "How many times have you had sex asexual?" "What is your favorite way to have sex?" or "Oh my gosh, I just had the best sex ever with my husband, we did bla bla bla, what about you?" Really, how do asexuals run into these situations if no one ever talks about sex? Perhaps it's cultural?
 
Hello Bobbilly
I get the feeling your situation isn't that much different than that of trans women... Most people don't got that one either. And attempt to explain that sexual prefferance and gender identity are two different things... The old brain pan freezes up like a crashing computer.
So... Yea. I sort of know what you're trying to say here.
Any way welcome to the group.
 
Calico said:
Actually I have a low sex drive because I won't suffer without it and I do fine without. I often don't feel like having it and I am not sexually active and I find it boring. I find other sex moves repulsive but I am fine with penises in vaginas since that is normal stuff but i don't want to do the other stuff nor hear about it or read about it and I don't enjoy porn. Maybe this is normal for women since I hear women tend to have low sex drives but I have seen women online who seem to be very sexual as men and can't go without.

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I honestly have not ran into any situations where people bring up sex and start talking about it. I thought sex was a private thing and no one's business. Do people actually just bring it up randomly like "How often do you have sex asexual?" "How many times have you had sex asexual?" "What is your favorite way to have sex?" or "Oh my gosh, I just had the best sex ever with my husband, we did bla bla bla, what about you?" Really, how do asexuals run into these situations if no one ever talks about sex? Perhaps it's cultural?

I don't know precisely where you are from, but when people get to know each other a bit, those social barriers tend to come down. Especially on a factory work floor. :p We've got eight-ten hours of nothing to do mentally. So we all talk. About all kinds of stupid things. And yes, we've had someone who declared on an extremely late Friday night that he was "Going home to fuck my wife, eat a snack and pass out. Hopefully in that order."

And after about six months of being out on the floor, you get to know just about everyone to the point that they'll bring it up. Could I turn literally everyone in to HR and get them in trouble or fired? Yeah, probably, but that would be a Dick Thing To Do. And I don't do that kind of stuff. It's kind of like the 'Bro Code', you don't go and do crap like that when you know it's just idle yapping. Now if I saw another female coworker being actually harassed by people trying to grope her? That's different and I will throw whoever is bugging her under the bus. The guys and gals know that they can say just about anything, but if you touch me, I will be angry. XD

I do want to clarify something for everybody though:

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, not the lack of a sex drive. You can get aroused, go have sex, and still be asexual because you don't actually get attracted to other people. This sounds stupid, I know, but it's the lack of attraction that is the defining feature. (And why it's an orientation in the first place. Having no interest is a viable stance!)

You have varying amounts of sexuality even within the asexual group.

You have demisexuals - they might want to have a sexual relationship with a person, but only if they get to know the person very well first. They don't get attracted to people and want to just 'hook up' or have a 'booty call'. You have 'gray-a's' or graysexuals - they experience sexual attraction, but it's either so rare or so low-intensity that it doesn't matter that much in their relationships. They can basically 'take it or leave it' (Kinda sounds like you, Calico! :3 ) You have the 'regular' asexuals who just don't get attracted to people at all, even if they have a sexual relationship with the person.

And in between you have all kinds of stances on the thoughts of sexual intercourse.

The ones, like me and Bobbilly, who are all "Ew. Gross!" and the ones who are like "Meh. Okay, if it makes you happy." and the ones who are like "Cool!"

So basically asexual doesn't mean you can't or won't have sex, it means you don't get attracted to people/objects/etc. You can look at the sexiest man/woman alive, standing there in your bedroom completely naked and feel nothing. Maybe go "Oh, well, you're aesthetically pleasing to look at." but more or less just go "Eh. Why are you in here?"

(I give my opinions through my own lens, that I'm asexual aromantic and have little use for sex. But other asexuals might disagree with me! :D I just wanted to make clear that it's a spectrum, much like Autism is a spectrum. Some asexuals might consider me more loose than they are because I'll laugh at people's dirty jokes and such. Others will get super offended at the mention of the word!)
 
Yeah, Calico, honey. Sounds like you're a, "tolerate your peas," asexual. On another thread, a guy said he tolerated sex, but, married for love, and every time he had sex, he felt like a trampoline, the poor man.
 
The ones, like me and Bobbilly, who are all "Ew. Gross!"

Yeah, I don't like that attitude because it sounds so childish and juvenile. I would rather hear "I don't want to hear about that, not interested." That sounds more mature and adult. No one is going to hear or see me say "ewwwww ewwww" over sex. I just don't read that stuff and not comment on it. If it was in a private chat I would tell them I am not interested in their sex life.

