Originally Posted by LittleLonelyOtter
All the replies here so far have pretty well covered some of the basics on abuse and what you might put up with or not...
So, let's get specific about the fact that he is subduing you with force:
- To get his way
- Because he is angry
- He wants to
- He doesn't know any better
Whatever it is - he is using his hands as a weapon against you.
If he was using a stick, knife or, rope (or any other thing) to subdue you for the reasons listed - What would you think then?
Even though there is debate on whether improper use of pressure-points can lead to lasting injuries or even death...
Bad things can happen whether intended or not.
Then, you add the physical issues like scoliosis which puts your body at a greater disadvantage (more susceptible to injury).
Add the emotional and psychological issues...
Then you say
"He's never aggressively hurt me, but he will press on painful spots relentlessly until I give in."
Pressing on painful spots - is hurting you (and physically controlling you).
...relentlessly until you give in. (is aggressive)
HE is certainly - aggressively
... You have you!
Aside from my cats and my actual mom and grandma
Dumb arguments are fine - it's what we do... and that may be where it starts but, once he begins physically subduing you and/or emotionally intimidating you - it's no longer a dumb argument.
- It's abuse of power
- It's abuse of trust
- It's abuse of love?
- It's abuse of safety
- It's abuse of you
Yeah, you don't have to report it to police-
You don't have to leave (him or there)-
BUTMy best to you,
You must make this stop!