Parents found my diapers

How do parents visit your dorm when you and your roommate are out?

I've never seen a dorm that would unlock someone's room for a family member. The flat should be registered in you and your roommates' names, I'd be pissed if anyone claiming to be family was just let in. And would be having words with dorm managers and university managers.

(OTOH if you'd left the door unlocked, or your roommate had let them in, I could more understand this having happened)

I'm pretty sure I'd be going with the joke/gag thing, hallowe'en or a stupid college hazing thing if I were you. Especially given the context of them finding them in your college dorm. Of course that all depends on what you've already said to them. Trying to explain your way out through a wetting prob or revealing your secret desires are not places I'd be comfortable going with my folks.

bambinod said:

How do parents visit your dorm when you and your roommate are out?

I've never seen a dorm that would unlock someone's room for a family member. The flat should be registered in you and your roommates' names, I'd be pissed if anyone claiming to be family was just let in. And would be having words with dorm managers and university managers.

(OTOH if you'd left the door unlocked, or your roommate had let them in, I could more understand this having happened)

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I was in the dorm at the time, I was trying to say that my roommate was out, not me.

if they suspect bedwetting, they must think that the idea of being away from home for the first time is stressful.
Let them continue to think that. Why not?

Like many of the others here are suggesting, I too would recommend the route of saying that you need them for medical reasons due to stress. I like w0lfpack91's idea of saying that a campus medical advisor said that it is only a temporary intermittent thing. That give them less reason to worry.

You wrote this like you were with them when they found your molicare; so what did you say then?

I wore plastic underpants over my underwear off / on until I was 5 or 6 due to nighttime accidents (was sporadic). At age 8 I really saturated my friend's bed at a sleepover and after trying to find a lame excuse to his mother about having protection before but my mom put my plastic underpants away, she caringly had me wear a diaper and plastic underpants on a subsequent sleepover (my parents were going out of town and I had to stay with them). This actually turned out for the best while I stayed with them and I can assume they informed my parents of me needing the protection at night.

So at age 11 when I began to have wet dreams I bought my own plastic underpants since I thought I was still having leaks like before at night. I kept these plastic underpants underneath my mattress and my mom changed my sheets one day (after about 2 weeks, it was just a normal thing to do). She must have seen them but never said anything. By age 13 I had gotten rid of them.

When I was in college I had began having accidents at night to the point both my roommate and the resident hall advocated me wearing protection (actually the dorm counselor said it was not that uncommon for incoming freshman to have this type of stress causing their bedwetting). So wearing a snap on diaper and plastic underpants started up for me again. I accidently left my plastic underpants on my bed during vacation when I came home and my dad saw them but did not say anything about them and just continued talking to me about a question he had. I gather after all those times of needing & wearing protection they just thought it was something I was doing to deal with any bedwetting situations I was having at the time. They never questioned me on it.

If nothing more is said by your parents I would leave your personal lifestyle to yourself. You should have a slight accident in your underwear now so if they inquire further some day you can state in all honestly that you had wet yourself once while at the dorm and in order to protect the mattress or not wake up in wet pajamas you had heard from some other people (which is the truth because it is us!) that wearing a diaper at night for college stress can actually be helpful. Tell them you had bought these a while ago and still had them around in case this situation happened again but currently you are not having any more accidents at night. Then remind them of how you privately are taking care of this yourself.

RequiemDreamer said:

Just out of curiosity, what did the psychiatrist have to say about it? This has been something that has been suggested to me in the past (that I should go to one) but I never have.



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I have to laugh now. He said I would probably outgrow it! I didn't want to high jack your thread, but I was sent for a number of other reasons. I had come home from college to have dinner with my parents and some friends they had invited, and I had a psychotic break at dinner. I started crying and couldn't stop. When I went back to college, my mom searched my room probably looking for drugs but what she found were my diapers and gay porn. This was way back in 1970 when homosexuality was illegal, considered a mental illness, and often landed you in a mental institution. Alan Ginsburg was committed against his will for writing gay poetry. They were dangerous times.

My mom sent me to a residential mental facility, and it was obvious when I went there the first time for my appointment, that there were a lot of buildings. I was scared to death, so I wasn't very forthcoming with a lot of information to my shrink. He was a lot more concerned about my attraction to other males which was a big no no.

