Hi sisi, you bring up a lot of very interesting questions. Not a lot of people agree what a 'Little' is or why someone is a 'Little'. But hearing different peoples opinions and experiences helps us all better understand ourselves. This is what I think;
sisi said:
What is a "Little."?
The best definition of it that I have found is:- term used to describe people who occasionally use Age-play to regress to an infant or child-like state.
But the word "occasionally" I found interesting, every now and then which would be a fetish, but is it? Or is this a life styal choice?
I think the word 'occasionally' is the wrong idea for a 'Little'. 'Littles' are 'mostly' regressed in a child-like state. They 'act' like adults when they need to. And 'Littles' are not play acting so it's the wrong idea to call it 'age-play'.
Being a 'Little' or an 'Adult Baby' is not a fetish, it's an identity. You can't choose to be a 'Little', you just are.
A fetish is a sexual focus on a nonliving object or nongenital body part. Being a 'Diaper Lover' IS a fetish if the diaper is a sexual thing.
You can do almost anything as a life-style choice (doing it 24/7), but being 'Little' as a lifestyle choice is not a good idea because your job in life is to be an adult and do adult things. There should be a balance.
Where I/we have choicen to be this way? But I also question that. Was I born this way?
I don't think that being a 'Little' is a choice nor are you born that way. I think it starts with some event in your childhood. Mine was having a two year old baby sister when I was going through puberty. I envied all the cuddles she got.
I know that I did won't to grow up when I was a child keeping and playing with toys that my pears had stopped playing with. I just seem happer play with toys that were for the children jounger than me even back then.
'Littles' and 'Adult Babies' attach to elements of their childhood (called 'comfort objects', the diaper in particular) because it brings them comfort.
I remember my muther telling me to grow up. And it really hearting. I told her that I did woun't to, she told me that we all had to and I diden,t have a choice.
But the child like state what does this look like? For me I still play with toys that are about 3+
I have a two favourite stuffs Rex the Dog and Peter the Ninja Rabit.
It's really hard to describe 'child-like state' and 'regression' to someone who doesn't regress. For me, it's a deeply relaxed state of mind where my adult thoughts and interest become child thoughts and interest. For regression, I'd compare it to being hypnotized, your mind just slips back into a child-like state.
I wear diapers but I don't need them. I like wearing at time and it depends on what I am doing in the day. It is a morning debate with myself whether I put one on or not.
I like Drinking from a bottle don't know why, I think it becouse I don't spill but I not into babby food, how ever I do enjoy children's food, things like boiled egg and soldiers, sketty shapes on waffles, and the like. What I call comfort food.
I Also suck a pasifer or if I don't have my pasifer I suck my thumb sometimes with out thinking.
There are also time when I don't understand the world around me and I get friten.
That's what your comfort objects (like your diapers, pacifier and plushies) are there for.
So I think I am what know as an "ABDL Little Boy."
If you're an ABDL Little Boy most of the time, I'd call you a 'Little'.
I'm an ABDL only occasionally so I call myself an 'Adult Baby'.
How about you. Who did you come to this what ever it is?
Do you see it as a fetish which you indulge in occasionally?
Or is it a life styal choice? Or where you born this way?
What do you do when you get friten? Or you fill really shy?
Sorry for all the questions it just I am feeling vonable at the moment and I don't have a care giver to help me.
Thank Q
Sisi
When I feel really shy, I get near people who I know and feel comfortable with. Sometimes I get in medium sized groups (12 people or so) where I can blend in but still be part of the group (like my hiking group).
The idea is to push yourself just a little. It will make you less frightened and less shy.