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    Question Public thoughts and questions



    Quote Originally Posted by Abenalover View Post
    The excitement of "being seen wearing a diaper out in public" is quite real. Every time I go out wearing it is exciting for me. However there is a difference between "being seen" wearing a diaper, and having the diaper you are wearing being seen by the public. One is thrilling. The other, if done intentionally, is simply forcing your fetish onto an unsuspecting and unwilling public.
    This is another topic that I wish to bring to the surface of the community here. This unsuspecting and unwilling public is by any means not the right thing to do, but let's discuss the feelings of this topic.

    I am all about going out covered in public wearing a diaper like many people, and what the excitement it is. How is it you feel someone who saw you in a diaper out in a public place might think about it? To me, it is what it is, just look at them and shrug my shoulders and then walk off. What urges or thoughts and feeling do you have about being in public diaper completely showing, like say a t shirt and a diaper and shoes? I'm curious to understand the mindset others have about these questions and in no way mean it is an aggressive or intrusive manner onto anyone. How do you feel when you do use your diaper out in public? Have you ever changed publicly like in a restroom or used the changing table they have in them sometimes? I'm sure other questions will arise but I just want to put this topic out in the open for discussion.

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    I don't often venture out in public while diapered, but it's happened before, and will surely happen again. And I do find it somewhat thrilling, even when my diaper isn't poking out of my pants (which it never is).

    I'm not big on the fetish exhibitionism, though. Once a person has seen your deliberately-exposed diaper, they're an involuntary participant in a sex act as far as I'm concerned. That they might only find it weird is irrelevant. (IMO.)

    Imagine if we suddenly lived side-by-side with another intelligent species that had an anatomy utterly unlike our own. I'd still hope that the wiser members of that species would discourage the less-wise from masturbating right in front of us, even if we were unlikely to know what we were seeing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cottontail View Post
    Once a person has seen your deliberately-exposed diaper, they're an involuntary participant in a sex act as far as I'm concerned. That they might only find it weird is irrelevant. (IMO.)
    Agreed. If it's accidental or they were being nosey, so be it, accidents happen. But going out there hiding it badly on purpose with the hope that someone notices is pretty rude/disrespectful.

    Unfortunately for rational discussion, it's also one of those things where intent matters, and it's nearly impossible to know for sure what motivations were behind any given action performed by and anyone other than yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EmeraldRegice View Post
    How is it you feel someone who saw you in a diaper out in a public place might think about it? To me, it is what it is, just look at them and shrug my shoulders and then walk off.
    That's basically what I would do if someone noticed my diaper while I was concealing it.



    What urges or thoughts and feeling do you have about being in public diaper completely showing, like say a t shirt and a diaper and shoes?
    I'd like to be able to walk around my own yard like that (and I do, late at night - I get a rush). I'd also like to be able to do it in situations where less clothing is normal, such as on the beach, but I understand that that is not possible and I'm not strongly enough inclined to do it that I would let my judgement be affected.



    How do you feel when you do use your diaper out in public?
    Wetting is part of life for me at this point, so I don't feel much.

    When I mess, I feel remarkably uncomfortable as dealing with mess in public is difficult.



    Have you ever changed publicly like in a restroom or used the changing table they have in them sometimes?
    I don't use changing tables as they're not meant for adults, certainly not adults my size. I may use them to put things on while I change against the wall but that's about it.

    I do change in restrooms. I use disabled restrooms. I did prior to being incon but I feel a lot less guilty about it now as I do, in fact, have a disability.

    I also use public showers, which the National Public Toilet Map (toiletmap.gov.au) lists - I occasionally need to.

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    With all the tv ads these days about incontinence the public is well aware folks need products. So if they notice not going to be a big deal. Now going out in a shirt and diaper only that is pushing it. Although i do it at home in the morning when i let the dogs out. But my neighbors know im incont. I do hang my chux on the wash line.

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    I have to wear all the time in public due to my incontinence, so I don't really feel any different to normal as my wearing is a neccesity. I would therefore never expose my incontinence pad on purpose.

    As I'm a fairly normal looking 20-something boy, when people have realised that I'm wearing a nappy they have either looked at me in disbelief or in pity. I'm fairly open with the fact that I wear nappies with my peers, that probably stems from the fact again that I need to wear them, so being open is definitely the best option!

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    Ah, another self-appointed defender of what is proper AB behavior. Save me. If you're going to do this (intentionally) then you live with the repercussions. If this isn't going to be something you would mind your family and employer finding out you're doing, then go for it. Otherwise, don't come running to me when it backfires on you. The last thing I am concerned with is whether it makes the "AB community" look bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaliborio View Post
    I may use them to put things on while I change against the wall but that's about it.
    You actually don't need to use a wall to change standing up. Just brace your forearm across the front of the diaper to hold it up, then use your free arm to bring the back wing around. Because your forearm is holding the front, it should leave your hand free and in the right spot to tape up the tapes.

