You're certainly not the only non sexual here. The thing is though, we, some of us, are comfortable with words that you don't seem to be. I'm non sexual with my AB/Little stuff, but, it's still a very strange, intense, interest. That's one meaning of the word fetish.
Let me see if this helps explain things. I have a best friend. We're thinking of caregiving for each other. I call him Bubba, and he calls me Sissy. That's brother and sister. We aren't relatives, just friends.
Now, that being said, if I let him care for me, I could never let anyone else, because, it'd feel like cheating. He's my Bubba, I'm his Sissy, and, we'll
never, ever boink, so, why would it feel wrong to let anyone else care for me? It's because of the depth of the love being communicated. I'm his, and he's mine.
"Here's me. I'm vulnerable, and slightly terror stricken you'll be upset I've used my diaper, or baby things, I'm begging you. Please don't yell at me. Don't hurt me. I'm trusting you."
"Yes, you are vulnerable. I can see your terror. I swear I won't hurt you. I won't yell. You don't have to do anything you're uncomfortable with. Thank you, for trusting me."
Take out every reference to diapers, or baby things. What does that sound like? Didn't hear me say boinking, did you?
That's because there wasn't any, but, it's okay if that's what it sounds like when you read it, because, the, "I love you," is just as deep, as if the pair were boinking each other's brains out.
It's tied to the giving, and receipt, of love. It's certainly how I receive love. At that point, boinking doesn't matter. That's why involving blood relatives in it feels creepy, even if you're not sexual with your AB/Little/DL stuff, rather sex is kept separate from it, or, just isn't there.
For me, if I do feel sexual, which, I could see happening after Little time, because, hey, I've received very deep love, I'd have to be out of my Little clothes, away from my Little stuff, and be given time to get into adult headspace, because the 2 are chalk and cheese.
If I'm with a guy I love, I'll give love however he receives it, but, it'd be nice to give back what was given to me, exactly as it was given to me.
OmiOMy said:
I see this as less of a kink and more of a lifestyle. It's completely nonsexual for me. I feel as though I may be in the minority with this.
Me too, I'm just also okay being thought of as fetishy and weird. I've made peace with it, mostly by adopting a definition that is in the dictionary, but, isn't the one commonly used. I don't
know that I'd ever feel all hot and bothered after Little time, as it's never happened. I just think it
could happen, because of the depth of what's being said. I could also see myself never boinking again, and being happy. Can you say test tube baby and sperm donor? The first, and last, time I boinked, was 13 years ago, for goodness sake.:lol:
OmiOMy said:
Honestly I've literally gotten bored with boinking so I get it. :laugh: I'd be happy if my next relationship was essentially just literally best friends who share a house and snuggles. If we want a kid we can adopt. . .
Oh, my gosh, me too! Hello, kindred spirit.