Justo said:
1. What is the easiest fold/way to use a flat cloth nappy? I tried a few but couldn't get it tight
2. I had a dream about putting in a Cath. It was (part of a 'need to go' dream) I've never dreamt about it or done it. What is it like? Can it do harm to try it?
1. Probably the butterfly fold. Just twist the diaper in the middle to create an hour glass shape, then pin it on. It's not the most comfortable fold though, so do an image search online for cloth diaper folds to see other methods.
2. (thousands?) Of people self cath every day, so it isn't as big of a deal as it's made out to be. You need to stay as clean as you can with inserting it, as this is the most likely time to induce an infection. You can buy them online, either intermittent (single short use), or folley (has a balloon you inflate with water to keep it in long term).
Cor some it can be somewhat painful inserting it, even with plenty of lidocane lubricant. For most is burns a little inserting it, but the burning goes away within an hour. Once in, you have no need or feeling of peeing, and will constantly drip pee no matter what.
Most prefer to connect the catheter to a leg or belly bag, which keeps it a closed system and less likely to get an infection. However, with a constant drip always flushing the catheter out (by staying well hydrated), you can also just let the catheter drain right into a diaper. IF you are prone to infections anyways though, this is not recommended.
Not needing to ever pee is a very freeing sensation, as is being pleasantly surprised to find you diaper is wet with no recollection of having gone. You never wake up in the middle of the night needing to pee either, though you may wake up to a very soaked diaper and bed.