Leaking during intercourse

So it's becoming more frequent that I'm having noticeable sized accidents during sex. I myself am not incontinent aside from some trouble with bed-wetting that Ive mostly gotten over in my early teen years. I've mentioned it to the doc once or twice and he had no concerns and told me I had nothing to worry about. It's getting to be a little embarrassing and a real mood killer for me. My GF says she doesn't mind but it's difficult to preform as a sexual partner when you're focused on not wetting your bed. I was wondering if anyone had any insight or someway to help my issue.

My ex wife used to leak some too. But she also has MS. A bed pad/chux helps.

From what I've read it's a common issue in women. I'm a man however and I can't find much reading material on the topic

With the doctor not seeing any reason for concern do you think there is anything a urologist could really do? I don't really want to spend the money for him to dismiss it as well. My gf is supporting of me wearing diapers and wetting and she says she doesn't mind it but I don't have much of a sexual interest in diapers or wetting, and it's just kind of hard to perform as a dominant partner with the knowledge that I need protection from ruining my bed on my mind. As much I'd like to have this taken care of I really don't want to pay all that money and still just have to live with it.

I thought i would just weigh in as well.

The most concerning thing is that your doctor is just dismissing this as "nothing to worry about". I'm sorry, but a normal, healthy well individual does not have leakage of urine period. In order for this to be happening, something else is probably going on (at least, that is what I tend to think in my mind if I see/hear about a problem like this). I guess the important thing to know is that has this always been happening when you have been having intercourse? and have you had any injuries to "down there" and have had issues with this since that?

That being said, I wouldn't be able to tell you what that problem is exactly. This is something that you would need to have investigated in order to find the cause of. Being a male, pelvic floor exercises would be beneficial but it probably won't do anything to improve incontinence (although people say that doing pelvic floor exercises make sex more enjoyable whether they are male or female).

If you are worried about seeing a urologist and spending money on not finding an answer, that is understandable. However, as Marka has said above, perhaps it is worth seeing a different GP for a second opinion. No doctor will (or should) take offense for you wanting to know if this is a problem. However, I am of the believe that if it is causing someone distress (as seems to be the case with you), then this is not something that is just "normal". General practitioners are great at what they do, and they manage to screen for a lot of problems and hopefully send them to someone who might be more experienced with it. However, the biggest problem with GP work is that they are meant to know a little bit about a lot of topics. That means that there are issues/gaps of their knowledge and is why they usually pass you on to a specialist if it is some specific issue.

In short, I think a second opinion would be good to know where you stand with this issue. As I said, leakage of urine is not a normal thing. And if a doctor tries to tell you that this is normal, then I would be looking for an answer somewhere else. However, you are the one that needs to make the decision on this. Are you happy to have this problem continue and just put it down as something you have to live with or do you want to try and find an answer to it (but be aware, that there is alway the risk that an answer cannot be found for one reason or another)?

While I have bed-wet off and on my whole life , When I was much younger then I am now I knew that after having sex and going to sleep without getting up and going to the bathroom weather I felt like I need to pee or not I would for sure wet the bed within minutes of falling asleep that night.
Are you leaking a large amount during sex or is it more like bed-wetting after , you mentioned that you were a bed wetter though your teens.
Sometime the fluid your leaking during sex isn't necessarily urine but more self lube fluid between both partners can often make that "wet spot".. I also agree that you should see a urologist to find out if there is a serious issues

Well I do have insurance it's just there is a higher copay (might take another look at the percentage though) on specialist excluding dental/vision. And I agree the ball is in my court, Im not looking for anyone one on the forum to fix me was just looking for some insight, and you all have been very helpful. BTW the leaks happen during not after and I wear diapers most of the time for my own enjoyment just not for sexual pleasure, I wasn't implying I need them for my issue haha. But anyway I think I'm going to. Ride it out and see if I'm still having the issue next year as it sounds like my company's insurance will be better.

Im incontinent and never had an accident while erect. I hope your not yanking our chains.

