To put it simply: I need boyfriend advice.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple years now. He’s really sweet and nice and I love him as much as I am able. We don’t do sex but he is at least tolerant of that. He compliments me and seems to think the world of me. I know he loves me a lot. We talk to one another really easily too, for the most part. We share many interests so we always have something to discuss or debate on. Sometimes its serious discussions, sometimes its joking around, and sometimes he gets cheesy or sappy. He knows a lot of things about me that I don’t tell other people too such as the majority of my childhood until I moved out. He knows I’m pansexual and that I don’t use female pronouns. There are things that I haven’t gotten the courage to tell him though. Some things I’m still confused about, such as what gender I really am or if I am an AB or Little. Some of these things I tell myself that I will tell him when I know for certain what the answer is.
Then there are the things that I have an answer to but fear possibly being judged or left for. I have a massive distrust of people and rampant paranoia, so the likelihood of those things happening is probably much lower than I think, still that doesn’t stop the terror and panic from taking over when I consider discussing those things with him. The one I want advice on is, of course, the one to do with the purpose of this site. The fact that I wear diapers. I’ve considered telling him before. I’ve even been wearing them many times while present around him, discreetly of course. He has not noticed and if he did he never said anything. He’s been accepting of everything else about me and I was hoping that when I eventually told him he would accept this too, but something recently has made me doubt that. Him, a few other people and I went to a costume event recently and while we were there I noticed a man that went to the event dressed as a baby. I mentioned it to him later when everybody was talking about the costumes we saw in order to gauge his response to see if it was positive or negative. Everybody seemed pretty disgusted by the idea of a middle aged man in diapers so I switched tactics and remarked that I’ve seen high school girls on Halloween dressed as babies too. He seemed to consider it for a moment as potentially attractive before somebody else went “Oooh?” at him and he snorted and said he was joking and that diaper fetishes were gross. So, now I’m dreading potentially telling him even more and for the most part I am determined to avoid doing so. The problem is that it may not be avoidable in the near future. I’ve been having bout of incontinence here and there as well as some other issues that I will also need to be discussing with a doctor. In the best case scenario all of those issues will get fixed and I will not have to worry about it, but in the second to worst case scenario it gets worse until diapers become a necessity and telling him is unavoidable.
What are your thoughts on his reaction to my questioning and what do you think I should do?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple years now. He’s really sweet and nice and I love him as much as I am able. We don’t do sex but he is at least tolerant of that. He compliments me and seems to think the world of me. I know he loves me a lot. We talk to one another really easily too, for the most part. We share many interests so we always have something to discuss or debate on. Sometimes its serious discussions, sometimes its joking around, and sometimes he gets cheesy or sappy. He knows a lot of things about me that I don’t tell other people too such as the majority of my childhood until I moved out. He knows I’m pansexual and that I don’t use female pronouns. There are things that I haven’t gotten the courage to tell him though. Some things I’m still confused about, such as what gender I really am or if I am an AB or Little. Some of these things I tell myself that I will tell him when I know for certain what the answer is.
Then there are the things that I have an answer to but fear possibly being judged or left for. I have a massive distrust of people and rampant paranoia, so the likelihood of those things happening is probably much lower than I think, still that doesn’t stop the terror and panic from taking over when I consider discussing those things with him. The one I want advice on is, of course, the one to do with the purpose of this site. The fact that I wear diapers. I’ve considered telling him before. I’ve even been wearing them many times while present around him, discreetly of course. He has not noticed and if he did he never said anything. He’s been accepting of everything else about me and I was hoping that when I eventually told him he would accept this too, but something recently has made me doubt that. Him, a few other people and I went to a costume event recently and while we were there I noticed a man that went to the event dressed as a baby. I mentioned it to him later when everybody was talking about the costumes we saw in order to gauge his response to see if it was positive or negative. Everybody seemed pretty disgusted by the idea of a middle aged man in diapers so I switched tactics and remarked that I’ve seen high school girls on Halloween dressed as babies too. He seemed to consider it for a moment as potentially attractive before somebody else went “Oooh?” at him and he snorted and said he was joking and that diaper fetishes were gross. So, now I’m dreading potentially telling him even more and for the most part I am determined to avoid doing so. The problem is that it may not be avoidable in the near future. I’ve been having bout of incontinence here and there as well as some other issues that I will also need to be discussing with a doctor. In the best case scenario all of those issues will get fixed and I will not have to worry about it, but in the second to worst case scenario it gets worse until diapers become a necessity and telling him is unavoidable.
What are your thoughts on his reaction to my questioning and what do you think I should do?