So I've got an interesting quandary on my hands... I've been a DL all my life, but always kept it quiet and on the down low until I became incontinent from unrelated reasons (trust me, that part is not fun, even for a DL). My significant other has (obviously) known about my diapers as a necessity and has been supportive of me, almost to a conspicuous degree.
The only time she's directly exposed to them is when we go to bed at night, as I change myself in the bathroom and always wear clothes over them, but she's repeatedly mentioned that "you know, some people are into that kind of thing" while stroking my diaper and pulling at the tapes playfully. In addition to this, one time when we were at a house party at my friends' place where we were staying, I had to step away to change my diaper as it was getting full. I walked away without telling anyone what I was doing and started to change in our room, and she came knocking on the door looking to watch me change, and even said "we could be married some day, so I want to see". In addition to even that, I had some sample diapers I had ordered that didn't fit me that she asked about, I told her and she said "Oh, well maybe I'll wear them"... and she has no problems with IC at all.
So, anyone here would think "She's gotta be a DL", right? Well, I was a bit shy to bring it up for a while, but finally suggested she try one on. The response I get? "Oh no, oh god no, haha". I mean, the way I phrased it was more of asking her if she'd like to try t as opposed to saying I'd like her to try it (realized that after the fact), but still this is a rather mixed message. Even though we're still totally cool, I was absolutely not expecting such a negative response after all those cues.
I'm not sure how (if I should even try) bringing it up again. I guess I'll wait for the next hint from her, unless she completely stops that?