Before we begin, this was written on phone with fat thumbs, if you spot any words that don't make sense, that is autocorrect+fat fingers
For those of you who still live at home. What would you do if your mom said "I am going to go to your workplace with you just to watch how you work, then I am going to call your boss and ask how you are doing" even though you are a legal adult and she has no business sticking her nose in your affairs.
This was the argument I had with my mom. I got a job 2 weeks ago delivering newspapers, as with most lines of this first ever real job you get, you make some mistakes the first week or so, but you learn from them and are better off for it, it was the case with me, I made some mistakes, learned from them, and moved on. But to my mom, making mistakes was worth getting a lecture, telling me how my aunt who has done this for years doesn't make mistakes and even said she would be following me while I deliver the papers, just to see how I do it (and critisize me a lot if I know her at all) she also said she would call my boss to hear about his I am doing.
I am turning 19 next week (8th of may, close enough). I am a legal adult, I applied for the job, I get payed for the job, yet its mom's responsibility that it is done correctly because she can't. Ever. Let. Go!
When I started doing this, my step dad asked me if I wanted help the first few days, he had experience with this job from his younger years and could help me get started. So he did, the first 4 days he woke up at 5:30 AM to help me carry out The papers. My mom on the other hand, forces her oppinions on me and stares at me while I slave away, all while constantly asking me why and how I do it like this, and telling me what I am doing wrong.
Last thing I wanted to touch on is the hour I do it. I am a nyctophile, I love the night, its my favorite time of the day. I would never want to sacrifice my precious night time by going to sleep before sundown and wake up at sunrise, I hate the sun. I am the kind that stays awake during the night, goes out at 4 am when the papers arrive at my house, and go to sleep after. I still do my chores, I still do my share in the household, but still my mom is actively trying to get me to change this because I am alseep to long. I usually wake up around 3-4 pm. Then spend all day and night on the computer. My mom wants me to wake up earlier, for nothing, just for the sole reason to wake me up earlier, when I told her "no problem, just wake me up earlier" it was a huge problem for her because it is supposed to be my responsibility to wake up early.... for nothing, to spend more of the day on the computer. If she wants me up early, she has to wake me up early.
I am at a loss... I don't know what to do, she has always been like this and will always be like this. What should I do? This job pays way too little to be able to move out, I can't to most jobs due to many physical and mental disabilities, I can't do any sales jobs because I freak out in loud crowds of people, such as grocery stores, I can't do manual labor due to physical limitations, and not many other jobs are hiring that would accept my skillset and experience, which are next to none.
What should I do? What should I tell her to back off? I am seriously at a loss here.