fluffyhuskyABDL said:
im going to add my two sence on this one. i understand the whole pink is for girls and blue is for boys thing but surely its just society trying to force people to be the same. you know what they say about the world. they want everyone to be the same and individuality is to be scorned or ridiculed. we must all be perfect little slaves to society.
i will say this now, i do like the color pink as well. the amount of times i used to have to have pink t-shirts and i wouldn't care if people saw me wearing pink clothes of any type but if i was to do it now i would get stared at or people would point and make comments, which is annoying for me as i have anxiety issues.
what needs to be done is for people to not give a crap about what the majority think and do what they want despite peer pressure and the fear of ridicule.
one last point im going to make here is that children dont care about what color clothes or what colors they like if they boyish or girly its society and possibly family members or friends that force them to fit in with everyone else and be 'normal' so to speak.
this kind of problem is a learned problem, children do not come out of the womb automatically likeing or hateing a certain colour.
right im going to stop now as im going off topic.
I still gently suggest that our lovely male base that wants to wear pink shirts give it a try a few times before they for sure decide on what people's reactions will be. I think it's just important to try.
On the rest..
I also think that as much as children don't come birthed from the womb with these feelings, children do not actually really learn these things on purpose as well. I read a father once describe how his daughter gained a love of princesses, without him ever introducing the concept of them to her. He actually really never intended to, not being a fan of what princess culture tended to teach young girls, but she gained an appreciation for them anyway. So he started writing stories about amazing, independent, brave princesses because if his daughter was going to like princesses he wanted to make sure they would be good role models for her.
The reason this happened and why gender stereotypes keep being reinforced at such a young age without any effort is simple. Children are sponges and when they see people who feel like them like these things, do these things, wear these things, they use all of these things to start forming their opinions about themselves and their place in the world. No one has to tell a little girl that she SHOULD like pink, if enough little girls around her like it.. she's very likely to want to like it too. It's natural. It's what happens. It's a big part of how very young children learn. So the problem is that the world around them is contstnatly reinforcing the idea of what a "girl" is and what a "boy" is..
The problem is this is cyclical and a very hard pattern to break. What a girl is often shaped by marketing, by other girls, by what they see labeled as "for them" in stores and the like. Businesses have a lot of money of making sure this really doesn't change either. People staying easy and predictable is how they make money. They want to get as many people wanting the same thing as possible because that's broad appeal. So they follow market trends on what sells for the children they are making products for, and it's a unfortunate, honest truth that the pretty pink princess stuff is one of the quickest ways to sell things to parents with young girls, and to young girls directly. So they flood the market place with this stuff because it sells easy, and it continues to reinforce behaviors that will keep them coming back for more.
I used girls sorta soft naturally, but it's the same with boys.. and it's the reason why this is a thing. Boys liking blue, and boys liking Spider-Man, and boys liking cars is simple. It makes making products, and getting profits from parents easy. And then it continues to reinforce in children what being a boy means.
We are going to have to continue to become more and more open minded with gender, and how quick was assign what place in the gender dance a person wants to be in, before we can make serious changes to it. Just telling a boy that he can like pink isn't as important as telling a boy, or girl, or whatever that they can BE ANYTHING. A tough task when our captalist society (and I'm not knocking it, I'm just explaining) works best when we aren't "anything" but.. "black male, 20 years of age" or "white female, 22 years of age". Marketing, advertising, and the rest is reliant on putting people in boxes.
