What is the Best and Worst Thing About Being ABDL?

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So, if you have been here on ADISC for awhile, this is not something that is particularly new, but for others who are just figuring out their interests in being ABDL, it is a new thing and regardless of whether you have been aware of your ABDL side for a year or twenty years, it is a big deal.

What is the best thing for you about being ABDL?

What is the worst thing for you about being ABDL?

For me, this has changed with time as I have learned more about infantilism and being ABDL, as well as my experiences in life. If you asked me these questions when I was in college, they would be remarkably be different than today.

I will begin by giving my own responses and I hope that others may share and be honest in their posts. It is something that I think that can help ourselves as we answer these questions, and also help others as they work towards figuring out their own place in this community and interest....

The best thing about being ABDL for me is as I engage in this interest, it is something that is so deep within me, that as I express it, whether just in wearing a diaper or otherwise participating in ABDL behavior, it is being true to deep deep feelings within, and something that I simply enjoy doing. I feel that being ABDL helps me see the world through much clearer eyes than the fog that comes with the complications of adulthood. I am able to appreciate and enjoy the simple things in life, even as a child would. Seeing life through innocence and the raw beauty of its being, rather than the colder and complicated views of politics, society, and economic values. It just feels good to be me.

The worst thing about being ABDL for me is the fear of being ostracized if found out. I used to go through binge and purge cycles and hating myself for having these interests, but that is gone. I accept who I am and I am actually proud and grateful for being ABDL. I think I am a better person because of it. But the part that gives me angst is the lack of understanding of others surrounding this and the fact that it has to be kept hidden. There have been other posts on ADISC comparing being ABDL to being gay or transexual and the like. While this is completely different, it is also completely similar. I wish that my being ABDL was not something that needed to be hid. I wish that it was accepted in society and that I didn't have to fear if others knew about this. Rather than being something that is viewed by society as being abnormal, I wish it could be more widely understood and as a community being accepted event though different than what others may think.

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I hope that as others view this thread, they may be honest and share in the answer to these two simple questions. Perhaps in so doing, it may help all of us, or at least some of us who visit and participate in this site.

The best is being able to relieve stress via such a health and innocent means like diapers.

The worst is we are so misunderstood, even amongst ourselves, that we are ostracized and even oppressed for it.

Well, Teddy Bear Cowboy, you already said it for me. The best thing is knowing myself well enough to accept this bit of weirdness as just who I am. Yes, both my wife and I have struggled with that, but once I had a lot of time to consider it, the truth came bleeding through my pores. I learned that I just love the concept, including the secrecy & the childishness. I definitely the comfort of having this part of my body all wrapped up & secured. I love the convenience of having a choice than & where. Probably above all, I love how unique my DL makes me, in a world of lemmings, able to cope with being on the verge of discovery, and possible humiliation, but, yet, be fully capable of so much. I also truly appreciate how I feel about others that have these same inclinations, and those that must wear, due to adult incontinence, and/or those that had been forced to wear, as children. We're all one in the same, but completely different, if that makes any sense.

Just as a side, the worst things; having to deal with the complicated feelings you run across in your marriage, dealing with diapers, and, of course, leaks and rashes... BUT, I must say, rashes are almost non-existent, for me. I think my skin has just learned to deal with it, OR, I change often enough. Leaks are a small part of the business. Better choices & better products.

The best part for me is three-fold; 1, it relieves stress, 2, it allows me to return to a happier time and it helps me to forget about my adult problems and the weight of the world and 3, it has helped my self-esteem and has encouraged me to be more open, accepting and understanding of myself and others. For me, over time, I've come to discover that the positives of being an AB far outweigh the negatives. Being an AB is one of the purest parts of my being, it makes me happy, it makes me strong and it makes me a more caring and emotionally intuitive individual.

The worst parts are far and few between and they are always changing.

When I first started out, it was the fear that I would never be able to lead a normal life or pursue the same type of life that others lead (girlfriends, a place of my own, a higher education, a prominent career). Having gone through University, living on my own for 5 years and having a few girlfriends, most of whom were understanding of this side of myself to some extent, I now know that being AB doesn't mean I can't lead a normal adult life with all the fixings.

When I was first living on my own, it was the fear was of being caught, of a random fire drill happening when I was padding/padded up, having friends who I didn't tell about this side of myself coming over and stumbling upon my stash or worse yet having my packages of diapers and other AB paraphernalia stolen from outside my apartment door or from within the apartment mailroom. Well, suffice it to say, I've went from apartment to apartment in the last 5 years and I have been living in the same one for 3 years now and I haven't had any of my packages stolen nor have I been discovered or outed or ostracized in any way, I even wash my onesies in the communal laundry room.

Nowadays, I would say that the worst part tends to be the cost. AB diapers are expensive, especially on a student/part-time salary, the clothing and the toys can be pricy as well. I'm sure when I start working full-time as opposed to part time or when I find a solid career, this cost issue will cease to be the worst thing regarding my AB lifestyle/interests.

