Don't beat me up for not being incontinent, and adding something here, but as I read some of the messages from people that deal with pads, I'm curious why none of you mention wearing/using MULTIPLE PULLUPS at once, being able to rip off (the sides of) a used one in a toilet stall, fairly stealthily, and go on with the day? As a DL, I find I can get through a typical day of limited wetting, combined with using facilities, as some of you mention you do, and my biggest issue is just getting from the toilet stall to the garbage can, with a rolled up pull-up. Usually, I just tuck it up under my arm, and act fairly nonchalant when heading over to toss it. As for double pullups being noticeable, I'd say, not if you wear good quality, snug fitting ones, not store bought, and you wear the right clothing over it all.
My typical "double" setup used to be two Depend RealFits, one worn over the other, with a plastic pant over them, and a tightey whitey over it all. The TW keeps things fairly snug. The advantage to this setup is that you can walk right up to a urinal, pull the front of the whole setup down, and use a urinal, too, if you have that level of incontinence. This method allows you to gage when you need a change, and hit a stall, but use the pullup, or a urinal to extend yourself, between changes. This has been working for me for over four years, and, believe me, I'm in close contact with others in my truck, and truck stops, all day long.
Just curious if anyone has tried my method?