I think it's a product of perception. I know you didn't mean to make Trevor feel like a weird one. When I first got here, neither did I.
"It's a what!? Oh, no, no, no. No boinking, no fetish," I thought.
I felt like a weirdo for not being sexual with this, and I understood, for some people, it was tied to sex, and that, I didn't understand. I realized one day, that the reason we're all classified the same, is, sex is a natural product of romantic love, and if I'm replacing sex, with this, well, that's odd, and no wonder it's called what it's called.
How many times have you heard someone say, "Dude, you married your mother," usually meaning that the poor guy married someone with all his mom's bad habits?
How many times have you seen women with absentee dads marry, "leavers," who saddle them with babies they don't help raise? Oh, you mean like her father didn't help raise her? That can work the same the other way around, where dads are left to raise kids, alone, of course.
Most of the time, mothers teach daughters how women in their culture behave, and sons, how it's okay for women to treat them, and fathers teach sons how men in their culture behave, and daughters, how it's okay for men to treat them.
The first people to love us, teach us the concept of love, thus, shaping our love maps, and, sense sex is the natural product of romantic love. . . Now, when something happens to one's love map, sometimes, how we show romantic love doesn't look like sex at all, and, when it doesn't, psychologists look at it, call it weird, and label it a fetish. It's not a bad word.