I've been suffering with bedwetting and urge/overactivity during the day for almost 9 years and during that time I have gone from wearing Drynites during the day/night through to using a full sized taped pad during the night and a heavy duty pullup during the day.
I have the most fantastic partner and close family who support me fully with my incontinence, ensure I'm comfortable and emotionally happy with the situation, however for the last 18 months or so I have an awful feeling of loneliness. Sometimes when I've had an accident in my pad, my partner will mention that I should perhaps go and change as she can smell it or has noticed a bulge- despite trying to be as observant as possible, it keeps happening.
It's quite difficult to explain, but say for instance when I wake up in the middle of the night with a used nappy I feel so guilty and sad. Also, during the day when we can be out somewhere and I know that I've used my pad I feel incredibly subdued and almost embarrassed/guilty when I have to go and change myself.
I've only felt like this ever since I had an incident outside a disabled toilet at a shoping centre 18 months ago. I always tend to use disabled toilets as they have bins for used pads; on this one occasion, I had quite an angry confrontation with the husband of a wheelchair bound lady who was waiting to use the toilet after me. He demanded to know what medical problem I had and to justify my reasons for using the toilet, but I'm awful in such confrontational situations and froze, stuttered a bit and ended up walking off almost in tears.
Any advice would be appreciated; I just feel that I'm in a catch-22 situation as feeling upset tends to aggravate my problem and its bad enough already!