Messing in public is something that happens to me often. I'm not exactly full on incontinent but I have such severe bowel urgency (started after a bowel resection from diverticulitis - about a foot of large colon removed. see my profile for a more complete explanation) that I usually don't even try to make it. The times I've tried I've failed miserably. I"ve had this condition for 20 plus years and wear diapers 24/7. The first year was hell because #1, it was all so new to me and #2, I had very loose BM's. My doctor told me to use a bulk producing fiber supplement ( I use 3 to 4 doses of Metamucil a day ). This firmed things up great but it did nothing for the urgency. While it did firm things up significantly, it also increased frequency and volume. I use a Confidry 24/7 as a "diaper liner" under a cloth pull-up diaper with heavy gauge plastic pants. The disposable keeps the BM mostly off my cloth diaper and makes laundering so much easier. I also use Desitin ( zinc oxide ) to prevent rashes and Nullo to eliminate odors. I absolutely detest changing in public. With the protection I use it's too much of a production. I will if I really really have to but I avoid it at all costs. I keep a change "kit" in my car but I haven't used it in years. It's not uncommon for me to have 3 or 4 very large BM's a day so if I want to have a life and get out to do things ( shopping, library, golf, kayaking, etc.) it's inevitable that I'm going to have a load (or 2) in my diapers at some point. I've gone as long as 8 hours in a messy diaper and at this point it doesn't bother me anymore. I almost never get rashes thanks to the liberal use of Desitin and "air out" my skin whenever I have the opportunity. If I have loaded my diapers to capacity, I'll head home for a proper change and shower. I can never get clean enough with a public change. This has been going on for a long enough time that, as strange as it might sound, I'm used to having a load or 2 in my diapers and it really doesn't bother me. It's the change that's a royal pain. I sold my business a couple years ago and retired early so my time is my own and I come and go as I please. The plastic pants and Nullo allow me to be anywhere and not be offensive. I could be standing in a crowd, reading at the library, at mass in the morning or at the coffee shop in town, have an enormous BM and nobody would ever know. I'm sure some of you might wonder how I can stand it but over 20 years I've grown quite used to it. I was recently on a flight coming back to Chicago from Florida and had an unusually large BM about halfway through the 3 hour flight. Nobody around me knew. The only smell coming from me was cologne. I'm still young and refuse to let it rule my life. I know the protection I use is enough to allow me up to 10 hours or more if need be. I also know that my heavy protection sounds like a lot of diaper and it is. I always dress casual but comfortable and as discreet as possible. If you looked real close you might be able to tell but I manage to hide the bulk of my diapers quite well. I don't feel the anxiety that a lot of the younger generation experience when wearing in public much less having a load in my diapers most of the time. My advise to those on the fence or worrying about it is that the more you do it the easier it gets. A big part of it is how you carry yourself. If you are paranoid, your going to look paranoid. Be confident and act normal. I had no choice so I had to adapt. Anyone thinking about going at it voluntarily just needs to take the proper precautions and just go about your business as normally as you can. Good luck.
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Messing in public is something that happens to me often. I'm not exactly full on incontinent but I have such severe bowel urgency (started after a bowel resection from diverticulitis - about a foot of large colon removed. see my profile for a more complete explanation) that I usually don't even try to make it. The times I've tried I've failed miserably. I"ve had this condition for 20 plus years and wear diapers 24/7. The first year was hell because #1, it was all so new to me and #2, I had very loose BM's. My doctor told me to use a bulk producing fiber supplement ( I use 3 to 4 doses of Metamucil a day ). This firmed things up great but it did nothing for the urgency. While it did firm things up significantly, it also increased frequency and volume. I use a Confidry 24/7 as a "diaper liner" under a cloth pull-up diaper with heavy gauge plastic pants. The disposable keeps the BM mostly off my cloth diaper and makes laundering so much easier. I also use Desitin ( zinc oxide ) to prevent rashes and Nullo to eliminate odors. I absolutely detest changing in public. With the protection I use it's too much of a production. I will if I really really have to but I avoid it at all costs. I keep a change "kit" in my car but I haven't used it in years. It's not uncommon for me to have 3 or 4 very large BM's a day so if I want to have a life and get out to do things ( shopping, library, golf, kayaking, etc.) it's inevitable that I'm going to have a load (or 2) in my diapers at some point. I've gone as long as 8 hours in a messy diaper and at this point it doesn't bother me anymore. I almost never get rashes thanks to the liberal use of Desitin and "air out" my skin whenever I have the opportunity. If I have loaded my diapers to capacity, I'll head home for a proper change and shower. I can never get clean enough with a public change. This has been going on for a long enough time that, as strange as it might sound, I'm used to having a load or 2 in my diapers and it really doesn't bother me. It's the change that's a royal pain. I sold my business a couple years ago and retired early so my time is my own and I come and go as I please. The plastic pants and Nullo allow me to be anywhere and not be offensive. I could be standing in a crowd, reading at the library, at mass in the morning or at the coffee shop in town, have an enormous BM and nobody would ever know. I'm sure some of you might wonder how I can stand it but over 20 years I've grown quite used to it. I was recently on a flight coming back to Chicago from Florida and had an unusually large BM about halfway through the 3 hour flight. Nobody around me knew. The only smell coming from me was cologne. I'm still young and refuse to let it rule my life. I know the protection I use is enough to allow me up to 10 hours or more if need be. I also know that my heavy protection sounds like a lot of diaper and it is. I always dress casual but comfortable and as discreet as possible. If you looked real close you might be able to tell but I manage to hide the bulk of my diapers quite well. I don't feel the anxiety that a lot of the younger generation experience when wearing in public much less having a load in my diapers most of the time. My advise to those on the fence or worrying about it is that the more you do it the easier it gets. A big part of it is how you carry yourself. If you are paranoid, your going to look paranoid. Be confident and act normal. I had no choice so I had to adapt. Anyone thinking about going at it voluntarily just needs to take the proper precautions and just go about your business as normally as you can. Good luck.