I have told my wife and my best friend - also assorted therapists over the years. Once talked about it in a confidential men's retreat weekend too.
I don't feel the need to expose my private life any more than that - I no longer need diapers at night- and so all my use is just by preference at this point. I suppose that if I had a medical condition (other than mental) that necessitated diapers, I might be more apt to let others in.
It's been many years though and I feel a lot less shame about it over all. It's kind of a non issue - at the same time, I know that most people I know wouldn't understand easily. No sense in putting stress on relationships for something that isn't a need to know issue.
Another factor for me personally - and I suspect for others here - is that making my diaper kink public could be like a nuclear bomb on my professional life. I love what I do, I've gone to school for many years to do it - revelation of my diaper likes could very well become a scandal for me. Why risk it?
I have a lot to lose and the relatively positive outcome of being more open isn't enough to risk losing my career. For someone without a career/calling to lose, it might not be an issue to be more Open.
It's interesting reading the comments - our Abdl community is very diverse and obviously has many different takes and walks of life. What might make total sense for one of us might be insane for others. I'm glad that most of us here on adisc at least agree that feeling shamed and horrible over wanting diapers/babying is unhealthy and unnecessary.
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