I still consider myself straight. I don't find myself attracted to people. I can find myself emotionally attracted based on their personality or if they have something on I like or have something I like or it could be because of based on our interest but I am never thinking "I want to fuck this man." That doesn't come until later like if we are dating. But I think lot of men would find me boring and be in a dead bedroom. Plus even if I were letting them fuck me, I would still be boring to them so I am better off with an asexual or with someone with a low sex drive or someone who can't often have sex due to a medical issue. I don't think that has anything to do with me not finding someone attracted enough or that I need to find a way to enjoy having other types of sex.

People have actually broken up or gotten divorced over sex. Sometimes people just stop being attracted to someone, not something we can all control. Another reason for a divorce because the sex gets bad once someone stopped being attracted. Everything else is good but the sex so it makes them miserable and makes their marriage fall apart. Just something I can't understand myself. I find sex overrated and find it's something you only do when you want to have kids. If the biological clock is ticking, that would be when I would want to have sex so my husband would know I was ovulating. But then after kids, there is no sex drive and I have a IUD so it's tough to tell if I am really a gray a or is this just normal woman stuff. But I just can't get myself to be sexually active when my brain is not into it. That is like me trying to get myself to like cars and read about them and know lot of detail when I have no interest in that. It would take effort. That was how school was for me if I had no interest in a topic in school, it was hard to study and read about it so I always blamed it on ADD. My mom claims she has that same troubles too but I don't think she means it the same way I mean it when I talk about it or else that would mean I am just lazy and didn't need to be on an IEP.


I had no interest in sex until I was 19 so I was a late bloomer. I knew when I was 21 I had a low sex drive but I knew I was not asexual since I will sometimes get a feeling I want sex but I never liked any other types of sex except for what we have to do to have kids. I never liked seeing animals humping either. In South park, I find it funny when people fuck or animals do because it's not real life. It was funny in one of the Scary Movie movies when animals were fucking while a news journalist was reporting something on TV. But that is just how I am about sex in fiction and reality. But if anyone makes it too graphic in their writing, I just skip it. Plus I am visual so I don't really need to see all these images. I am sure there are sexual people out there who also don't want to hear lot of details about someone's sex life and if they want to hear all that, they will turn to porn or erotic stories about it. I know my parents don't like hearing about other peoples sex life. My mom also doesn't like porn. But I know they had sex pretty often because I would hear their bed bounce a lot or feel the TV shaking every time we camped out in it. I never figured it out until I became an adult and then I felt disgusted because of the thought of my parents having sex but that is a normal feeling for all of us who are not into incest. But kids sure don't get traumatized for catching their parents or hearing them have it so I find it laughable when anyone suggests how a kid will need therapy for their parent wearing a diaper. My ex boyfriend had found his parents sex toys in their drawer when he was a kid and no trauma there. He also found rope too so he knew his parents must tie each other up in bed. Back then I doubt he knew but then figured it out as he got older.

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OP, I'm going to ask a question, with no negative judgement, whatsoever. I'm not pretending to know what you are, or trying to say you're any different than you say you are. Could you be objectum sexual, with diapers being your object? Based on some of your other posts, sounds like it. I'm not you. I don't know, and you may be, and, it sounds like you are, asexual toward people.


Not OP here but in my early marriage with my husband, he was very sexual despite having a low sex drive he says but to me it was still too much. I found it all boring to have it because I didn't want to just lay there and it was so boring. I used to just play my Nintendo DS in bed or 3DS and watch a video on TV and one day he decided I needed a diaper change so while he was changing me, he fucked me and then I enjoyed it and he said "I found a way for you to enjoy it finally, you get turned on by diapers and getting changed so that is how you can enjoy sex now, this will be your diaper change."

So I discovered I cannot enjoy sexual intercourse without diapers. This would be a problem in vanilla relationships and if the other person is not into diapers. They might want a woman to fuck with who enjoys it, not someone who isn't enjoying it and is just waiting for it to get it over with so they can resume their day and isn't treating sex like a chore.
 
Calico: You can BE 'straight' AND asexual at the same time. It would be referred to as "Heteromantic asexual". (Which is where people start getting confused as all get out, but the '-romantic' bit is who you find yourself attracted to.)

It's kind of like legos...you take the bricks and figure out how you want them snapped together.

