Telling my brother , so I can continue wearing freely.

So, a long while ago, my brother had snooped through my room and discovered my diaper fascination. He kinda would throw it in my face every once in a while, but mostly is keeping it to himself.

So currently he is in jail and going to be released in mid November. I live in a small studio, not much space or privacy, and the plan is for him to move in with me to hopefully get back on track with his life. The problem I'm having, is giving up my freedom of wearing diapers 24/7, which I've been doing for several months.

I've been thinking of just being completely open with him, and he can live with me and accept that, or go his own way. I would of course keep it as private as possible. I should mention we are only 21 months apart, and pretty much each other's best friend, and almost inseparable. I strongly believe that this will go my way.

Despite him already having an inkling of my diaper wearing, I am still having a hard time getting myself to fully open up about it.

Thanks to anyone who reads this, and thanks to the whole community, as I read a lot of the posts on here for guidance.

Well, I would think that it is your place and you should feel free to live as you want, but what if he tells the rest of the family?

What would the fallout be if he went and talked to the rest of the family about it?

I've had a roommate for awhile and it seems that by doing that you're voluntarily surrendering a little bit of your privacy, it's just a necessity. As for exposure, I think at that point you wander into the "try to avoid unnecessary exposure to someone that doesn't want it" territory. Look at it this way, would you like him to be walking around the house naked frequently? Probably not. "cover that up, huh?" Same thing with the diapers, show a little modesty when he's around, I think that's just being considerate. I don't think he'll have a problem with your wearing diapers under clothing even all the time. If you're sitting in your room playing on the computer in just a diaper and tshirt and he walks in, well now he's in your personal space (not the "common space" of like the living room / kitchen) and if he doesn't like your diaper (or naked or whatever) then that's his problem not yours. So you don't have to give up "no pants day" in your entire house, just in the common areas when he's around. Just be respectful.

(I'd also avoid the "if you don't like it you can just live somewhere else" - pressuring someone like that when they're in limited circumstances will not be appreciated even if agreed to)

Well I am not really worried about him telling the rest of my family, because he already has knowledge of me wearing diapers. He could have told them by now, yet he hasn't as far as I know.

Your house, your rules. I agree you should be respectful of him and be as discreet as you can without going too far out of your way. If you're willing to throw onca pair of comfortaple shorts or sweat pants, then it's natural to expect him to be discreet about your diapers as well.

Tell him just that. You won't go around in just a diaper and tee shirt, and he doesn't go around telling everyone you wear a diaper. If he breaks your trust in that, then yeah he can go find someplace else to live.

Ps. I HIGHLY recommend you write up a loose contract. Nothing too specific, just what's expected of him and what he will get in return. Also set a realistic move-out date for your brother (which can be extended at your discretion). If you don't, then the two of you could end up hating each other a year down the road when he is still living with you, rent free, as your resent him for stifling your diaper time and eating all your food. Hope for the best, but always plan for the worst.

Good advice from Slomo!

Living with relatives

A few things concern me. First is living with a relative. I had my adult nephew live with me for a while after a DUI, and His girlfriend kicked him out. He knows I am diapered and it was not an issue. However, It was horrible. He was rearranging my stuff, using my toiletries, eating my food. This was a mild annoyance. But, he had no income, didn't look for a job, and became a bum. Also, his friends would come over and drink my beer and smoke pot. I am drug free and do not want it in my house. I noticed some of my stuff would go missing when his friends were over. I tested this by leaving a twenty and some change in a basket were I left my keys one night when they were over. I went to take a shower and at 11:00 PM told them to go home. The money was gone. Fed up I told my Nephew to get out in one week. He left in two. I took a long time for us to talk again.

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A few things concern me. First is living with a relative. I had my adult nephew live with me for a while after a DUI, and His girlfriend kicked him out. He knows I am diapered and it was not an issue. However, It was horrible. He was rearranging my stuff, using my toiletries, eating my food. This was a mild annoyance. But, he had no income, didn't look for a job, and became a bum. Also, his friends would come over and drink my beer and smoke pot. I am drug free and do not want it in my house. I noticed some of my stuff would go missing when his friends were over. I tested this by leaving a twenty and some change in a basket were I left my keys one night when they were over. I went to take a shower and at 11:00 PM told them to go home. The money was gone. Fed up I told my Nephew to get out in one week. He left in two. I took a long time for us to talk again.

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Exactly why I said the OP needs to write up a contract of what's expected (look for a job to start with), and have a move out date pre-determined. His brother will have no reason to look for a job otherwise, will push the boundaries of what's acceptable, and generally become a PITA.