Marka said:

And, "next year" is still just over 2-months away... And, because some of what I read on your condition; 'could', could-be related to prostate issues for example (I refrained from alarming you before)

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I also read that and from what i understand it is a result of radiation therapy to treat prostate cancer. Hopefully im not mistaken on this but i will bring it up on my next visit. I will probably take your advice and consult a different GP and make it the focal point of the visit instead of just mentioning it and go from there.

Also i am unsure how to get multiple quotes in here but, no INCONTAL i am not yanking your chain.

This is in response to Incontels previous post

I don't see any signs of chain yanking in this thread. Especially as this was a problem for me during my marraige. To be honest we were both worried in cae it happened and although it was my problem to start with, after 2 kids and various surgeries my wife could also pee durig or immedialtly after sex with no chance of holding it.

We had a mattress protector and used a disposable bed pad (which can hold a lot of pee) with a towel on top because wet bedpads don't feel good on the skin.

I loved my wife even more for the way she coped with my inappropriate peeing, but the kind of precautions we took meant it wasn't too unleasant for her and we still had good sex.

To the OP,

First of all, gives you hugs as that is just what teddy bears do and I hope you know that you are among friends here.

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So, your profile shows you are AB, DL and little, right?

I will not downplay the psychological effects you may be having from this happen while having a sexual experience (as you have shared that diapers and such are not sexual for you) but this does raise the question for me to ask you, what is it about having this happen that is so disturbing to you? You are ABDL and Little and as such I must assume that you enjoy feeling little and the associated aspects of this? Having said that, I can understand to some extent that you are trying to keep this separate from your sexual experience, but yet I feel there has to be a little more to this situation than perhaps you have shared in this forum.

Does your wife know of your AB, DL, and little side? Are you certain that there is not at least some sort of sexual attraction that may be associated with this interest? It certainly is at least partially sexual for a lot of ABDL and other Littles.

-- Even if it isn't all the time, could there be some sort of association with this interest of yours? And if it isn't caused by any association with your AB,DL, and little interests and it is only a biological and physical situation... since you are AB,DL, and little, is there some way that you may be able to resolve your concerns with this happening by accepting it?

Without knowing whether your wife is accepting of your ABDL, and little side, then it is kind of hard to give more advice. ...but, if she does know of these interests that you have and is accepting of it, then perhaps this isn't something to lose a lot of sleep over.

In this case, use a good waterproof mattress pad (both the full mattress cover and also an on-top of mattress pad --they are usually about three feet by three feet and quite abosorbant) and stop worrying about what may happen. If she isn't concerned about it, you shouldn't be.

My suggestion if this truly is an involuntary event and it doesn't bother your wife, then just find ways to make protection of the mattress and clean up easier and roll with it. For some individuals wetting during intercourse is a real turn on. But if not, my suggestion is to not let this be something that affects your relationship if your partner isn't bothered by it.

As for the whole health thing, if you aren't wetting the bed at other times and there is no other signs that you may be having urinary problems, I don't think it is something that is much to worry about. I am not a doctor, but it seems to be that if you aren't having wetting problems besides during intercourse (which is a very stimulating experience that is intricately connected to that area and causes involuntary contractions and releases) then I would doubt that it is something that is a grave concern --otherwise I would propose that it would be happening in other cirsumstances, such as if you are stressed, laughing, or during other physical activity. However, if to ease your mind further, additional tests and doctor visits are certainly an option and shouldn't be a huge expense with your existing insurance.

I do wish you the best with this situation and my sincere advice to you is to find acceptance if a medical solution cannot be found. If it isn't a health concern, your wife isn't bothered by it, and you are ABDL and little anyhow, then why not just enjoy the experience? You are not less of a person because of it.

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Teddybear

chamberpot said:

While I have bed-wet off and on my whole life , When I was much younger then I am now I knew that after having sex and going to sleep without getting up and going to the bathroom weather I felt like I need to pee or not I would for sure wet the bed within minutes of falling asleep that night.

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After I have sex I always have to pee REAL BAD and it's hard to hold. Never during though.