Bedroom problems tied to diapers?

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FrumJewDL

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My love to diapers goes back a long time, I can recall asking my mother to put me in a diaper at age 3. It never faded over the years.

Now after I got married I realized that I'm suffering from a few 'bedroom problems' PE and ED among others.

So recently my wife nixed me that she thinks my problems all stem from my diaper love and I should immediately stop with the whole diaper thing. I generally disagree with her opinion like I said, I'm into diapers my entire life and I dont think that it is in any way connected.

Does anyone think there is something to it?
 
I'm guessing "PE" is 'premature ejaculation" and "ED" is "erectile dysfunction". If you want advice from people, it's best to be as clear as you can what you're asking. If that's what you're asking, we're not doctors, so we're not going to be able to say with any certainty. However, lots of men have either or both of those without being ABDLs and I don't recall seeing this as a common question from ABDLs, so I think it's at least safe to say any connection isn't obvious. See a doctor about your real problems and keep talking with your wife about the ones you share.
 
Right Trevor. I wrote in initials because I didnt want the mods to remove the post for language.
So my doctor prescribed me Viagra, I'm not asking for cures here. I'm just curious if anyone has ever connected those two to be somehow associated.
 
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Its hard to know for sure how long do you have this problem for?
 
I think that the only 'bedroom problem' that can be tied to diapers is poor sperm quality. You should be checked by your doctor for the issues you are having. You might propose an experiment to your wife. Offer to give up the 'whole diaper thing' for a month, if after a month your 'bedroom problems' are not relieved you are allowed to have diapers again. Hope that your doctor can find and treat the cause of your problem.
 
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I think that the only 'bedroom problem' that can be tied to diapers is poor sperm quality. You should be checked by your doctor for the issues you are having. You might propose an experiment to your wife. Offer to give up the 'whole diaper thing' for a month, if after a month your 'bedroom problems' are not relieved you are allowed to have diapers again. Hope that your doctor can find and treat the cause of your problem.

I've been to my doctor and he prescribed Viagra.

So giving up for a month is not really a solution. She claims that my desire to wear diapers overrides my desire for sexual relationship and thus causing all the problems. She wants me to completely delete any diaper toughts from my head which is a difficult task given the length of my love to diapers (and I really love it, so why give up?).

If anyone can prove to me that the desire to diapers overrides the desire for sex, I will look into giving it up. Otherwise I will remain in diapers not in front of my wife.
 
Well i enjoy my dispers alot but they are not related at all to my ED, I have a vacum pump and constriction bands to use however loading that thing takes more strenth than i have, i used it once before my arm was paralyzed and that was winter of 2005 and was the last time i had sex. ED is frequently linked to heart disease,hypertension, diabetes you are probabbly best suited to see your Doctor and have all theee systems checked to rule out systemic disease as a cause, as for the Ejaculation issue it can be tamed with therapy,basicly building yourself up to just before you feel like your gonna go and then backing off, its conditioing and relaxation.

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FrumJewDL said:
Right Trevor. I wrote in initials because I didnt want the mods yo remove thr post.
So my doctor prescribed me Viagra, I'm not asking for cures here. I'm just curious if anyone has ever connected those two to be somehow associated.

Neither term violates the rules - our PG-13 rule is primarily aimed at people posting detailed sexual fantasies/stories (basically, no porn.)

Just as an FYI - the word Viagra triggers the automatic anti-spam filter, so any posts with it will probably get kicked into a queue for moderator approval. We'll approve the posts, since you're obviously not a spammer. :) However, it can take a few hours up to a day, though.

Looks like you have EC now, and the filter only applies to new members (i.e. Contributors), so never mind the comments on approving posts.

(As far as advice on the thread topic, I'd echo Trevor's comment. Couldn't have put it better.)
 
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I've struggled with the same thing basically. I recently got married too and haven't worn at all the entire time. The desire is still there though and I see my "bedroom" needs as being able to be satisfied either by diapers or by my wife. I find if I fantasize at all about them it detracts from my experience with her later. I love her and want to save all of my desire for her so I've put aside diapers as best I can although it's still a struggle and something I think about every day because that desire never really goes away. To answer your question yes it's possible for diapers to override, or at least take the place of, desiring your wife.

For me I imagine the only time I'll wear is if she goes away for a weekend or something like that. I told her before we got married for full disclosure but I could tell she wouldn't be into it so I never pushed it with her.
 
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So giving up for a month is not really a solution. She claims that my desire to wear diapers overrides my desire for sexual relationship and thus causing all the problems. She wants me to completely delete any diaper toughts from my head which is a difficult task given the length of my love to diapers (and I really love it, so why give up?).
Seems like a selfish request from her.
 
While the diapers themselves won't cause any physiological changes, it could be psychological.
If diapers are your sole source of sexual stimulation, and you are no longer aroused by your partner that could be a problem.

If you can become aroused by diapers but not your wife, her concerns may be valid. Her solution however, is impractical. Find a sex therapist you can both trust and learn to enjoy your intimacy again!

If you have ED and PE problems with or without diapers, then it may not be a bad idea to see a sex therapist anyways. If you are reasonably healthy, the root of your problems may be psychological.

If all else fails, that little blue pill works pretty well :)
 
I've been through the same thing.

Before either of you jump to conclusions or your wife gives you her diagnosis, see a real doctor or urologist.

Also, I'm not sure to which level your wife participates in your fetish, but I've found that if there is a 'give & receive' treating system in the bedroom, things can be kept extremely fresh and exciting. For example, you do something that's all about her, and then the next night she does something thats all about you, diaper or no diaper. Just let her know that you are here to make all of her fantasies come true and that she would be making you the happiest person in the world if she reciprocated.

This worked for me. I just think that the standard, mechanical, non-romantic sex only for the sake of both of us getting off wasn't really working anymore. (do not say that to her) But now things have freshened up, the normal sex still happens and it's great.

Good luck, friend.
 
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