    It's significantly faster and easier than leaning against a wall. I had just kind of assumed everyone knew about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by willnotwill View Post
    Ah, another self-appointed defender of what is proper AB behavior. Save me. If you're going to do this (intentionally) then you live with the repercussions. If this isn't going to be something you would mind your family and employer finding out you're doing, then go for it. Otherwise, don't come running to me when it backfires on you. The last thing I am concerned with is whether it makes the "AB community" look bad.
    I don't know. I think there are some subtleties that you're either missing or not speaking to. Are you meaning to imply that accidental and deliberate exposures, because they might be functionally equivalent from the standpoint of the observer, are only as bad as the consequences for the exposer? If so, I really have to disagree. I think the vast majority of people, when out in public, like to think that those around them have their sexualities firmly under control. With that in mind, it's hard for me to condone behaviors that could be construed as "getting off" while in public. Similarly, while I'm not too worried about how these kinds of behaviors reflect on the general ABDL population (I view efforts to actively improve the reputation of the ABDL community mainly as therapy for those involved), I still feel compelled to speak up about them. I mean... You probably don't worry too much about how rape reflects on the male population, but you probably still view it as awful. Extreme analogy, I realize, but to illustrate how separate the concerns can be...
    Last edited by Cottontail; 06-Oct-2016 at 16:16.

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    I am not in any way saying this is a real thing, I only wish to bring a hypothetical situations to the table to further the discussion more in depth. Now I do what I can to not "force or impose" my desires onto any unwilling public, and I'll answer my own question honestly for the community.

    So this situation is that you see a couple out, not anywhere too public, just a local convenience store where there is not too much traffic and mainly repeat customers, as they are repeat customers in complete normal attire most of the time. The staff are well aware of the situation and don't turn the other cheek, but play into it when the couple stops there be on slight occasion. This couple is a Daddy/LG relation between the two, and it has been like this for a couple years now. The confidence that the dou have is absolute. They are not bothered by being scene in a common environment where they are not usually challenged for the oddity of the situation that they portray to the others in the store. They are able to come in and leave without any real major distractions or issues pertaining to them. Both roleplay, not all the time but are not embarrassed, worried, troubled by the thought of on occasion if both are in the mindset that they don't mind going out to the store.

    -So my thoughts are 1. You have a more natural environment in the store as the staff are understanding and don't judge the couple because they return in just normal clothing most of the time, if it is a more common store for certain same people. 2. That level of understanding within themselves is on a different level than most people in the community, but as long they are respectful in the manner to which they go about it, and don't force anyone else into the scene, then that is how I will try to put it into words as almost a natural, I don't know the words to describe it correctly. 3. The atmosphere created in the store is not a threatening one and thus, they are more likely to be their alter ego role play selves as they shop. This also includes the staff playing part in it and their ability to understand it sets the company image a certain way, but it is a "non-discriminating" image by today's world society standards in this part of the world. 4. If they are maintaining a respectful disposition then I feel that they are making their best effort to be a caring in the ways of thinking about how the others in the store are feeling and thinking. They just go about their day and politely in a respectful manner treat any questions asked towards them then it is showing that the community wants (or them more specifically) a fair treatment in the eyes of others not into it, or those that don't completely understand it. Those that want to learn more , if greeted in a respectful and polite manner, only shows good tidings from the duo. 5. "There is safety in numbers"

    Now say that last statement safety in numbers is this. A group of say 14 indivuals mixed male/female, some duo, set up a meet up time at the nearby mall. Some are a Daddy/LG duo, some just a single individual wearing a diaper, and others of mixed races are all in one group. They just all go to the food court and eat in a non-obtrusive manner and chat about who they are, and make friends with another.

    -The general public may not, and I feel, most might not understand, but some may come up to ask questions and say hi even. I feel we are in a state of society where we are in an UP-rising of acceptance of anyone, but that is a slow long road. I feel that it if they would not be obtrusive or acting in an aggressive or objective manner, then the harm is minimal at that, as they are out of the norm but not caring about other's thoughts which does bring up controversy about what the harm, is, and to who is getting the harm.

    Take an individual who goes out LG, with a daddy to the park (1) At night and (2) day when it is empty. 1. At night they have the darkness to conceal them and let them be free almost from the worries of being judged. 2. The day poses a larger risk but as above they have the mindset to be able to walk out that door and head to the park uncaring about being judged. If they are acting in "respectful, non- obtrusive manner" then they have the civil rights to be treated in a certain manner. They can always remove themselves from a dangerous situation by just leaving and heading somewhere else.

    How do you feel, and what do you make of each situation? What "sexualities, or getting off, or "exhibitionism-ing"" do you feel is being created here fair or unfair to those role playing and to the public? How do you feel those that are into the exhibitionism factor should be treated while out, or viewed upon, by other exhibitionists and the non-exhibitionists within the community?

    I agree both ways as in certain ways both parties are fair and unfair to each other. It is difficult to explain in words and will return to make more comments as well read them that replied. As far as the exhibitionists I feel that from a community wide standpoint we can't dislike them for what their thought process is because they have to rationalize their behaviors just like anyone else might have to. On the hand that many others have said up in this thread above, yes if they are not acting in a civil manner to represent to community then there is an issue there. It would be a infinity times a million blue moon you might even see diapers wide out being flaunt around like they don't care who sees, it seems like.

    I feel accidental exposures are fun in their ways, but deliberate exposure is a different ballpark. I have a much more open mind that other people, but am in no way trying to disrespect anyone's feelings or thoughts in this topic.

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