Just a friendly bit of advice. You need to be careful calling people deragotary names. Especially given how so many of us here have been outright persecuted in the past.
Not even half of the people here consider abdl as being even remotely sexual in nature, or a perversion. It is SO much more than just underwear to us, and it is SO much more than a self soothing means. This is an integral part of who we are, and calling us sick for being who we are is every bit like calling a gay person sick for being gay.
And quite frankly, if you truly believe being abdl is sick, that we shouldn't be allowed to include our significant others in our lives- our full lives, or that this is nothing more than a self soothing perversion, then you seriously need to get some help. This is not the only thread where I've seen you projecting your own insecurities onto others in a hurtful way, and I will not stand to see it agan.