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Hi. We live in a not to big house with two kids. My wife know, and the kids are still not to grown up yet to even notice when I wear diapers. However the will eventually become older and more difficult to hide this from.

Anyone out there with teenage children? Do they know? Are you still hiding it? How?

As an incontinent, my teens knows about (and see) my diapers. They saree however little embarrassed if I talk about to often.


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I hid mine successfully from my kids for all the years they were living with us. My day off was Friday, so I could wear and use on that day while they were at school. The summer I couldn't because they were around.

I have bed wetting issues. I wear mostly only at night. My oldest of 3 is 9 years old. I don't *think* any of them know, if they do, they've never said anything or asked. I'd rather them not know, but not because I'm trying so hard to hide it. I think if my diaper wearing was only ab/dl, if probably work harder at hiding it all.

At this point, I keep my diaper stash in the back of my closet on a shelf behind some clothes. I throw my used in my bathroom bin which is sent away once a week. I sleep in just my diaper but keep shorts near by my need just in case I need to hop up for the kids suddenly.

I probably should try a little harder to keep things hidden, but this is life. At the end of the day, pads and tampons are not hidden either... And to be fair, I also have a bottle of lube, some condoms, a "toy" for my wife and some baby powder in my drawer next to my bed...

I don't think I can give you good suggestions. My oldest son is 3, so it's easy to hide. But I remember when he was younger, it was much easier.
So I think hiding the diapers will get more difficult if children get oder. And it depends also how your wife can or is willing to support you.
I usually wear at weekends only (hight). But I like to get up early and wear them until the children are awake. So I need my wife to look for the children until I could remove and throw away the diaper.
But she is not every weekend so helpful ;-)

I don't understand in hiding diapers from kids. This is what adds to the stigma on diapers. You are teaching them diapers is something to be ashamed of, especially if you have a medical problem. If you are just a ABDL, then that is different because it's either lie to them about why you are wearing them or don't let them see it at all.

I have three kids and the oldest is 13. I’m pretty sure none of them know as I am super careful with it.

My daughter knew i needed diapers. We never tried to keep them hid.

This I never truly understood. Why keep them hidden from your kids?

I guess if it were solely a kink thing then maybe that's best but for me I'd say the kink thing is actually in the minority. Yes it is a fetish but it's also for comfort, security, convenience, destressing and something that makes me feel a little kid like. All of which are not shameful things to be afraid of people knowing. I'd make no effort in hiding this from my kids. It would just make me feel like I am trapped in the closet with my hidden nappies gasping for air. Hiding them in MY OWN house would feel more shameful to me than them knowing. It'd be like I am insecure of who I really am and afraid anyone would dare find out.

I would teach my kids that we all have different interests and mine are these. You wouldn't hide your interest in fishing, hiding your rods, hook, line and sinkers in the closet terrified one day they'll discover it. So why hide nappies? It ain't alcohol and even that you'd let them know that you drink it and might I say probably keep it even less hidden and out of sight. So again I ask why hide it?

The longer you perpetuate the idea that nappies are something you must hide, conceal and be ashamed of, in the end it'll only damage you. Kids learn from the people around them. So teach them not to care and teach them why they shouldn't care and they won't.

SweetPrincess said:

This I never truly understood. Why keep them hidden from your kids?

I guess if it were solely a kink thing then maybe that's best but for me I'd say the kink thing is actually in the minority. Yes it is a fetish but it's also for comfort, security, convenience, destressing and something that makes me feel a little kid like. All of which are not shameful things to be afraid of people knowing. I'd make no effort in hiding this from my kids. It would just make me feel like I am trapped in the closet with my hidden nappies gasping for air. Hiding them in MY OWN house would feel more shameful to me than them knowing. It'd be like I am insecure of who I really am and afraid anyone would dare find out.

I would teach my kids that we all have different interests and mine are these. You wouldn't hide your interest in fishing, hiding your rods, hook, line and sinkers in the closet terrified one day they'll discover it. So why hide nappies? It ain't alcohol and even that you'd let them know that you drink it and might I say probably keep it even less hidden and out of sight. So again I ask why hide it?

