what is it like to be incintinent

Hey I am not someone who is ic but it has came across my mind sometimes. but I also now its not a very good road to go down I would much rather wear for the convenience but I was wondering if you can give me an insight to being incontinent and maybe this could help the people whose thinking about it.
I hope you show those people as much respect as I have shown you

lots of love icklespace

For me, being incontinent is like being a DL when it's horribly inconvenient. There's no choice or option to wear - it's a requirement. When it's hot, sweaty, and nasty out, you still have to wear. It's having to ensure you have enough protection with you at all times, because if you don't, you WILL end up with a leak, and murphy's law says it'll probably be at the most embarassing moment.

If you want to wear for pleasure, go for it! Have fun! Wear 24/7 if you feel like it, but it's always better to have that option, to have a choice to not wear at certain times, than it is to not have it.

To start off with No one really wants to be incontinent I surely do not! If I could get over the reactions to anesthesia I would have surgery to regain my continence. First of all its the expense of being incontinent you will have to deal with its very expensive medical condition to deal with. Second is the endless wetting and messing your backside that requires cleaning and care. Third is the never ending changing your diaper during the day maybe 3-5 times depending on what you do. Fourth is you will have to resolve yourself to a life of being incontinent and believe me it aint fun! Fifth is the disposal and sanitation the smell can be awful if you do not take care of the used diapers properly and timely. Sixth is dealing with others in public that will make fun of you or mock you that is hurtful I get sad first then its a bout of karma in their face ! Seventh is dealing with the icky feeling of being wet I hate the wake up in the morning its bloody degrading to wake up to a soaking wet diaper some days I cry ! yes still after all these years I cry ! You will have to get used to going while you are eating and you cannot control it that is a god awful experience I tell you. Luck has it I had only one real bad diaper rash in the hottest days of summer I was reeling in pain and thats a reality you will have to get used to I do not wish Incontinence on anyone ! Some I have wanted to give them a ex lax as payback but that is cruel I take the high road ! This medical condition in nothing to take lightly it affects and effects your daily life in many ways you do not want believe me Its degrading to be constantly wet I hate it ! Flu season is my worst time I get it from both ends and that is not good! Please reconsider your choice to be Incontinent by force or regression training since if you go past the point of no return there is no going back with out drastic action and some may be invasive surgical procedures to regain your continence.. Hope this helps you and others out in your decision making on doing this.

Actually I had wanted to be incontinent for as long as I can remember. I always hated having to go to the potty when I was in the middle of something. While in the military I got hurt bad and did become incontinent. It really isn't that bad even though it is forced on to you. Yes it does take a lot of getting used to, and yes you absolutely have to use the best diapers out there. Of course this does mean it's expensive, but even hobbies can be more expensive than diapers. I like the feeling of being wet, and with good diapers you won't get a minor leak more than once or twice a month. Plus, you'll be changing no more times a day than you'd normally be going to the bathroom, but it will be when you're ready not your bladders.

Is not fun at all. even if the idea sounds awesome. There is some times you would prefer not to wear them.

Very few people can find a plus side to being incontinent. Most will say that it's a disability that impacts their ability to live life to the most comfortable extent possible.
Think about being an incontinent DL, waking up one morning thinking "nah, I don't want to wear", but you have to, you have no choice, and it sucks because it strips the fun and comfort.

xpluswearer said:

To start off with No one really wants to be incontinent I surely do not! If I could get over the reactions to anesthesia I would have surgery to regain my continence. First of all its the expense of being incontinent you will have to deal with its very expensive medical condition to deal with. Second is the endless wetting and messing your backside that requires cleaning and care. Third is the never ending changing your diaper during the day maybe 3-5 times depending on what you do. Fourth is you will have to resolve yourself to a life of being incontinent and believe me it aint fun! Fifth is the disposal and sanitation the smell can be awful if you do not take care of the used diapers properly and timely. Sixth is dealing with others in public that will make fun of you or mock you that is hurtful I get sad first then its a bout of karma in their face ! Seventh is dealing with the icky feeling of being wet I hate the wake up in the morning its bloody degrading to wake up to a soaking wet diaper some days I cry ! yes still after all these years I cry ! You will have to get used to going while you are eating and you cannot control it that is a god awful experience I tell you. Luck has it I had only one real bad diaper rash in the hottest days of summer I was reeling in pain and thats a reality you will have to get used to I do not wish Incontinence on anyone ! Some I have wanted to give them a ex lax as payback but that is cruel I take the high road ! This medical condition in nothing to take lightly it affects and effects your daily life in many ways you do not want believe me Its degrading to be constantly wet I hate it ! Flu season is my worst time I get it from both ends and that is not good! Please reconsider your choice to be Incontinent by force or regression training since if you go past the point of no return there is no going back with out drastic action and some may be invasive surgical procedures to regain your continence.. Hope this helps you and others out in your decision making on doing this.