I eventually talked my mom out of sending me. All I wanted to do was graduate and start my life, preferably on my own and away from home which is what I did. Ironically, I married the woman who would become my wife and we have three children. I still wear diapers!

I think because of what I went through as a kid and young adult, is why I care so much about our members who struggle, whether it is with liking diapers and finding self acceptance, or one's mental health and job security vs. living at home with parents.

dogboy said:

When I went back to college, my mom searched my room probably looking for drugs but what she found were my diapers and gay porn. This was way back in 1970 when homosexuality was illegal, considered a mental illness, and often landed you in a mental institution.

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Yeah, I suppose that would be quite different. I don't want to hijack the thread either, but it seemed like it might help others who are struggling to hear about other people's experiences. (Im still struggling to accept myself, too)

babybobby said:

If you're over 18, I'd suggest keeping your private life private. Having my parents find out was NOT something I'd do again. They started talking down to me about it being an addiction. I eventually had to set a firm boundary that we would never, ever, talk about diapers again. So far (5 years later) they have respected that boundary.

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One of the problems is that on the internet they is something called Wiki how Know if You've Become Addicted to Wearing Diapers (As-an-Adult)
Your parents may have read that or something similar on the internet. What I got from that wikihow is if you think about diapers your probably addicted, If your using diapers your probably addicted. Your probably addicted no matter what.

If I was a dad of someone and I belived in the hyper dermic needle theory I would be worried about my son obsessing about this strange interest. I may do one of the two things. Go to a parent forum and chat and listen and get lectured on how to address my son. Or google it since the youngsters do all that these days.

At the end of the day it is sad but all parents have their limit. If it is not abdl it is furries and if it is not furries it is bronies.

Dustysniper29 said:

Not sure if I'm posting in the right topic,
But I had my parents visit my dorm when my roommate was out and they found one of my diapers. They now think I'm crazy and I'm "wetting the bed like I was 5"

I'm probably gonna come out to them and tell them I'm a DL but I need help.

Any good suggestions from people that have told there parents about it? And how did they react?

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is it a good idea to come out to them about it or just let them keep the assumption that they have?

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It is up to you
I do not hide mine I have not got any? I just think my kin is just too good and would find them strait away.

The reactions you might get are pretty wired but OK reaction. A ewww reaction or anytime you mention it they think your obsessing reaction.
The obsessing reaction is the worse even if you try to defend the fandom their minds are made up and they say this sweet and frustrating line unfortunately

"Stop justifing it"

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babybobby said:

If you're over 18, I'd suggest keeping your private life private. Having my parents find out was NOT something I'd do again. They started talking down to me about it being an addiction. I eventually had to set a firm boundary that we would never, ever, talk about diapers again. So far (5 years later) they have respected that boundary.

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Dustysniper29 said:

Not sure if I'm posting in the right topic,
But I had my parents visit my dorm when my roommate was out and they found one of my diapers. They now think I'm crazy and I'm "wetting the bed like I was 5"

I'm probably gonna come out to them and tell them I'm a DL but I need help.

Any good suggestions from people that have told there parents about it? And how did they react?

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is it a good idea to come out to them about it or just let them keep the assumption that they have?

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dogboy said:

You could also say it's for hiding embarrassing wet dreams. Then you can reverse shame them into butting into your personal hygiene. For what it's worth, my parents found my stash in my bedroom when I was away in college, and they sent me to see a psychiatrist. You never know how parents are going to react. Personally, I'd give it some time to just blow over, but if they persist, I'd chalk it up to stress incontinence.

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Actually I like what dogboy says. Infact if your using them at night you could say your worried about having wet dreams weather the kind that little kiddies get or 18 Too Much Information. Lets leave it there otherwise the admins and mods will not be happy with inappropriate comments.

Another thing you could say is you have been a little loose recently and you are wearing them as protection.
Or mum dad why did you go through my personal belongings to take it feather I never went though your belongings in your room.

RequiemDreamer said:

Just out of curiosity, what did the psychiatrist have to say about it? This has been something that has been suggested to me in the past (that I should go to one) but I never have.

