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    Default To tell or not to tell (my psychologist)

    I'll start off by saying I wasn't really sure where to post this. I'm not really an AB (except for slight tendencies), but this doesn't really concern diapers in themselves. Mods: fell free to move this as you see fit.

    So, the last couple of weeks I've been seeing this psychologist. I wouldn't normally ask this question as being a DL isn't something that doesn't really bother me, but allow me to elaborate:

    The reason I've been seeing a psychologist is because of what can best be described as panic attacks. Meaning that a few times a week I'm hit by a sensation of despair that lands me on my bed for several hours, often ending with me feeling so depressed I feel as if I have to throw up.

    Me and my psychologist have been trying to figure out why. So far we've covered the more obvious reasons that could be responsible. But as this has gone on for longer than any of the direct reasons we've decided that those probably aren't the core issue.

    He's asked me to pretty much write him a short self-biography in an attempt to find this core issue, focusing on things in my life that has caused me problems.

    That's were the question of telling him about my *B/DL side comes in. It's something I really like keeping to myself and have a hard time talking about. I don't have a problem with it being a part of me whatsoever, and as such I find it hard to believe it could have much to do with my panic attacks. On the other hand, I don't really know what could.

    I realize that few if any of you are psychologists yourselves and have deep insight into things like this, but any advice on the subject would be appreciated.

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    Mesmerale

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    Honestly, even if it isn't the cause of the panic attacks, it may have something to do with what is. (Fear of getting caught may result in anxiety which may be transferred to feelings of depression. Not that I know if you even fear getting caught, of course. Just an example.)

    And if it isn't, I honestly can't see how it would hurt to tell a good psychologist about it.

    So the question you have to ask yourself is: Do you think that your psychologist is a good enough psychologist to trust with that information?

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    Thunder

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    Well, with the whole Doctor-Patient confidentiality, I don't see what bad could come from it, it might actually help you out. But only do it if you really feel comfortable doing so.

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    If you are comfortable with telling him about it, I would tell him. You never know it could help him in the long run, when he is trying to figure out what is causing your panic attacks.
    Better to be safe, then sorry.

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    I started having panic attacks 10 years ago. It was job related and I understood that. At one point it got so bad that my wife called 911 because it felt like I was having a heart attack. I had trouble breathing with hyperventilation. I'll bet you've been there.

    Since it was job anxiety, that was the root cause. It eventually went away after the Christmas season was over, which was related to the job. It would return on occasions, and then it was like I outgrew it. Eventually I changed jobs.

    When I was 22 my mom caught me with my stash as well as some gay porn. Since the guys in the mag ranged in various ages (mostly teenagers like myself at the time) she wisked me off to a shrink. I also was having a psychotic break. I had to tell my shrink about liking and wearing diapers, etc. as well as liking males and having a relationship with my college room mate. It all went OK, because the shrink was a professional. He was a lot more concerned about my sex habits than the diapers. He thought I would outgrow them, and of course he was wrong, but that wasn't really important. The diapers were and are a strong part of my life. Though I felt very embarrassed waiting in the outer office with other patients, I survived.

    I think you have to surmise how much is your diaper wearing a part of you. Does it add to the anxiety, or does it diminish your anxiety. Both are important, and probably important enough that your psychologist should be aware. It is a part of you and your psychological makeup. After having said all of that, I am not a psychologist and this is nothing more than my opinion based on my past experiences. Maybe you should first establish a relationship with your psychologist and let things progress at a slower pace. You don't want to add t0 your stress and anxiety. You will know when it's the right time. I wish you the best.

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    Wow - I could have typed your exact post a few years ago. I ended up telling my psych, and she was understanding. I have mixed feelings over it today.

    At first she asked if it involved children, which I replied in the negative. Then she did research which ended up being alot of the stuff I've heard before on the web. The good part of it was that she kind of helped me pinpoint where my interest in diapers began. It was at the pre-verbal stage and apparently while my mother was lovingly changing me, my brain rightly so interpreted the action wearing a diaper as pleasurable. So here I am.

    Hope you can find some information that will help you.

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    I told my shrink, only after several years when I became fully comfortable wtih him. If there is a possability they are causing or adding to your anxiety you should bring it up as soon as you you feel able. I'd guess (just an uninformed opinion) diapering is a symptom not a cause though.

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    soren456

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    So, let the therapist make the connections. That's what he's trained to do.

    If you knew what's causing your panic attacks, you wouldn't need him, would you?

    But you've made no progress. In fact it sounds like you've wasted your time. So why not simply disclose who you are, and get on with the work?

    It may be that the DL stuff has no connection. But that's for the therapist to decide.

    You lose nothing by honesty, even in a therapeutic situation.

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    First off: Thanks for all the replies!



    Quote Originally Posted by dogboy View Post
    I started having panic attacks 10 years ago. It was job related and I understood that. At one point it got so bad that my wife called 911 because it felt like I was having a heart attack. I had trouble breathing with hyperventilation. I'll bet you've been there.

    Since it was job anxiety, that was the root cause. It eventually went away after the Christmas season was over, which was related to the job. It would return on occasions, and then it was like I outgrew it. Eventually I changed jobs.

    When I was 22 my mom caught me with my stash as well as some gay porn. Since the guys in the mag ranged in various ages (mostly teenagers like myself at the time) she wisked me off to a shrink. I also was having a psychotic break. I had to tell my shrink about liking and wearing diapers, etc. as well as liking males and having a relationship with my college room mate. It all went OK, because the shrink was a professional. He was a lot more concerned about my sex habits than the diapers. He thought I would outgrow them, and of course he was wrong, but that wasn't really important. The diapers were and are a strong part of my life. Though I felt very embarrassed waiting in the outer office with other patients, I survived.

    I think you have to surmise how much is your diaper wearing a part of you. Does it add to the anxiety, or does it diminish your anxiety. Both are important, and probably important enough that your psychologist should be aware. It is a part of you and your psychological makeup. After having said all of that, I am not a psychologist and this is nothing more than my opinion based on my past experiences. Maybe you should first establish a relationship with your psychologist and let things progress at a slower pace. You don't want to add t0 your stress and anxiety. You will know when it's the right time. I wish you the best.
    Thanks for that, dogboy. I hope you know how much your stories are helping people who are at a stage in life you've already been trough.



    Quote Originally Posted by soren456 View Post
    So, let the therapist make the connections. That's what he's trained to do.

    If you knew what's causing your panic attacks, you wouldn't need him, would you?

    But you've made no progress. In fact it sounds like you've wasted your time. So why not simply disclose who you are, and get on with the work?

    It may be that the DL stuff has no connection. But that's for the therapist to decide.

    You lose nothing by honesty, even in a therapeutic situation.
    A bit harsh in wording, but very true. The DL stuff is really a very minor part of me and I don't often think of it as something that affects the rest of me. Still, I guess it' a part nonetheless.

    The thing is that it's something that's really kind of hard for me to talk about with other people. Not because of shame, but because it somehow makes me very uncomfortable. It makes me feel extremely vulnerable in a way.

    But as you noted, I haven't really made any progress with my therapy sessions anyway, so I should just open up completely. however uncomfortable it makes me feel.

    Thanks for giving me an honest push there.

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