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I have been urinary incontinent for over four years now and am dependant on pads and nappies. I can't honesty say it has been all that bed. True there are some days worse than others and some days start bad when I have wet very heavily or maybe several times during the night and my nappy couldn't stem the tide and I am laying in a soaking wet bed. There are times when I have been very sore with a rash and of course being incontinent means it can be very uncomfortable as I can't stay dry to let it heal quickly. Thank goodness for sudocreme and Vaseline. I have never been challenged over my nappies in fact no one has ever commented at all.
At first I was paranoid people would notice my pads or nappies but gradually I realised if they do no one cares. I now don't even think about it. I used to be very concious about wetting in pubic. I was always wondering do people know when I am wetting my nappy or pad albeit uncontrollably. Again I don't think anyone does notice.
I have found being incontinent hasn't stopped me doing anything I used to do I just have to plan ahead sometimes. Maybe because I was a chronic bedwetter as a child and throughout my teenage years I am more accepting of it I don't know.

As somebody who suffers from severe incontinence yet still tries to live a busy life with a high flying job and lots of socialising, incontinence can really wreck some fantastic situations.

Some days I wish that I could go without wearing protection, but I know that as soon as I do, I'll probably end up having a nasty accident, wrecking my trousers.
I try and make the best of my situation, hence my small DL streak, but sometimes I really wish that I didn't have to deal with it all the time. It can be a huge mood killer when you need to leave a family meal or halfway during a film because I have filled my nappy and it can sometimes be really awkward when you need to change in public.

Slip , I hate that I am eating and well as I am consuming more food or drinking water or whatever it seems as A drop goes in my mouth a drop comes out down stairs its just something I hate . I hate going thru the TSA checkpoints its humiliating.

Don't forget the total monetary cost of incontinence. I have the misfortune to be double incontinent. The cost is not just disposable diapers, you also must include other items such as cloth diapers, cloth booster pads, disposable booster pads, plastic pants, onesies, compression pants, disposable wipes, barrier cream, medications, absorbent pads, enemas, laxatives, chair pads, etc. It adds up very quickly. The total annual cost of my incontinence is a bit over $7,000 and that does not include doctors' fees!:sad: In just a few years, that adds up to the cost of a new car. You do not want to be medically incontinent!

--John

JDVirgina,
If you are double incontinent help me out with something if you are bowel incontinent, Why do you need enema's and laxatives, that does not make sense to me??? Laxatives are for constipation not bowel incontinence and enemas why would you need then since your bowels are constantly emptying into your diaper ? I am not following....

In some cases particularly in double IC and spinal injuries they regulate what is available to come out with enemas, such as get up in the AM have breakfast clean your bowel out with an enema and then wash up, this leaves much less fecal matter in the system to come out at a bad time, accidents can still happen but you lesson the opportunities by doing enemas.

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Ok understand now do you risk damaging your colon by multiple usages of enemas? I have heard of enemas perforiating the colon requiring emergency surgery to avoid peri tin itis I had to chop that word sorry. just asking ?

Well generally people use tap water enemas rather than things like fleet and what not,tap water rectal irrigation is done daily by millions of affected individuals with little risk of perforation, matter of fact for spinal injuries there is a machine that holds a certain amount of water and a small catheter is inserted with a small Ballon inflated, kinda like a water pic , it's a reservoir with pump that infuses a quantity of water to stimulate emptying, without large volumes and any irritant chemical ( bisacodyl, glycerin, sodium) it's been found to be very safe, but those people that use high volume, or increased gravity fed do have the potential risk of perforation, like people who go for high colonic irrigation can result in perforation and death unless the pressure is carefully monitored and adjusted, your average kitchen faucet or shower head can cause serious injury, much like putting a condom over the spigot it will get bigger but also weaker until it explodes, your insides are much the same way. Careful use/play is recommended with anything introduced into the body.

