Stormtrooper said:
I ended up having to tell my parents, and unfortunately it didn't end too well. They both want me to give up diapers. I did all I could to convince them that it was harmless, but they weren't having it. Neither of them would listen.
Their arguments basically consisted of treating me like a drug addict and "it's gross/unsanitary", "you'll inevitably become incontinent or get a UTI", "why do you have to hide it?", "give it a month and it'll go away" and so on.
They did have actually valid concerns, though, which were what would happen if others found out and how it would affect my chances of getting a girlfriend (because they want grandkids).
For now, I'm just going to lay low until I can get a place of my own.
Hey there Trooper, sorry to hear of your trouble. I had followed your thread from the start but did not wish to comment until we had a bigger picture. Right now, you are probably worried, confused, in pain and a few other things. This is an emotional time and caution is your friend as well patience. This is also true for your parents, I can assume they are worried about you, confused about what they found out about their child and possibly feeling like they have done something wrong as parents.
There has been some great advice so far about not over-reacting during this difficult time and will echo that myself. The knee jerk reaction from your parents is understandable, every parent wants their kid to be
'normal' or
'popular, have good health and a happy life. Finding out their child likes to wear diapers must be a bit of a shock for them, they do not understand why their child has this oddity within them. They may be scared about your well-being, it is not a big leap to connect having an odd fetish with mental illness. I know how wrong that is, I know you are not crazy, but your parents could be thinking all sorts of things. You say they have already drawn a connection between drugs and diapers for example.
From what you have explained so far it seems there has been nothing but a negative reaction and they expect you to
'give up' diapers. I do not know how old you but you do need to show a huge amount of maturity right now. As explained earlier in the thread, you need to be very adult about this, which is ironic but very true. I would suggest a technique I call the
'softly, softly' approach, build their knowledge bit by bit, allow them to grow their understanding at a comfortable pace. You mention that you have already tried to explain it does not harm anyone, which is a great start. Now comes the step by step building.
Have you found online articles such as the ones posted here about infantilism? It may help to take a step back from your discussions and build a library of research, articles, books and other resources that would back up your explanations around this side of you. Show them that this is just an odd kink, you are not the only one and you are perfectly sane. Also show them how you can deal with this and still lead a normal life, heck, use this site to show how many folk still have partners who know about this.
As a final point, think about your parents well-being in all of this. Others have mentioned they love you and only want the best for you. Reassure them that you know they are worried and maybe even upset about this new information. Comfort them and do not allow this to create a divide. It is very difficult to open up to our parents when we are young but you have to find the strength. If you do decide to leave it all alone and not bring it up with them again, then I can respect that. All I would say is you can live a life of regret knowing your parents have never truly understood or accepted everything about you or you can see this through and hopefully become closer to your parents by not needing to hide things from them.
Whatever you decide and whatever happens, best of luck and keep us up to date in case we can help further.