I am new but also sharing advice on how to overcome it if you desire as I did

I am an LDS husband and father. I work with technology a lot and I enjoy creative film making.

My purpose in coming to this site is that I have had a strong desire for diapers and I have wanted to overcome that desire. In my Internet searching for help I have been led to this site where other LDS people exist with the same desire and I was looking more for help in overcoming rather than accepting and embracing. My hopes are that I can share helpful information of what I have found with those that wanted what I was looking for.

More about me, well I love using Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator to do graphic design, photo editing, crafts and printing and website design. I build web applications for my career. I enjoy taking my family on vacation and enjoy a short hike now and again. Caving has been fun for me as well. The outdoors is my set for my hobby movie making.

Its possible to accept without embracing and to only let out the pressure in a controlled way with "play" at home behind closed doors either with or without having to purchase necessary products. How you do it is up to you. I would also recommend getting some counselling as well.

Interesting, why do you feel the need to overcome it?

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Bladderbrain said:

Interesting, why do you feel the need to overcome it?

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Probably because he's LDS. So am I.

A lot of us have tried - seriously tried - to 'overcome' our AB or DL tendencies. In my personal opinion, it can't be done.

Are you married to someone who would likely reject the notion of you wearing diapers out of hand? I know most LDS women are conditioned to a rather pragmatic view of diapers!

If not, perhaps you can identify some good 'coping' mechanisms via our forum posts. Welcome to the group!

I'm really curious not condemning or anything. I'd like a little more in depth understanding if you don't mind

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OvercomingDL said:

I am an LDS husband and father. I work with technology a lot and I enjoy creative film making.

My purpose in coming to this site is that I have had a strong desire for diapers and I have wanted to overcome that desire. In my Internet searching for help I have been led to this site where other LDS people exist with the same desire and I was looking more for help in overcoming rather than accepting and embracing. My hopes are that I can share helpful information of what I have found with those that wanted what I was looking for.

More about me, well I love using Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator to do graphic design, photo editing, crafts and printing and website design. I build web applications for my career. I enjoy taking my family on vacation and enjoy a short hike now and again. Caving has been fun for me as well. The outdoors is my set for my hobby movie making.

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Before reading the following Im not trying to bash or insult any religions, I don't mean to offend you.

Being a former Christian, I found religion to be one of the most ignorant towards a lot of things. Religious texts have been manipulated several times over and have constantly created rules throughout the years. If you read through the entire bible, you'd think to yourself "wow, I'm glad I didn't live back in those days.

I won't rant too much about religion and will leave the following...

In the bible, it says god knows who you are, what you're going to be, what you're going to do... and so on. Would it be fair if someone created you with all of your imperfections and punish you for eternity for it? Is god really that type of personality?

As for having an interest in wearing diapers, its another form of clothing. If it's sexual to you, humans are sexually oriented for the most part.

There's people on earth from all corners of the world, in every ethnicity, race, religion that have weird quirks about them. DLs come from a lot of those.

There's really no overcoming an obsession, you like diapers, you always will. You won't forget that you have this interest. It's how you go about it. Just like alcoholics are always going to be alcoholics. Just because they stop drinking doesn't mean they no longer enjoy alcohol. They accepted that they are alcoholics and they stop drinking for the good.

Sexual fetishes on the other hand can be completely different. It's a different monster since emotion and stimulation is more connected towards it than alcohol. I'm not saying that it's impossible to not give in to the urge, but there will always be some type of trigger to give you thought about it in some way or another. You just have to nudge it away gently with positivity instead of having negative thoughts to go with it as it will cause worse emotional problems.

As others have said you have to embrace and accept who you are before you turn your back away from it in spite. It's not a simple one and done thing despite what others think.

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I'm a Methodist minister of music, and I could argue this point pro and con. On the one hand, even if you never wear a diaper or wet your pants, etc, God knows your heart, and just the yearning is a sin. On the other hand, it is the nature of humans to sin. A sin is anything that separates one from God, so even watching television or working on the computer is a sin. Yet because of Grace, our sins are forgiven. We can go round and round in circles.

