The way I was able to kind of get my wife to somewhat accept that I like to wear (not that she wants me to and does think it is disgusting, but at least will tolerates it on occasion) is to do extra nice and special things for her while wearing. In bed, this can mean being extra attentive to her "needs" so to speak sexually. I wont go into details, keeping this PG, but there is plenty you can do for her. Do this without expecting anything back. Be extra involved, focussed and unrelentless in your passion to please her. When she had enough and asks, "what got into you"?, say, I get extra excited and crazy for you when wearing (by the way, do this with the diaper on but covered with a boxer so she doesn't know you were wearing at the time, only when done, guide her hand down to feel it on you). Make it about her when you wear, not you. Soon she will realize that diaper wearing is much more than a "disgusting" act. It becomes a bonding to a higher level. Now don't substitute every time she wants to be intimate with you by wearing a diaper. But if you can mix this in slowly and add a bit of extra attentiveness to her needs when wearing, the association will likely become more acceptable. It is when you go full boat and only get "in the mood" when wearing, that this can backfire. Then diapers will surely become a big negative to her. Use discretion, timing, and above all, focus on her, not the diaper wearing. Add it in as that extra special spice in a recipe, not an every time kind of thing. This should lead to a more positive acceptance over time. Eventually she will likely also want to make you feel "nice" after taking care of her. That is when it can be real fun and potentially get her involved with you wearing. Slow and steady wins the race...just don't focus only on you, even if she starts to. It will be a sure way for this to backfire, trust me on this part.