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    Good afternoon,

    A very close friend of mine identifies as asexual. She is very timid and shy to any form of affection from anybody and always has been for as long as I've known her (5+ years). I never really put the pieces together but I've been spending more time with her recently and she has very babyish tendencies. She likes to color in coloring books and talk like a small child without really realizing shes doing it. Granted, I'm a DL and not an AB/Little so those are some traits I consider an AB/Little having. In terms of her sexual kinks, she is very vanilla and can guarantee she has no idea what an AB/DL even is. Her life is very stressful; full time job and school and doesn't rely on anybody else to sustain her. 21 years old. As a DL who is demisexual myself, I have a slight feeling that she would enjoy wearing diapers as a stress relief or to self satisfy a desire she can't feel with other people. I already have a nonchalant way of bringing up the diaper discussion with her and very casually suggesting she may like to try it herself. We are both very trusting of each other and what each others thoughts are, so her response wouldn't be of disgust. I'm posting this here as an open discussion to toss ideas or advice around for a situation such as this or how to go about it.

    Thank you all, have a wonderful day

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    As good as an idea as it may be, I would make sure that you're introducing it to her for the right reasons. I may sound rude in saying that, but even the best intentions may have some subconscious thought behind them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Legolas View Post
    As good as an idea as it may be, I would make sure that you're introducing it to her for the right reasons. I may sound rude in saying that, but even the best intentions may have some subconscious thought behind them.
    Thank you for bringing this point up. I meant to hit on this in my opening post.

    No ulterior motives behind this. We never had a connection that was anymore than that of being friends and as stated, she is asexual and I am demisexual, neither of which we are attracted to one another. I am type of person that goes out of my way to try and accommodate people I care about and do everything in my power to see them happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by akm44 View Post
    Thank you for bringing this point up. I meant to hit on this in my opening post.

    No ulterior motives behind this. We never had a connection that was anymore than that of being friends and as stated, she is asexual and I am demisexual, neither of which we are attracted to one another. I am type of person that goes out of my way to try and accommodate people I care about and do everything in my power to see them happy.
    Very good to hear! I really wish you the best, and hope you are successful in your pitch!

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    I have little experience with introducing uninterested parties to diapers. I'm curious as to why you would think this would be of any assistance? I have a deep-seated desire for diapers but they don't reduce stress for me, other than in the way that doing something pleasureable might. I recognize that for a significant number of ABDLs, stress reduction from diapers appears to be a thing but those are ABDLs and not just someone off the street. In short, I'm curious as to why you think diapers in particular would have any theraputic benefit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    I have little experience with introducing uninterested parties to diapers. I'm curious as to why you would think this would be of any assistance? I have a deep-seated desire for diapers but they don't reduce stress for me, other than in the way that doing something pleasureable might. I recognize that for a significant number of ABDLs, stress reduction from diapers appears to be a thing but those are ABDLs and not just someone off the street. In short, I'm curious as to why you think diapers in particular would have any theraputic benefit.
    hi Trevor,

    I am using myself as a bar of measure to determine the likely hood of somebody I know having similar likes as myself. Everybody wears diapers for various reasons; what might be a form of sexual foreplay to one person may be completely therapeutic to another person. I tend to identify with the later example. Diapers I use to unwind and take my thoughts off of the world and relax. I agree with you that introducing diapers/AB to somebody off of the street would not really be feasible but that is not the situation I described above.

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    Quote Originally Posted by akm44 View Post
    hi Trevor,

    I am using myself as a bar of measure to determine the likely hood of somebody I know having similar likes as myself. Everybody wears diapers for various reasons; what might be a form of sexual foreplay to one person may be completely therapeutic to another person. I tend to identify with the later example. Diapers I use to unwind and take my thoughts off of the world and relax. I agree with you that introducing diapers/AB to somebody off of the street would not really be feasible but that is not the situation I described above.
    I still don't really see the link. Plenty of people like a variety of childish things, I don't think they're in denial about diapers. If you choose to pursue it, I hope it goes well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    I still don't really see the link. Plenty of people like a variety of childish things, I don't think they're in denial about diapers. If you choose to pursue it, I hope it goes well.
    This is exactly the point I'm trying to convey about this friend of mine. She is so vanilla that she wouldn't be able to be in denial about something she doesn't even know is a "thing" (AB/DL).

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    Quote Originally Posted by akm44 View Post
    This is exactly the point I'm trying to convey about this friend of mine. She is so vanilla that she wouldn't be able to be in denial about something she doesn't even know is a "thing" (AB/DL).
    Denial was probably the wrong word. I questioned it to myself after I posted. I don't think that's how it works. I didn't need to have diapers explained to me. It's not a question of vanilla vs. not, it's the fulfillment of a desire. We do hear of people who are led to this by partners who come to enjoy it on their own, but it's pretty rare, even for us. I don't think these things are objectively associated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    Denial was probably the wrong word. I questioned it to myself after I posted. I don't think that's how it works. I didn't need to have diapers explained to me. It's not a question of vanilla vs. not, it's the fulfillment of a desire. We do hear of people who are led to this by partners who come to enjoy it on their own, but it's pretty rare, even for us. I don't think these things are objectively associated.
    I understand what you're saying but will have to respectfully disagree, at least with my own personal situation. I never had a natural desire to always want diapers, I had never even heard of the ABDL community until late in my teenage years when I was researching fetishes (yes, I was a dork ha!). After looking into diapers and the community of DL's out there, I figured it would be something I could engage in with myself and with relative ease of procuring diapers, I just really learned to love wearing them. They bring me comfort and joy more so than a sexual satisfaction. I realize there are many AB/DL's that since from their earliest memory they wanted to wear diapers or be a baby, but that was not my case.

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