And the phrasing of "Ew. Gross." is an exaggeration for the purposes of illustrating the vast differences between people's reactions. (Although some things would have me going "Ewwwwww. STAAAAHP.") In regular conversation I usually just say "TMI my friend! I don't wanna hear all your secrets!"

(And in the same vein of critiquing people's choices of words, I personally find 'fuck' to be rather over-the-top vulgar. *shrugs* Even at work I'll should "FROOT! FROOOOOOT YOU MAN!" Everyone laughs because it's such a bizarre thing to say and that usually breaks any tension.)

AVEN has a lot of rather good resources explaining this stuff. https://asexuality.org/?q=general.html You might take a look at it and see if it explains it better than I can.

(Also, in defense of my childishness...I AM an AB. :lol: Pretty sure at some point I stopped growing up.)
 
I guess I'm kind of grey-ace (and gay). I do enjoy sex when I'm in the right mood, but that mood doesn't happen very often and I would be perfectly content if I was told I would never be allowed to have sex ever again.
 
back when I was getting to collage they wanted to know if i was gay bi or straight, and i told them none and they where confused said it wasn't option on paper and probably didn't believe me. now a days I've figured I be lesbian but not attracted sexuly.
 
CuddleWoozle said:
So basically asexual doesn't mean you can't or won't have sex, it means you don't get attracted to people/objects/etc. You can look at the sexiest man/woman alive, standing there in your bedroom completely naked and feel nothing. Maybe go "Oh, well, you're aesthetically pleasing to look at." but more or less just go "Eh. Why are you in here?"

This is pretty much the most perfect description I've ever read!

I've never understood what being sexually attracted to someone means because I've never had it. I went to an all boys secondary school (11-18) and some teenage boys talk about girls a lot. Some people were gay of course, and most understood that because the attraction is basically the same thing but a different gender, but people just don't get not being attracted at all.
I remember one time on the school bus, this boy couldn't get his head around it and just wouldn't drop it. He'd say stuff like "Imagine you got home and there's the most beatiful model on your bed, horny, etc. Would you have sex with her?" and I'd think "Errr, no.... Why would I want to do that?". It didn't really bother me much at the time to be honest, just made me think less of him for objectifying women, but it gets tiresome after a while.

At university I found that the LGBT education actually mentioned asexuality. I already knew by then and 'came out' sometime in my first year. People were generally fairly accepting of it once you explain it, even if they didn't fully understand it, but my group of friends weren't overtly sexual. I found a few others while I was there. I think when there's a large enough pool of people the 'lads', and female equivalent, and their opposites tend to find their own groups that work. The LGBT society did include asexuals, bit it's a bit of an awkward fit with the rest of it.

I'm a (possibly bi-)romantic asexual myself. Maybe 80% straight or so, still figuring that bit out. I've only felt strong romantic attraction once in my life, I tend just to make close friends otherwise.
 
I feel the exact same way as the OP. I (privately) consider myself a "diapersexual", lol. As with everyone else in my life, I haven't explicitly disclosed my sexuality and no one has ever asked. Some people think I'm gay, but I'm just going to let them think whatever so long as I don't have to elaborate on the topic.
 
I had no idea that Asexual had such negative impacts! I consider myself asexual but from paranoia more then anything. Both my twin sister and both of my brothers have had bad relationships and to avoid the same disappointment I just stopped caring even though I know finding the right person the first time is rather rare and I feel like my all of kinks would prevent me from getting anyone too. There was also a few events in my life that I feel might have contributed but I’m not sure.
 
Zoran said:
I had no idea that Asexual had such negative impacts! I consider myself asexual but from paranoia more then anything. Both my twin sister and both of my brothers have had bad relationships and to avoid the same disappointment I just stopped caring even though I know finding the right person the first time is rather rare and I feel like my all of kinks would prevent me from getting anyone too. There was also a few events in my life that I feel might have contributed but I’m not sure.

Oh you'd be surprised at how many people are just like "!!! You can't be NONE. That's not an option!" XD And I'm like "It's always an option!" :laugh:

There is celibacy, too, which is different because it's like asexuality but it's when you -choose- not to pursue a relationship. Asexuals just never get the feeling at all.
 
CuddleWoozle said:
Oh you'd be surprised at how many people are just like "!!! You can't be NONE. That's not an option!" XD And I'm like "It's always an option!" :laugh:

There is celibacy, too, which is different because it's like asexuality but it's when you -choose- not to pursue a relationship. Asexuals just never get the feeling at all.
I agree it’s an option for sure but it sounds like I’m celibac(spelling?) since I did like girls in the past.
 
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