CeciliaJester said:
Hello all!
Well this may seem a bit of an odd question... But does anyone have any good suggestions for finding a mommy/daddy/caregiver? I've been searching all over and the only decent solution I found was a website... But it required a payment just to read the messages which I think is a bit silly... >.<
Any suggestions would honestly help tons!
Hugs and Kisses~
Cecilia
I've tried everything, rupadded, diapers pace, ABDL match, kwink. They are all the same, full of creeps and ABDL match is a scam with fake accounts trying to contact you.
FetLife has been the only success for me. You meet serious people who understand that this is a need and fetish but have real life's to live too. The meetups and planning the community goes into matchmaking works wonders. Just don't show up smelling like a poopy diaper. Clean up, open your mind a little. Be professional, polite and confident and understand warning signs and the word no. If you suffer from social anxiety like the rest of us. Read and study how to court soneone. Look for tips on the internet. Knowing your supposed to look someone in the eyes when you talk and there body language will instruct you on if you have a good social common ground to inquire if you want to pursue that relationship.
Tips for anyone -
we are all meeting up here for the same reason.
Treat others how you want to be treated and if you want to be funny make your jokes and sarcasm appropriate.
Think before you speak.
Im very open minded and consider myself heterosexual but curious with the right person. If another guy came up to me and the first sentence was "hi, can I change your diaper?" I would lable you creep and avoid you at all costs. You went from little success to no success immediately and no chance to ever recover. I also believe that's the reason why it's soo hard for some of us to ever connect with the hundreds of creepy messages I get.
If someone went up to me and said this " hi, how are you? You seem pretty cool, I'm such and such and think it would be awesome to get to know you better." Wait for a reply.
As long as your clean, looking nice and smiling. Didn't matter if your 20 years older than me. I would be inclined to entertain your conversation to see if we indeed have anything common in interests. Then it's just about objection handing. Don't ever be afraid to ask "why not?". Respect them for anything they reply. It's just a learning curve to not crush your feelings. It's better for them to reject you for saying I have someone else I'm interested in or you don't seem like my type than you thinking forever you did something wrong.
A lot of people are shallow, colour, race, skin tone, age, hair no hair. We can't control everything but be confident and be who you believe us the best person you can be. I promise someone will come along one day. Dating and meeting people is never easy for both baby and parent.
I never paid for a mommy or daddy but believe without a social and friendly relationship you wouldn't have the same experience as someone you love and trust as family. I was a TBDL in my youth always dreaming of meeting a mommy to punish me. Now my mind a little different looking to have a brat of my own to baby. I also think DL is a lot more sexual and AB are more regressive. You don't need both in a relationship or ever at the same time.
This was supposed to be a short message sorry for rambling. Hope my advice wasn't too much. Just want more people to understand it's very hard for anyone to find the right person. Just doesn't happen after the first person you ask.