Is shaming a common tactic used by parents?

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I wish my mom had been so accepting, but she had a lot to deal with regarding myself. She discovered all in one day that I was gay and into diapers. She had searched my room looking for drugs, I guess, and instead, found gay porn and diapers. She sent me to see a psychiatrist....sigh.

I can remember when I was maybe six years old. We were going to have dinner with my aunt and uncle and my mom had insisted I wear my wool pants. I hated them because they itched me. Later we would find out that I'm allergic to wool. Anyway, I accidentally wet them in the bathroom. My mom was so mad that she gave me a spanking. The only other pants I had to wear were shorts, and she was mad about that too.

I think that back in the '50s, parents were anxious to get their kids potty trained because dealing with cloth diapers was a real pain.
 
both my parents know and do not care they say do what makes me happy my mom at first when i told her was shocked but understood my dad find out because me and him are friends on facebook asked about the groups i joined ask me why before i spoke he said the reason why i do it is because it is my prerogative and it makes me happy my younger brother know and is welcoming to it so does his girlfriend she is ok with it and my brother got me playdoh for my birthday when i buy diapers he does not care my cousins know and is cool with it my sisters know is cool about it but my other family members do not know and will never know but they do not want me to tell no one and never want me get taken advantage of because me having autism they will always look out for me and i am thankful for that i do feel bad for you guys for not having family who are jerks and loving you for what you are into
 
BabyTyrant said:
Just wondering if it's a common tactic that our parents use to try to get us to stop using diapers; my mom has tried the shaming tactic a few times in the past (I would try to hide my using diapers, but she would find them in the garbage and show me them and try to shame me with the whole "diapers are for babies" thing), but eventually gave up.

Thankfully she didn't make it worse by gossiping and talking to my other family members about it; she still doesn't like it, but we only live a decent life as we both hold full time jobs and pay bills, so I've never been in danger of getting kicked out and i usually dont have to pay much in "rent".
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Yes my mom tried diaper shaming me. I have heard of worse stories like parents going out of their way to tell others about it to humiliate the child so they will quit. I have heard of other worse ones like being kicked out, disowned, not paying for your school. Some will try and use blackmail to them to quit. "I am not helping you anymore until you quit wearing diapers."

But honestly none of this works, the kid will just get sneaky about it, perhaps divorce their own parents, have trust issues with them, it can also lead the adult child doing dangerous things. What if someone decided to be a prostitute or they start selling themselves online for money and becoming a sex worker because that is the only way they can make money to support themselves so they take advantage of horny men. Not something the parent would want but that is what it can lead to. Or what if the adult child gets desperate for a home so they end up with the wrong guy and end up being sold for trafficking. It can backfire big time on the parents. This could be why my mom didn't go any further.
 
Calico said:
Yes my mom tried diaper shaming me. I have heard of worse stories like parents going out of their way to tell others about it to humiliate the child so they will quit. I have heard of other worse ones like being kicked out, disowned, not paying for your school. Some will try and use blackmail to them to quit. "I am not helping you anymore until you quit wearing diapers."

But honestly none of this works, the kid will just get sneaky about it, perhaps divorce their own parents, have trust issues with them, it can also lead the adult child doing dangerous things. What if someone decided to be a prostitute or they start selling themselves online for money and becoming a sex worker because that is the only way they can make money to support themselves so they take advantage of horny men. Not something the parent would want but that is what it can lead to. Or what if the adult child gets desperate for a home so they end up with the wrong guy and end up being sold for trafficking. It can backfire big time on the parents. This could be why my mom didn't go any further.
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Yeah I've definitely been desperate for diapers before and have done a lot of "sneaking around".

I means it's not like you can ask for diapers or money for diapers, when you know your parents aren't supporting of it.

I still try to be "sneaky" about it by timing my orders (which I've found easy most of the time with ABUniverse), so that I dont get asked about it and hopefully avoid all awkwardness.
 
Starlight99 said:
I get that from my mother still. Between the fact that I wear diapers and the fact that I wear girl's clothes, I get chopped up at every turn. I've been called a faggot and a retard more times than I can count, and my mother doesn't care. The worst part is that it's not even a matter of acceptance. It's only that she loves hurting people, and the more that she can hurt you, the better for her. She just humiliated me in public yesterday, and as I tried to explain exactly how she hurt me (not because I wanted to discuss my feelings with her, but because I knew that if I didn't answer "Why are you crying?" on the tenth asking, she'd just keep going), she either denied what she said or tried to justify what she said. I don't even discuss my life with her, and I've never formally come out to her for that reason. She's found out on her own, and I don't discuss it with her because I don't want to be ridiculed. She has outed me to the whole family (and anyone else who will listen), and I've become the laughing stock of the entire state. So unfortunately, I know exactly how all of you feel. Part of me wishes that I can have an AB/DL child just so that I can support them and love them regardless.
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it sounds to me that for your safety and sanity it is time to make a clean and permanent break from your mother. the way you describe her she will always be hurting you--she is toxic. it is time to get away from the poison.
 
i talked to my cousin bobby about this thread and he said "you dont remember???" our moms used to do that all the time! he reminded me that at every family get together our bed wetting would come up, if not by someone else they would bring it up and tell everyone who would listen how bobby and greggy have totally soak the bed every night since (whenever). then they would turn to us and ask us if our pants were wet yet, and tell everyone about the latest wet pants episode. (i had to admit to bobby i do remember that happening a few times.) he then reminded me that when we had visiters at our trailer that when they were shown the house we had to show them our room, and forced to show them the plastic cover on the matrice, and pull that back and show the stained matrice. i very reluctantly had to agree that had happened.
i had almost forgotten those not happy times. oh well, i'll probably drink myself to sleep tonight.
 
I have had a bit of shaming from my father when he caught me 1 of several times. Now this all pretty much ended after the 3rd or 4th time because at the time I would assume my father looked it up. He just told me not to do it around him. Other wise he just doesn't want to hear about it haha. He's pretty chill. He understood me fairly well and is pretty clear that its not that big of a deal and tells me as long as I am not hurting my self or others do what ever makes you happy. He's always making sure I keep things at my house smell nice. And if not he lets me know. For the most part its pretty obvious he still thinks about it my diaper usage because for a house warming gift he bought me a set of scented trash bags haha. He also some times pokes at it but for the most part avoids the subject which is fine by me. I told him when I moved and when he comes over to stay away from certain areas for yours and my well being and he respects that. So its a pretty known thing but its not really something they talk about. I guess its better than being constantly shamed and being told its stupid.
 
That's truly awful ggreggy. Kids obviously don't deserve to be treated like that.

ggreggy said:
i talked to my cousin bobby about this thread and he said "you dont remember???" our moms used to do that all the time! he reminded me that at every family get together our bed wetting would come up, if not by someone else they would bring it up and tell everyone who would listen how bobby and greggy have totally soak the bed every night since (whenever). then they would turn to us and ask us if our pants were wet yet, and tell everyone about the latest wet pants episode. (i had to admit to bobby i do remember that happening a few times.) he then reminded me that when we had visiters at our trailer that when they were shown the house we had to show them our room, and forced to show them the plastic cover on the matrice, and pull that back and show the stained matrice. i very reluctantly had to agree that had happened.
i had almost forgotten those not happy times. oh well, i'll probably drink myself to sleep tonight.
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