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My therapist shrugged and said it was no big deal; there's nothing wrong with liking diapers or cuddly toys. He was more concerned about how it made me feel, and warned me that this isn't the kind of thing you can "cure" yourself from. Which was fine by me. We came to the conclusion that the whole ABDL thing was a self-soothing way to relax and reduce anxiety.

JOCKMAN said:

You should have a slight accident in your underwear now so if they inquire further some day you can state in all honestly that you had wet yourself once while at the dorm...

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Oh, my goodness! You should try lying. It's sooo much easier! And probably more "honest" than trying to deceive them with the truth!

My parents have found my diapers before, as embarrassing as it was I have them some bullshit and they had no suspect that it was a fetish, until recently at least. My mom actually found my anime diapered girls picture folder on my computer, just as she walked in on me wetting without pants on.

My dad found the stash hidden in my closet. However, he just does not care what I do with my life. When there's people over, I lock the closet.

you can do one of two things, come out as dl and posibly suffer the consicences, or say you have been haveing fits of stress related bedwetting. how to proceed is up to you. i personally wouldn't want to have to come out to my parents again, two years of random searches and attempts to get me to a shrink, as well as almost getting yanked from college. not fun.

Just reading through the first few replies there seems to be a lot of negativity about coming out about it to your parents. IMO it depends on your relationship with them. My parents found out a while back. WE never talk about it, but for my birthday last year I received an "anonymous" parcel from ABU...

BlueSky said:

Just reading through the first few replies there seems to be a lot of negativity about coming out about it to your parents. IMO it depends on your relationship with them. My parents found out a while back. WE never talk about it, but for my birthday last year I received an "anonymous" parcel from ABU...

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That is AMAZING!

On the flip side though you do hear of lots of negative responses from people re their parents. Parents are people too and some things are just incompatible with them even if it's as harmless and lovely as ABDL.

BlueSky said:

Just reading through the first few replies there seems to be a lot of negativity about coming out about it to your parents. IMO it depends on your relationship with them. My parents found out a while back. WE never talk about it, but for my birthday last year I received an "anonymous" parcel from ABU...

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Dream come true I bet.

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Due to financial difficulties few years back I had to move back in with parents. As much as me and my parents get on and as much I'd as love to tell them and even at my age where I'm more than responsible to do what I want I don't think I'll be telling them any time soon.

Though it does make wearing round the house hard as they very rarely go out.

Oh, my goodness! You should try lying. It's sooo much easier! And probably more "honest" than trying to deceive them with the truth! [/QUOTE]

Tiny, tossing up the total truth is easy & simple (I'm a DL!), but no one ever said ever doing the "right" thing could not have grave consequences (parents find it too hard to handle, kick you out, or, no assumptions here, several of our contributors were sent to the shrink). Ultimately it his choice on which path to take. Knowing my parents there are certain levels of the truth they would want to know and that is why they never questioned me about my plastic underpants; they are content to think I need them (which in one sense I do for security) but would not want to know I LIKE to wear them.

my parent have found 1 or 2 hidden used ones in my room that I was waiting to get rid of. I found my step mum had put them in the bin, so I'm sure she has told my dad. I also carelessly left a fresh diaper on my bed and they found that too. they haven't asked or said anything about it. they still look at me the same and treat me the same. they are pretty open minded and I think they know its just a fetish and they know fetishes are normal.

Hi! I'm blessed and cursed at the same time with a schizophrenia diagnosis plus numerous psychiatric ward admissions combined with trying nearly every medication out there I decided to tell my mother who I was living with until recently about my preferred clothing choice as I figured to myself, heck, I have pages and pages of 'things' I've told the therapists and psychiatrists so why not tell my mother, who, bless her heart, I love dearly, so I just told her of my interests and she said she's open to other things and we left it at that.

My dad on the other hand, maybe not who was a drunken sod.

Now I'm not advocating you play the crazy card unless you have the history to back it up but if you truly feel sure of yourself and believe this may work in your favor I'd say sure why not mention it but if you know deep down it will cause problems with your relationships maybe the stress defense may be the ticket. Either way, it's great you asked. Hope we've helped.