I'm male, 5'7, and about 225 pounds for reference. I'm using either large or extra large bambino bellisimos, depending on which one I feel more confident with at the time.
By 'leak free' I'm hoping for the following:
- that the diaper should hold the first wetting without leaking, assuming its completely dry before hand and that one is standing up, regardless of how much that first wetting is. I don't flood on purpose, but I can't wear all the time every day so I sometimes have to wait a while to get some private time to use a diaper.
- That the diaper can be wet at least 2-3 times in total, assuming at most 1 is a huge wetting.
Some people around me insist that I need to lose weight to not leak anymore. However dieting is VERY HARD for me since I rely on food as a comfort more then anything else.
I recently had a few weeks where I wore diapers occasionally, followed by 1 week where I got to wear all day for 4 of the 7 days. That whole time I didn't have any issues not counting leaking since my diaper was too wet already since I was still experimenting with total capacity.
Then the next day, just when I thought my leak issues were finally over I leaked during a first wetting, I wonder if I'll ever solve this...
P.S. In the past I've purposefully let my bladder fill up a lot and wet a diaper to see if its possible for it to hold everything, since I figured that if it can hold a huge wetting, it can hold something smaller too. I've succeeded with that a few times but its not much of a confidence booster.
edit: In addition to that, I'm wondering if an occasional leak is simply human error? Meaning that I shouldn't worry about as much as I do? As is it feels like I need to reset some aspects of my comfort level each time I leak, and that's not very comforting each time it happens