As far as frequency , if using a stimulant chemical or agent once at the most twice a month, using tap water alone I know people who do it daily for the last 18 years and because of lack of feeling they will have to continue the rest of there lives.
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Xpluswearer,

Tetra has got it right. Where did you learn all this Tetra? Most folks know next to nothing on this topic.

It is counterintuitive. My bowel incontinence is due to severe chronic constipation. The constipation causes a blockage; stool backs up and then overflows as diarrhea. It is called overflow constipation or overflow diarrhea. As the basic cause is the constipation, you treat the constipation rather than the diarrhea.:smile: I have been treated by multiple colorectal surgeons, plus a university medical clinic specializing in my type of problems. I have been through all the gastrointestinal diagnostics, endosonography, mannometry, and even videodefecography where they fill your lower colon with barium and you poop while being video x-rayed. The use of daily preemptive enemas to manage fecal incontinence is a standard treatment, although more common in Europe than in the U.S. The big pharmacy companies make no profit from soapsuds enemas, so you do not see much mention of them.

I have nerve trauma to my pelvic area and to the nerves of my rectum due to an old accident that almost killed me. That makes my medical situation more complicated to diagnose and treat. The nerve damage affected the my sphincter muscles as well as the nerves in the rectum that normally give us warning that we need to poop. I either do not get those signals or get them almost too late to get to a bathroom.

I decided that enemas, always effective and safely self-administered in the privacy of my bathroom, at a convenient time of my own choosing were preferably to uncontrollably pooping my pants in public. Sorry to be graphic, but those are the type of decisions that we have to make. After my morning enemas I am able go about a normal day and do not need to worry about my fecal incontinence until the next morning. As I also am bladder incontinent, I still must wear diapers.

I'm older than you guys. When I was growing up enemas were very common home remedies so I do not regard them as being a big deal.

With the approval of my doctors, I have self-administered over 3,000 enemas - without a problem. These are old-fashioned red rubber bag soapsuds and saline enemas. However, I studied what to do in order to insure that they are safe, effective, and as comfortable as possible. I never use the chemical Fleets enemas. If you use daily enemas it is necessary to avoid any "exotic" solutions or ridiculously large volumes of enema solution. They simply are not necessary for our stated result.

--John

JDVirginia,
Now I understand thank you . I was thinking of when I had a uncle go in for a procedure and they administered a emena and perforiated that area down there and he had to go in for emergency surgery to repair that area . So I am skeptical of them sorry .

PlotTwist said:

For me, being incontinent is like being a DL when it's horribly inconvenient. There's no choice or option to wear - it's a requirement. When it's hot, sweaty, and nasty out, you still have to wear. It's having to ensure you have enough protection with you at all times, because if you don't, you WILL end up with a leak, and murphy's law says it'll probably be at the most embarrassing moment.

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Same here, living with incontinence and having to wear diapers in southern Nevada heat is horrid.
Winter is the only nice time I can live with it, like having thick, insulated underwear >u<

But yeah, there isn't much to like about it for me. Wearing diapers is nice and I still have some fondness for wearing some of the time, the safe and secure feeling I can't get anywhere else except diapers. But most of the time I really wish I had my control back.

Xpluswearer, my understanding is that most of the reported injuries from enemas are from the narrow nozzles of Fleet and other generic chemical enemas perforating the rectum. I always use larger and very rounded nozzles, both for bag enemas and for bulb syringes as well.

Most people do not realize that the traditional thin enema "pipe" nozzles that come with drugstore enema kits originally were not intended to be inserted into the anus. They were intended to be inserted into a soft colon tube, the other and rounded end of which would be inserted very safely into the rectum.

--John

jdinvirginia said:

Most people do not realize that the traditional thin enema "pipe" nozzles that come with drugstore enema kits originally were not intended to be inserted into the anus. They were intended to be inserted into a soft colon tube, the other and rounded end of which would be inserted very safely into the rectum.

--John

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I am one of those that did not know this. Why isn't the rectum tube included in an enema kit?

One of the worst impacts incontinence have on you, is your sex life. No more quickies' it has to be planned if you want such fun, you have to shower before being intimate. Before you could have a quickie, no more. From own experience, my wife do not want to go down on me, without planning, since she knows the diaper I'm wearing most likely are wet. It kills the fun for her
Don't go the incontinence route, wear your diapers for fun nothing more.


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