So my take is this. What kind of person are you? Are you kind and loving, giving, caring? Do you take care of the needy? Do you give part of what you earn to help others? If so, don't you think God can forgive you for a desire that you never asked for and have no control over the fact that it's there? I think God judges us on the good we do, especially toward others. Diapers probably don't even enter His equation. Anyway, that's my opinion and certainly not God's....

My bigger opinion is that religion humanizes what and whoever God is. We think wearing diapers displeases God because God thinks like us. I think God is much bigger and much more different than us little humans. I think it is a waste of time to try to define God because we can't really do it. To me, God is the everything and is part of everything in the entire universe. We are part of that too and in that way, we will be taken care of, both now and after death. Diapers seem pretty small in that big picture.

Hi OvercomingDL,
welcome to the group. I have an incontinent bladder, and when i was due to go to the Temple for the first time I had to explain (for reasons that LDS members will know) to my Bishop that i had to wear nappies as protection. The bishop assured me this would be handled considerately at the Temple and it was.

However you are in a different boat and whilst i can sympathise with your position, i've not heard about someone overcoming their ab/dl tendencies. A lot of us go through periods of guilt and some even go as far as getting rid of everything dl related only to later go out and re-stock their items. There are treatments available which vary from counselling up to psychoanalysis, for more details have a look at:-
https://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/paraphilias Unfortunately the desires you have probably date back to the time you were still in diapers, so although you don't say how long you have felt the desire to wear diapers it's been in you a long time and only now is it getting to the stage where it is making your day to day life difficult.

You really only have 3 options. 1, seek counselling and therapy which may or may not work so you may need to go further than that and enter psychoanalysis. 2, is to give in to the urge, find somewhere private you can wear a diaper if only for an hour or so, which will sate the desire for a little while but will still leave the guilt that i'm sure you are feeling. The 3rd option is to seek out your Bishop and make a full confession about your urge and ask for prayer and a blessing and also ask to see an LDS counsellor. however this could have major repercussions for you and your family. I'm afraid that is all i can really offer in the way of hope. I sincerely hope that you can come to terms with the feelings you are experiencing and that if you do go to your Bishop that he is sympathetic and helpful.

Thank you for the respectful replies. I did write up quite a bit on this post about why I have chosen to not do it and tips on staying away: https://www.adisc.org/forum/group.php?discussionid=4065

I will have to agree with you that the urge seems to always come back. I just remember as a little kid, 4 or 5, wanting to wear a diaper and I can't remember particulars but I remember my mom found me behind the couch trying to put a diaper on and so she told me that if I want to wear a diaper she will diaper me. So she put a cloth diaper on me and sent me to bed and told me I couldn't take it off. I acted upset but inside was happy. Ever since then I have had an interest in them and when I outgrew the baby diapers I tried to sew some together. So, yes it has been a long time struggle. When I was married and I confided in my wife, she was totally against it. So I have gone the path of counseling and research and unfortunately nobody tells you how to try to abstain if you wanted, but rather to just give in. If your life allows that then great to you and if not then the tips in my post will help.

To me I would do what I do and offer it to the Lord. Wearing diapers is not a sin, as all it is an undergarment with padding. Well if you do it to promote sexual desires like the owner of some diaper lover porn sites do, then yes. I used to pee my pants at home after I came home from High School, but is that a sin? Well no, but my reasons is that it was to relieve horny desires and I believed I masturbated to it and that alone is a sin.

You should talk to your bishop, but keep in mind you can give your life to the one you believe in. If you use your diapers wisely instead of foolishly you are okay. However, that requires soul searching on your part.

Hope this helps.

I think they is nothing wrong with embressing your intrest in diapers but I think you might need to find someone to talk to about the LSD stuff.

If you are getting a craving for the stuff my advice would just be to wear your diapers if you need LSD. Or go adventuring. Go out somewhere with your diapers underneath your clothing.

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I think they is nothing wrong with embressing your intrest in diapers but I think you might need to find someone to talk to about the LSD stuff.

If you are getting a craving for the stuff my advice would just be to wear your diapers if you need LSD. Or go adventuring. Go out somewhere with your diapers underneath your clothing.