I agree

Mickeymic said:

A few things concern me. First is living with a relative. I had my adult nephew live with me for a while after a DUI, and His girlfriend kicked him out. He knows I am diapered and it was not an issue. However, It was horrible. He was rearranging my stuff, using my toiletries, eating my food. This was a mild annoyance. But, he had no income, didn't look for a job, and became a bum. Also, his friends would come over and drink my beer and smoke pot. I am drug free and do not want it in my house. I noticed some of my stuff would go missing when his friends were over. I tested this by leaving a twenty and some change in a basket were I left my keys one night when they were over. I went to take a shower and at 11:00 PM told them to go home. The money was gone. Fed up I told my Nephew to get out in one week. He left in two. I took a long time for us to talk again.

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He'd be out of my house in about 20 minutes. Just my 2 cents worth. Not two weeks, 20 minutes. "You have 20 minutes to get your stuff and be out of this house." Don't be a doormat, word gets around and it will just get worse. Mooches are drawn to doormats like flies to honey.

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He'd be out of my house in about 20 minutes. Just my 2 cents worth. Not two weeks, 20 minutes. "You have 20 minutes to get your stuff and be out of this house." Don't be a doormat, word gets around and it will just get worse. Mooches are drawn to doormats like flies to honey.

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By law, you can't just throw a room mate out on the street. Everyone, even semi-permanant house guests who pay no rent, are supposed to get at least 30 days notice or they can actually sue you (in spite of why you threw them out).

Again, this is why the OP needs to pre-set a move out date.

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By law, you can't just throw a room mate out on the street. Everyone, even semi-permanant house guests who pay no rent, are supposed to get at least 30 days notice or they can actually sue you (in spite of why you threw them out).

Again, this is why the OP needs to pre-set a move out date.

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If you've had a friend stay over for a few nights, there's no need to evict the person -- he's not legally a tenant. In California and most other states, however, if someone has lived in your apartment for 30 days or more, he's considered a tenant even if he never signed a lease. This means you can't just ask him to leave. He has the right to stay, as long as he's living up to whatever verbal agreement he made with you about paying rent and other responsibilities, or be filed with formal eviction paperwork.

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(http://homeguides.sfgate.com/evicting-people-not-lease-apartment-55648.html)

That's the key. And although eating your food in the fridge may not be an exception, outright theft is. Being safe from clear theft is easily shown to be an implied agreement.

you need to find out if the person has started receiving mail at your address. If they have, the police will be less likely to get involved, since the person has officially made the home their residence. If they have not, it may be as simple a matter as asking the person to leave and, if they refuse, to have the police escort them out of the property as a trespasser.

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(https://www.hg.org/article.asp?id=31766)



This site goes into more of the subtle details of who is and who is not considered a "tenant", and how that makes a difference: https://www.lawhelp.org/dc/resource...s-and-other-unwanted-occupants-from-your-home

He's your brother and you like him. Family ties are special. I do not know your exact details but for me I would tell my ex-con brother that I am inviting him to live with me for the next several months until he can find a place on his own (unless you want him to live with you with no time period). Mention straight up that you also have your own personal life and it is private to a certain degree and what happens in the home stays in the home. If he wants to know more details that is your call to tell him (if he already knows about your DL lifestyle tell him again in a general matter and ask him for discretion on this). You have your own place now where you can enjoy the DL freeness; he should respect that.

Good luck! How are you feeling about telling him? I hope all goes well for you.

He gets out of jail in 6 days. I'm very scared to reignite the subject with him. But sort of agreed to allow him a place to live with me already. I don't want to cease wearing a diaper.

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He gets out of jail in 6 days. I'm very scared to reignite the subject with him. But sort of agreed to allow him a place to live with me already. I don't want to cease wearing a diaper.

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Just remember, it's your house and your rules. He will be your guest, and has no right to disrupt your life while you're trying to help him out.

Be firm but fair with your brother. Lay down the rules, and include he isn't to give you a hard time or gossip about your diaper wearing. Don't forget to include he looks for a job, and will move out by X date. And in return he gets to live with you rent free till then.

So I am able to communicate with my bro using a Telemate app and I can send messages using text. I jumped off the edge today and used the message feature to open up my private life 100%. He has known about my diapers but I never acknowledged it. In the message today I blatantly told him that I wear a diaper and if it will be a problem then move somewhere else. His release date was postponed 45 days so I guess I had more time to ponder telling him outright. He wasn't able to read the message revealing my desire because I sent it to late so I am excited about tomorrow to read his response.

Thanks again everyone for guidance and understanding.

How did your brother respond to your message?

He didn't mention anything in any replies. As if he just "doesn't know" . I have thought about bringing it up more if I could think of a reason to do so. I kinda liked the rush feeling and relief that came over me, so if anytime I can reignite the subject I plan on doing so. But all in all it went pretty close to how I assumed it would go.
More things to come once he is living with me and diapers start appearing in the trash etc.