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    Over the past month or so, I have made the decision to try to live a Christian life, that meant breaking up with my fiancé, giving up porn, and cease identifying myself as ABDL and wearing diapers.

    I'm conflicted about so many things, that I'm willing to give up my newfound faith.

    What do you guys have think?

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    I'm christian and I don't leave my ABDL life, i think basically Christian faith just want you believe and leave bad worldly lifestyle like porn you said because it was sin or other said "not good", I don't see the side of sin in ABDL and I feel this all was fine, i don't know what's your religion but whatever you just make sure your live with positive and good, just it. If you wanted to live in Christian and you think that make you broke up with your fiance, sorry but personally that's okay to let her go but you can talked to her if you really need her. You must have priority if you want to live in something and keep it.

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    I'm an atheist myself, so I'm probably a little confused as to why you feel the need to give up the things and person you love in the hopes that some newfound religion will make your life any better (I don't care either way about the porn). To me, it sounds like you will be worse off by breaking ties with people you love, giving up the things that bring you comfort, all for the sake of a religion that may not even require you to do so. You are throwing away the most important things in your life that bring you comfort and support, all for a religious gamble based on a loose or distorted interpretation of what it means to be a Christian.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with how you have been living your life, and you shouldn't feel the guilt or shame associated with religion to make you believe you need to reject everything that is important to you. You can have a balanced life, one that includes keeping your fiancée and your ABDL identity, hell, even a bit of porn, and still follow Christian principles. If you try to be a good person who is respectful and caring of others then that is all any religion should require from you, not sacrificing the things that are a part of you without any meaningful purpose. It shouldn't have to be an 'either-or' proposition, it is simply a matter of finding the right balance in your life.

    What if you were to give up all the things that were important to you in order to follow this religion, and then discover that this religion is not right for you? What happens when you realize that there are many different interpretations to religious doctrine, none of which tell you to give up the people you love? What happens when you realize you can't simply close the door to your ABDL identity and it returns (and we all know it returns) What happens if you've given up all the love and support in your life only to discover it was a big mistake? How much will you lose that you won't be able to get back?

    I think the problem is that you are still struggling with self-acceptance as are many people on this site. It's been a struggle for so many of us, however, I believe that real religion comes from deeply held beliefs and values that can stand up to scrutiny. There are many Christians who have reconciled sexual orientation, gender identity or ABDL tendencies with Christian values. Religion, like humanism or atheism, is not meant to be a quick fix solution to finding happiness, indeed I think your interpretation of the requirements of being a good Christian will only leave a bigger void in your life, resulting in greater unhappiness.
    Last edited by Starrunner; 12-Sep-2016 at 01:44.

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    I get the porn part of it.

    Out of context, its not clear why your fiancé would be counter to a Christian belief.

    ABDL in and of itself isn't addressed by Christian beliefs. Some aspects of it might be considered sinful, I suppose. No reason to throw out the baby with the bathwater, though.

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    As an outsider to the whole religion thing, it seems like there is a fair amount of flexibility in terms of how you interpret your particular chosen God's wishes, I'd probably go that route.

    Either way you've got some options:

    - Re-examine your interpretation of your faith until it aligns with your preferences (or at least a sizable subset). This seems to be the most common. Find some way of looking at things where your God is a-ok with the diaper thing, hell probably even encourages it.

    - Force yourself to give it all up and try to convince yourself that you are a happier person for it. Most experience would seem to indicate that repressing big chunks of who you are is bad for your mental health, but it's your life to live as you want.

    - Force yourself to give it all up and just accept that you will be miserable for it but decide that it is worth it to remain in compliance with your current interpretation of your chosen God's wishes.


    End of the day, your life to live or waste as you please.

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    If religion is supposed to improve your life, but yet if you find yourself forced to give up a major part of yourself and make your life miserable, is it really doing any good?

    I'm an agnostic, and believe religion does more harm than good myself. You of course are free to follow your own path, but I'd caution you to evaluate just what you think accepting Christianity will do for you. If you feel like being a Christian means giving up important things in your life, I think you're simply setting yourself up for failure and disillusionment.

    There are ab/dl's whose religious beliefs coexist with their fetish/lifestyle, but to do so happily I think there's certain things that one has to accept. In the end this basically means taking a more liberal, open view of Christianity and the Bible - believing that being a good Christian is more about how you treat others and less about following every letter of the Scriptures to a t. After all, if we are made in ''the image and likeness of God'', I fail to see how something that we cannot control, something as integral to ourselves as being ab/dl, is sinful or harmful as long as we do not let it get in the way of otherwise leading a good, moral life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maxx View Post
    I get the porn part of it.

    Out of context, its not clear why your fiancé would be counter to a Christian belief.

    ABDL in and of itself isn't addressed by Christian beliefs. Some aspects of it might be considered sinful, I suppose. No reason to throw out the baby with the bathwater, though.
    I feel similarly.
    Im a Christian. Porn is destructive beyond the moral dimension (objectification, empty lust, etc) through the addictive cycle and what it teaches about what healthy sexuality ought to look like.

    When it comes to wearing diapers, I am at peace with that as it relates to my Christian faith. It's a comfort mechanism in some ways - like jogging or watching tv or coffee. If completely out of whack, I can see how any of those things or others (including diapers) could be judged as sinful or wrong.
    On another level it has to do with sexual preference. Is it wrong for me to be turned on by my wife wearing certain clothing? Makes no sense. Is it wrong because it's judged as unnatural? (That's a slippery slope if there ever was one. And who's to say what the "natural" place diapers should have in our minds. We all like different things when it comes to sex and in the Christian ethic, as long as it takes place between two married adults, who consent with one another, and who enter the experience with a desire to serve and love the other, it's in bounds.

    Idk. I honor you if you feel convicted. I don't. Many of us don't. If there is such a thing as a grey area, diapers for Christians is a great example. It all notches up to how we feel about it and relate to it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maxx View Post

    Out of context, its not clear why your fiancé would be counter to a Christian belief.


    Quote Originally Posted by AEther View Post
    If you wanted to live in Christian and you think that make you broke up with your fiance, sorry but personally that's okay to let her go but you can talked to her if you really need her. You must have priority if you want to live in something and keep it.

    According the profile of the OP, Crinklesaurus identifies as gay, bi, and male. Considering the vitriol and contempt the fundamentalist Christians have thrown at the LGBT population, its small wonder that a young, gay male who is struggling with sexual identity and religion would feel confused and marginalized.

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    Those who are religious try to tell us to not judge.
    So there are some things you can't control, like the ABDL identification.
    But why on Earth would you leave your fiance for religion? Isn't that a sign that it isn't good for you?

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    Different strokes for different folks.

    If you feel that religion should dictate certain aspects of your life, you should follow your conscience. However, never sacrifice what does not need to be sacrificed for the sake of someone else or something else.

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