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LDS (Latter Day Saints) Angello, not LSD, he's a Mormon, not on drugs :/

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OvercomingDL said:

I am an LDS husband and father. I work with technology a lot and I enjoy creative film making.

My purpose in coming to this site is that I have had a strong desire for diapers and I have wanted to overcome that desire. In my Internet searching for help I have been led to this site where other LDS people exist with the same desire and I was looking more for help in overcoming rather than accepting and embracing. My hopes are that I can share helpful information of what I have found with those that wanted what I was looking for.

More about me, well I love using Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator to do graphic design, photo editing, crafts and printing and website design. I build web applications for my career. I enjoy taking my family on vacation and enjoy a short hike now and again. Caving has been fun for me as well. The outdoors is my set for my hobby movie making.

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Not sure this is the best site for overcoming wearing diapers as the site's central focus is on embracing them, but welcome. There are many people here who are working on embracing diapers or they are a part of their life by choice or reasons that require them to use diapers. Theres nothing wrong with using diapers if they help you be who you set out to be and our not hindering that or your relationship with God. It's best to look to him as far as if they can be a part of your life or not and then work on finding a path you can follow.

I don't have understanding of you particular beliefs. But I don't have judgement either.

Could this not be somewhat unlike smoking or alcohol?

Perhaps God has a problem with drunks but not with a glass after work and another with dinner?

Smoking isn't great either, but a few smokes outside, away from the family is hardly a sin?

Diaper use, in private, may reduce stress like a drink or so does, or the odd smoke away from others.

Probably not what one would choose in a perfect world but we don't live in perfect world.

My understanding of religious teaching that humans are imperfect and God forgives.

Imperfection is human. We are not gods.

If what we do, does no harm, and perhaps helps us cope, why worry about it?

PD8615,
due to our beliefs, unless medically needed, wearing a nappy would be considered a sin and possibly an illness. Whilst we know that god forgives, the idea is that once we confess our sins and are forgiven, then we should sin no more. Unfortunately OvercomingDL is almost in a catch 22 situation. If he admits his problem to his Bishop and seeks both counselling and forgiveness it can impact his role within the LDS church. If he asks God or Jesus for forgiveness but stills continue to desire nappies then he is knowingly disobeying and that too can affect his role, as will the guilt he feels as he knows these desires are wrong (from an LDS point of view - i am not saying that being an ab/dl is wrong). All of these options will also affect his family in some way or another.

I think it is really hard to overcome something that makes you you. While I'm agnostic I can't inmagine a "Heavenly Father" who won't overcome small sins. When you are overall a good person. Because lets be honest we al sin. Some more (me) than others sure. But no one is completly without sin.

I do wish you best of luck in coming to terms with yourself in a way you feel complete.

(Ps. took my ages to get what LDS ment haha)

I realize there are a few members here who wish they could overcome their diaper desires, or at least cut back. However, coming to ADISC to give up diapers is like an alcoholic joining a Wine of the Month club to give up drinking. The overwhelming emphasis of ADISC is to support and encourage a healthy engagement with diapers and other regression activities. I don't know that we will be of much help when it comes to total abstinence. Though many would certainly encourage a healthier, less totally consumed approach, and limiting one's time spent regressed.

Hope you find what you are looking for.

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I've been a DL since my earliest memories - I remember being 4 or 5 years old and playing in my sandbox in the back yard, putting sand in my underwear trying to simulate a diaper. I didn't even understand why i was doing it, it was just was what felt right. Fast forward to puberty, the desire increased exponentially and I started secretly wearing here and there for a thrill. I then worked very hard to eradicate my DL desires in an attempt to be more "normal".

I was clear of it for almost 2 decades, then it came back in a very manageable, light way - not compulsive or compelling, and I occasionally indulged it, as I realized it wasn't going away, nor was it hurting anyone - BUT, then as fate would have it, I passed my 30s and picked up some medical conditions that make me incontinent. I don't want it, after working so hard to eradicate those desires, but life can be ironic.

You win some, you lose some. Think about that before you do anything drastic.

The One does not care,
about your underwear.

If your faith does,
What does that tell you?