So yeah, there are many upsides and very few downsides as far as I'm concerned

For me the best thing is that im a happier person and have a better outlook of life , looking at the good in others instead of the bads

The worst thing was the binge/purge , it was horrible , but that was in the past , i have learn to accept myself now and yeah totally agree about to avoid getting found out.

For me the best part is the satisfaction I feel when participating in ABDL activities. The stress and good feelings that I have are wonderful.

The worst is the fact that I can't be as open to this as I would like.

The best part about being an ABDL for me would be finding joy in an unlikely source. Not many people find happiness from something like diapers. They're comforting, relieve stress, etc. Being ABDL really adds benefits to my life. Also, being a part of a really cool underground and niche scene where I've met some really cool and great people is also really cool.

The worst part about being an ABDL is that aside from the cool underground and niche scene mentioned earlier, everyone will reject you due to ABDL. It's not something that is understood or liked by the majority of people. People do not like ABDLs. While this doesn't matter for family, friendships, most people, since they just don't know. But as far as relationships, the one time where you generally aren't supposed to hide being ABDL, most people will reject you when they find out.

The best thing I think is the fact that something so simple can bring peace and happiness to me.

The worst is that it's so hard to find other people close by who get it, so it's largely solitary.

Now usually I don't mind it being solitary, but some days, you want somebody close to you.

I feel a bit like a parrot here, but I also feel like the best part about it is how it makes me a more calm and happy person. I can feel like the world isn't such a dark place, and I'm happy to have such a wonderful community of people that feels this way too. Also having something that isn't harmful to your mind/body like drugs or alcohol that has the same calming effect is a blessing in my mind.

But then the worst part, is that this is something I'm forced to hide. I don't want to go around everywhere in just a diaper and t-shirt or put other people out of their comfort zone, but since this is something that brings me such Joy and peace I hate that I can't so much as tell my closest friends, and I have to isolate myself while doing anything ABDL related. I'd love to be able to be little around my best friends and not risk losing them.

Best Part: Well, I've not been able to experience the best part for myself yet, I mean I could say about wearing and the feeling of wearing but to me part of the experience is the little time stuff which I can't really do too much of on my own.

Worst Part: Fear of being discovered by someone so ill informed that they'd think I was some kind of pedophile. Having to actively hide it and the awkwardness that comes when someone makes a comment at a check out line.

I don't know about best part, but the worst part is definitely the abject feelings of loneliness and despair that stem from having no one to tend to me; the tearful nights spent with not much more than a pacifier, diaper, and stuffed animals to offer any comfort.

I'm essentially a human version of one of Harry Harlow's monkeys.

I would say the best part for me is being able to wear diapers wherever when ever for convenience

My worst part would be the fear of having someone find out I'm wearing and not having a normal "socially acceptable" excuse. I am getting to a point where i care less and less if people were to find out but I still do my best to hide my diapers

Best part: having an outlet for stress relief that is as simple as wearing a different pair of underwear, and reliving moments in the past that might have been better times, or reconnecting with the younger self and asking "why'd you suddenly stop?" [in reference to hobbies and the like not wearing itself. For me it was Legos.]

Worst part: The secrecy you have to keep under your own roof, and even other people because they wouldn't get it, and there's such a huge stigma. Then again I have a lot of my life a secret, so it's not too hard.

The best is I can get a constant source of positivity with regard to my incontinence problems, the support communities are just plainly better when they're happier, and the purely medical ones just make one feel awful to go to them.

The worst is that awkward moment when you're scrolling through tumblr, you follow several ABDL blogs because they post cute or fun stuff most of the time...and this post is cringe-y porn and you have to unfollow them.

Best: is feeling cute and / or relaxed wearing a diaper and doing babyish things without much care

Worst: Scrutiny, people don't understand and think it's much worse than it is

The best thing is being able to find peace by disassociating myself from the rigors or adulthood. I don't feel like I need much outside of myself to keep myself happy. It's a very healthy form of stress relief I feel. Like others have mentioned, I feel like I'm being the truest and most pure part of myself. And I can honestly say not much has ever fired as much dopamine as being able to get into little space successfully whether by myself or with a caretaker. It's like I'm on another world. And I wouldn't ever give that away.

The worst is when I'm unable to connect with my little side for one reason or another. I get frustrated, irritable, and stressed out. I feel frustrated and isolated because I don't really have anyone to talk to about this stuff outside of the internet that truly understands. It's taboo, I know it is. And feeling the need to censor that part of myself because it isn't "normal" is draining. And I'll admit, sometimes it does get in the way of some things, namely making and maintaining friends outside of the ABDL/Little circle.
Other than that though, there's not much else it affects. No issues maintaining a job or responsibilities or anything like that.

Best thing - the comfort, freedom and pleasure of wearing nappies.

Worst thing - having to make the effort to hide it from certain people or aspects of your life.