Honestly, I have an interesting way of looking at this.
If someone identifies as an AB later on in life or discovers the community and it genuinely appeals to them, then I am certainly not annoyed, if anything, I think it's a good thing. Who are you to say that someone who chooses to indulge or come out in a short period of time isn't a genuine AB? I maintain that reaching a point of acceptance regarding ones ABness takes time, for some it takes longer than others. I'm sure there are people on this very site who came to embrace and indulge their AB sides later on in life. It also seems to me that people who have held onto these desires for a longer period of time, take the first chance they get to express themselves and they often do so out of the blue and in a relatively short span of time. Furthermore, while I certainly feel I was born like this as well, I wasn't aware of that my entire life, it was only in hindsight, looking back at how long I've had these feelings and desires that made me come to the realization that I was a born AB. Who is to say that some of these same people that have earned your annoyance aren't the same? Maybe they are genuine ABs who just took longer to embrace this side of themselves and are just now deciding to do a deep dive at exploring/expressing it.
So, OK, say some other people discover AB by searching it up online, or learning about the community through other avenues and they suddenly decide, "hey that seems fun, I wanna try that", to be honest, I wouldn't bat an eye at that, the more the merrier I always say. Even someone who discovers this later on in life or someone who decides to participate on a whim, I believe, can still explore AB in a sincere fashion and eventually become a part of the community. In fact, I embrace willing exposure to the community and I like when people discover it for themselves, learn about it and participate, it broadens the way in which people view our community and the community grows a little more
I can somewhat see where you are coming from though. I will admit, some web presences on youtube and twitter seem to be phoning this in a bit or playing it up, it can come across as fake sometimes, more like a social statement as opposed to a genuine expression of oneself... but then again, sometimes people can be hard to read, just because they may appear to be phoning it in, that doesn't mean that's how these people view themselves or how they actually are. I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's hard to determine where someone is coming from when you don't really know the person.
My advice, avoid the people on social media and youtube that annoy you and take solace in the fact that even though people may hop onto the bandwagon out of nowhere, you are still a true-blue, bonafide, born AB
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