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    buddyroo2000

    Question Preparing to explain.

    So after accepting the fact that I'm an AB\DL made me realize that I need to make the proper preparations in case someone finds out...
    I do have one option, in my computers word documents I have a list of commonly asked questions that come with answers written by me. have any of you guys and gals made any preparations, or are you okay with talking face-to-face?

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    Find a good video or website that can back up what you are saying and explaining that you are not the only person, but face to face is important.

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    For me, what angelic said was true, face to face is important,
    but it is better if you prepare well for what you want to say to them.

    because if you lose in the words when explaining, it would be dangerous for you and that would make them suspicious.
    The main thing is don't get too worried and nervous to be get caught.
    and you must believe that you are not the only person like angelic says.


    Thanks
    MaxToddler

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    Quote Originally Posted by buddyroo2000 View Post
    So after accepting the fact that I'm an AB\DL made me realize that I need to make the proper preparations in case someone finds out...
    I do have one option, in my computers word documents I have a list of commonly asked questions that come with answers written by me. have any of you guys and gals made any preparations, or are you okay with talking face-to-face?

    Hi buddyroo2000

    I don't recommend making statements to anybody if you don't have to. But if you do need to explain your lifestyle then as my freands have said face to face is best.

    Most of us find that keeping ourselves to ourselves is better than having to explain to people that don't understand or know about our life style which we call the "vanillas." Don't ask me why we just do.

    Any way this is not all way posabel and there are time when we have to explain about regression and AB Little.

    This is how I explain it.

    "Little"or "Adult Baby" or "AB"- is a term used to describe people who uses regresion to an infant or child-like state. Most Little or adult babies regress into either infants or toddler mind set, know as "Little space" while in this mind set they will act as a child and will see things in a childlike way.

    ABs and Littls typically like to wear/use/play with stereotypically infantile items such as toys, bottles,stuffed animals ect.

    There are also some people that are know as "Diaper Lovers" "DL" some DL's just wear Diapers and are not AB or Little and not all Littles are in to Diaper wearing.

    Unless it is medical DL is considered a fetish for many and it is not allway sexual for everyone.

    Being an AB Little can satisfy needs such as comfort, intimacy of a non-sexual nature, it is a way of coping with the stresses of dealing with life as an adult.

    Littles and Adult Baby have a age identity. Being in our Little space brings an identity that conveys a mix of both adult and infant characteristics

    Or just tell them you have a form of Peter Pan syndrome, and this is how you cope with life.
    I Prefer to do that as I don't need to go into all the details. And I have found that most people will leave it at that.

    Hope this helps you.

    Sisi

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    I think having a generally prepared statement isn't valuable because ABDL covers a broad spectrum of behaviors and the best explanation will vary depending on things like your relationship to the person who finds out, their age and education level, and how they found out.

    Broadly speaking, what you should think about is what ABDL means to you. The trappings aren't important. You wear diapers, or you drink from a bottle, or you like baby clothes, that's all whatever. What people care about in understanding what we do is the motivation. Is it sexual for you? Does it help you relax or feel comfortable? Does it bring you joy? Think about how you would describe your own ABDL desires, why they're something that's an important and helpful part of your life, and focus on that.

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    As others have said, a face-to-face talk is normally best, however, having written out possible questions and answers beforehand can help you be more confident when that face-to-face talk is needed and it can be used if a face-to-face talk can not take place for some reason.

    I also agree with @ArchieRoni that talking more to the WHY and not the HOW or WHAT of your ABDL is better. Generally I don't think there is a need to tell people you use a bottle or diapers or whatever until the person knows why you are doing it.

    I hope you never have to use it but it is comforting to have the talking points ready.

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    I haven't really thought about it much. I suppose, if I was "found out", I'd probably just say it was a private thing they don't need to worry about, and leave it at that. If it doesn't involve you, it's not really any of your business, so it makes no difference.

    I suppose... I don't really feel like there would be anything to explain if someone found out. I'd be like, "Heh. That's awkward. Oh well. Let's never speak of this. C'est la vie!"

    If I had to "explain myself", the word "fetish" sums it up accurately enough for anyone to get the gist.

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    Good advise from above. I also wondered why you thought you would be caught and by who? It's always good to know why you enjoy wearing diapers because it can bring greater acceptance as to why we wear. Once you accept the why, it's easier to explain the reasons to someone else should that be necessary or desired.

    When My wife discovered my diaper order, I was in good shape to explain because it was something that I had already given a lot of thought too. In fact, I think I have been doing that for many years, ever since I was wanting diapers. Because I was prepared, she easily accepted my need for diapers and that I will regress. As a result, she has supported me completely.

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    What if being ABDL isn't a fetish and is a lifestyle, it becomes more contriversial!?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angelic View Post
    What if being ABDL isn't a fetish and is a lifestyle, it becomes more contriversial!?
    i think people will reject the existence of abdl as a lifestyle, and it will threaten the existence of abdl and we will definitely be relegated.
    Last edited by MaxToddler; 28-Jun-2016 at 12:44.

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