The longer you perpetuate the idea that nappies are something you must hide, conceal and be ashamed of, in the end it'll only damage you. Kids learn from the people around them. So teach them not to care and teach them why they shouldn't care and they won't.

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I agree with you in principle. In practice though, if your kids know - especially younger kids - so too will the rest of the family, friends, kids friends, teachers, pastors, etc.

I’m fine letting my kids in on it, but I’m not wanting all the rest of the world to know. When my kids are older and won’t blab to the world, then they can know more about my private life.

cm90210 said:

I agree with you in principle. In practice though, if your kids know - especially younger kids - so too will the rest of the family, friends, kids friends, teachers, pastors, etc.

I’m fine letting my kids in on it, but I’m not wanting all the rest of the world to know. When my kids are older and won’t blab to the world, then they can know more about my private life.

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That's fair enough. I have thought about that myself. But I honestly wonder again why? Nappies are not bad and like I said if they were to blab about you snoring or getting gassy after eating cheese would anyone really care? No.

So again we are treating wearing nappies as something more serious than it needs to be. I reckon if your kids do tell someone most people will think the you just told the kid you like to wear for fun when you really just need to wear them and that they will respect and most likely not bother you about it. Or they'll just mind they're own business and not really care.

Do you really think a friend is worth having if they know this about you then defriends you? Do you really think a teachers opinion that you'll only ever talk to in parent, student teacher interviews should direct your life? Do you think a pastor that knows will try to belittle you? And if he/she does do you really think they are acting according to God?

I could go on. But you get the point. If we continue to give nappy wearing this "high risk" stigma people will only ever see it as that. But if we teach our kids it's not something to be ashamed of no matter who knows they'll take that information and pass it on that nappies are no big deal.

I can't hide my bed that has disney princess themed covers from any of those people you mentioned should my kids blab does that mean I shouldn't have a disney prncess bed? Or have princess posters? MLP paraphernalia? Until they are older and won't blab? Or do I just live my life and not give a care?

Just my thoughts. You are free to do whatever you feel comfortable with. But for me this is what I would feel most comfortable doing. I am sick of hiding something that really doesn't need to be hidden.

I too agree with the principal here, however, it's not quite that black and white. For one, Let me tell you from experience, kids talk about everything! That may not matter to some, but I would say, for most, that does matter. Secondly, for the average DL, this is far different than a hobby like fishing. Would you leave porn magazines, and sex toys sitting on your coffee table? No, certainly not. Would you leave a blow up doll during on the couch? Not a chance. Would you be open with your kids about how you like to stick condom covered bananas up you bum while playing with yourself? Never.

I am no longer ashamed of my love for diapers. I do have a night time need to wear, but it doesn't change my underlying attraction to them. While I don't go out of my way to hide them from my kids, I also am perfectly fine keeping it all in my bedroom. I'd perfectly content if they never knew, just like I'd rather never know when or how or where my kids masturbate (as long as they stay safe).

Do I care if my family or neighbors or friends etc find out? Some of them, yes, very much so. I'd really rather my coworkers or fellow members of my kids school board not know... Just as I could care less that they are into bondage or foot fetishes or whatever. Its no body else's business and simply has no place in those kinds of situations.

Hopefully this all doesn't come across harsh, I just mean to show that there are very good reasons to keep things in the closet when kids are involved.

srmousse said:

I too agree with the principal here, however, it's not quite that black and white. For one, Let me tell you from experience, kids talk about everything! That may not matter to some, but I would say, for most, that does matter. Secondly, for the average DL, this is far different than a hobby like fishing. Would you leave porn magazines, and sex toys sitting on your coffee table? No, certainly not. Would you leave a blow up doll during on the couch? Not a chance. Would you be open with your kids about how you like to stick condom covered bananas up you bum while playing with yourself? Never.

I am no longer ashamed of my love for diapers. I do have a night time need to wear, but it doesn't change my underlying attraction to them. While I don't go out of my way to hide them from my kids, I also am perfectly fine keeping it all in my bedroom. I'd perfectly content if they never knew, just like I'd rather never know when or how or where my kids masturbate (as long as they stay safe).

