I did it! I finally came out to my girlfriend about my DLism. It was a long nervous process frought with panic and worry. I assured her that my coming out to her was infact the highest honor, trustwise, that i could bestow on someone. Were always open to adventure in the covers but we've had issues talking outright which made it crazy difficult to open up. Its always been a trial and error situation with the ol' S'n'M. So while driving back from burningman to B.C. i started talking about the stuff shes into and segwayed into weird kinks, the flopsweat started, throat went dry, and i dove in. Im still shy about asking for what i want out of it but iv made the hardest leap. And it went well.
So! Just as a reassurance to those struggling with this issue, it IS possible! Hang in there! love the crap out of eachother and things can go well. No assurances but my experience was stellar.