First and foremost, let me say that I'm making this thread with the intentions of venting rather than whining/complaining. I've found that sometimes there's an extremely fine line between the two categories. I really have come to believe that venting is a really helpful and important aspect to life (as long as it's done in moderation), but that coming across as a complainer really just spreads negativity and makes everyone feel worse.
So let me say...I'm just letting out some feelings here, I'm not trying to bitch about my life. I feel like I'm one of the most fortunate people I've ever known, I have an overall very happy life, and in the big picture I have nothing serious to complain about. I also know that these feelings will pass, maybe even within the next hour or so. But this community is so great for sharing things, and I feel like posting it when it's on my mind.
I'd also ask that this be a positive thread rather than a negative one. Sometimes I've noticed people have posted some personal feelings and others have kind of jumped on them and said "Well, if you simply go out and do this, that'll fix things and it's as easy as that" (paraphrased, of course ). I'm not sure, but I honestly think that everyone has felt some of the things I'm going to mention (especially as *B/DL's), and I think the great thing about a community like this is we can help each other out, share ideas, and make each other feel better.
Overall I'm a loner...and I would say 90-95% of the time I'm much happier that way. I'm definitely more comfortable when I'm by myself and have freedom, and I've also found out that it makes me enjoy and appreciate time spent with friends, coworkers and family even more. It's when I spend extended amounts of time surrounded by others that I start getting restless and uncomfortable. And for the most part, I've reached a point of major satisfaction and peace in life from all of this.
However, every now and then I'll be hit by a burst of loneliness. The funny thing is that when it hit me tonight, it was much more of a mental thing than a direct social thing...I think I just got a sudden wave of feeling like I have no one that feels the same way I do about certain personal thoughts. It's like I'm in a particular position and I feel like I can't engage someone else in the discussion without an uncomfortable disagreement occurring (I'm sorry for the horrible vagueness here).
I think what's so interesting is that a lot of very social people can actually feel this form of loneliness as well. It's the flip side to being unique...it's awesome to know that no one else is like you and you can be your own person, but it can also be a bummer when you feel like you can't relate to anyone. I would say most, if not all of us, felt this way about our *B/DLism before we realized there were others like us.
I hate to use the stereotype of teenagers having the mentality "No one understands me!" (even though I do think this is a process that most people, including myself, go through during adolescence), because I think we all feel that way sometimes. And sometimes telling people, especially in a community like this, those feelings helps alleviate them.
So anyway...I was hoping that this could be a thread where people could just let out any feelings of loneliness that they've felt lately (or in the past).
I also would like it if people can say what they do when they're feeling lonely to make them feel better (and like I said earlier, I hope this can be a positive, constructive process, not things like "Go out and live your life.") Because as I mentioned earlier, I think at some point or another we all feel lonely in some fashion and it's nice to feel support.
See, I actually feel better already just by typing this out.