Raylynn said:
So I am a CD and also abdl. My wife now knows everything about me. I have told her I like the idea of a cuck relationship. She said it's not gonna happen anytime soon because of trust issues. She has caught me several times looking on Craigslist and other email accounts. So I get it. But her fear is if I get to be involved with another guy, she is afraid I'm gonna leave her cause I like men better. Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this? She told me she is tired of me pushing the subject. However it's something I want to experience and don't want my urges to get the best of me. Any advice?
Ummm.... Some questions here.
If you are looking for a cuck relationship, that would insinuate that you are wanting your wife to be unfaithful to you, right? I mean being cuckold is about having one's partner choose someone else over you and you are watching or being there and either humiliated as being the less than desired partner, or that the person your spouse is choosing is stronger, more masculine, or more fulfilling than you are.
This fantasy is something that is not uncommon, but I truly believe is unhealthy. First of all, if this is your fantasy, and not mutually hers, then there are some serious problems going on here.
If this is not a shared interest, and you hope for a continued relationship with your wife, then you need to drop this, and do so immediately! A partnership with a spouse is just that, a partnership. While their is no harm in asking your partner if they want to engage in a fantasy of yours, if the answer is no, then you need to be likewise respectful of her and try to find ways that you can engage in your relationship that is not one-sided. Marriage is not about one partner giving in to the other. It is a partnership where both hopefully are able to obtain the relationship and satisfaction that they desire.
If you want to be cuckold and your partner does not want to have a relationship like this, then it isn't going to work.
You have then to decide whether your love for this person is more than just these desires (which I hope they are). Cuz if you are married and did not share this part of yourself and then need to have this to be fulfilled, then you really were not being honest with your wife. That was and is not fair to her.
I hope that you can find a resolution to your situation. But ultimately, if you need to be cuckolded and your wife is not into this, then this relationship was not meant to be.
I wish you the best in your endeavors.
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LittleSissieJolie said:
Also, the "others" would probably not to be a part of a committed couple or a committed threesome or ... There's a short thought from the Mormons where a husband tells his wife that he intends to add a wife. Woman has the final say in such a marriage. Wife say no, you live with it. That's the official rule and I bet there are a few who abuse the system. The Church says the woman responded after a period of reflection, goes to her husband and says "OK, let's go meet OUR new wife". Which is a really fast way to an assumption that you're wanting a three or more way marriage. Which is a mental and sexual mine field. What if, and the world is filled with Wadiffs, what if she picks who should be the third with out any input from you? Where SHE goes through the local polygamous lists, indexes, swing clubs, or just picking somebody from Craiglist... make it sight unseen? And are your current picks really wanting to share you or themselves in such an arrangement? She's probably a little bit shell-shocked right now.
Any new decisions on Your behalf are going to be postponed and probably long time for her to make the next move. And if you want to be used as a girl, there are devices your wife can do it. You've given her a lot of emotional stress, which she actually accepted. If she wants to be the Mommy or husband, cool. You got a score right there. Let HER be the absolute boss of the whole relationship. It's her move. Take it as a win and don't try another move on your own or the move she makes might be "out". It's mighty rare for women to accept a guy wanting to be her baby or her wife. She has, at least she didn't run away screaming. dogboy and AdorableRabbit told it right.
Ummm... LittleSissieJolie... Just where in the ^*()*&#! do you get this so called information about what a "Mormon" would tell his wife???? Knock this crap off!! First of all, if you looked at your history, you would find that while polygamy was practiced for a very short period of time, it has been something that is not only shunned, but a reason for excommunication from the religion for almost a century. While there are splinter groups that still are engaged in such practice, they are not "Mormons" anymore than groups that have broken off from the Catholic church, Lutheran, Baptist, or any other religion are still part of that congregation.
While I appreciate your comments in the interest of sharing a point with the O.P., I found this interaction not only offensive, but quite untruthful, as "Mormons" do not practice polygamy and have not done so for many many years.
I get the point that you were trying to present, in that if there is a "threesome" is should be consentual among all three individuals. And I agree. If you want to involve a third party into a relationship, then all three individuals need to agree as to how this is and what it means. Just because one or two think this is ideal, if the third party does not, then it should not be. End of story.
But knock off the references to religion when this is not the case. The OP's post had nothing to do with religion that I can tell, and this is not the place to be posting such.