Do I care if my family or neighbors or friends etc find out? Some of them, yes, very much so. I'd really rather my coworkers or fellow members of my kids school board not know... Just as I could care less that they are into bondage or foot fetishes or whatever. Its no body else's business and simply has no place in those kinds of situations.

Hopefully this all doesn't come across harsh, I just mean to show that there are very good reasons to keep things in the closet when kids are involved.

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Yeah I get that kids talk about everything that's what I was addressing in my previous post and again who cares? I am not talking about sexual attraction aka fetishes that should be left private. But to address the "Would you be open with your kids about how you like to stick condom covered bananas up you bum while playing with yourself?" the answer is of course no, but I would still leave bananas lying around the house as I eat them too lol. That's my point. In that situation bananas could be used sexually or non-sexually. And we consider the non-sexual part quite appropriate in public knowledge "oh you like to eat bananas? nice".

I am not saying they should know "daddy is sexually aroused by nappies" they should know the non-sexual aspects so you don't have to hide your wearing of them. Like I said in my previous post, comfort, security, convenience and to de-stress are all valid non-sexual reasons. The same way you might crack open a cold beer to de-stress I might put on a nappy. We all have different ways we like to relax and we should respect each others individual choices. That's what you tell the kids.

Just because one is more socially acceptable to de-stress (the beer) than the other doesn't mean it should be shoved into the closet and padlocked fearful of it ever escaping.

You're right knowing that your teacher does sexually on the weekend is no ones business nor would I want to know but that's not what I am saying at all. Sexual fetishes are something you can keep private but nappy wearing in general for the many non-sexual reasons I have listed again is something people shouldn't have to hide as if it were heroin. It's not.

Like I said you're free to do what you wish. If you feel more comfortable hiding it that's your decision but for me I couldn't hide this from my kids. Regardless of who they may tell, It's who I am, it's what I like to wear. It's the truth and if they can't handle it well that's their problem.

You have two options. Either 1. Keep it a hidden secret at all costs. Do not tell them, keep them locked away, and add to the stigma of diapers being shamefull. All while also denying you the adequate time to wear them. Or 2, don't flaunt it, but don't hide it. Not if, but when they ask just down play it as not a big deal and something you need every now and again. They won't care about your diapers, and won't be as likely to go blabbing away your "secret".

I have children who are school age & I don’t think they know when I wear but I do worry because I have a diaper stash so large that it’s impossible to hide. When I lived in another state, I had a 5’x8’ storage unit that was filled with cases of diapers. I moved to a state with basements & in an effort to save $45+ per month to store diapers, I decided to store them in my basement. Most are in the boxes they shipped in (at least 20 cases) & some are in 6-7 large Rubbermaid containers. I know that eventually one of them is going to get curious & will open a box or container & I will be caught. Explaining how you like to wear diapers is one thing but explaining why you horde diapers to the point where you need an entire room in your house to store them...well...that’s probably gonna be a lot harder conversation.


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Thank you all for good feedback! There were many pros and cons mentioned here. I think we all know our own children best and how they will react. I do get the argument for just telling them and not letting it be a bigger thing than it is. Even if telling your children could be the same as telling everybody in your social network, it just comes to a point where you dont care who knows anymore. I also do get the arguments regarding privacy. We are all different regarding how big of a deal we see wearing diapers is, and I do think that many of us still consider this side of us a private thing and wanting to keep it that way.

Ask for me I`m just a randomly wearing DL. Wife is not very supporting, but it`s a OK when she`s not home situation. She often works late, which makes it work for me. And considering i just told her last month, I think she is still not over the "shock". As I have had over a 10 years long break (not telling her when we got together) I`m kind of new to this again.. Also considering as it tok me forever to tell my wife, I`m just not ready to tell anyone else at the moment and I know i`m letting the part of beeing ashamed getting the better of me.

That's a really good point you hit on Agomma. There is the initial shock value to telling kids about your need for diapers. If they find out at a very early age, then by the time they start school it will have become a non issue they likely won't even care to talk about it. Wait till they are older, and they're much more likely to share that shock value will the rest of the world.