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Allways double diapered, at home and outside. No one cares.
The reality of it is I do everything I can to try and make sure it's not noticable...I wear compression shorts,baggy pants and long loose fitting shorts or pants....but a boosted megamax near capacity is a hard thing to hide I suppose and truthfully I hope no one does notice...I guess I should have been a little more descriptive. Sorry I wrote that after a few shots of whiskey and guess I was feeling bold but the truth is I am always terrified someone will notice but on the same note there isn't anything I can do other than take precautions and hope for the best and just go out and live my life and not be controlled by my condition. I am fortunate in a way as pretty much all the people I care about friends and family all know thanks to a x who thought it would be nice to tell everyone...that was probably the worst and best situation all in one really. It was absolutely terrifying and embarrassing.... But in the end I found out most the people close to me where very understanding. Still felt like a huge violation of privacy but that's another storygreatlake5 said:I think most IC members acknowledge that a good diaper along with a booster, when wet, others probably might know. Often I don't need to change (work, meetings, shopping or sport [golf, biking, tennis and softball]) because the diaper holds the wetness well. Changing's are usually 3 to 4 hours during the day (Abena plastic backed). I'm glad that you're confident with your diaper. I prefer to keep my diaper hidden. especially if it becomes more wet. As for saying "tuff luck" if someone notices, I simply try to prevent showing a heavier diaper. I'm sure most mature adults might know but rarely comment. It's called respect. If someone actually comment, I ignore them so yeah, it's their "tuff lick." It doesn't change my thinking. It's personal and private (even if my diaper is "apparent" or obvious).
All my close friends and family know I am in nappies all the time. It isn't a problem.Raven801 said:The reality of it is I do everything I can to try and make sure it's not noticable...I wear compression shorts,baggy pants and long loose fitting shorts or pants....but a boosted megamax near capacity is a hard thing to hide I suppose and truthfully I hope no one does notice...I guess I should have been a little more descriptive. Sorry I wrote that after a few shots of whiskey and guess I was feeling bold but the truth is I am always terrified someone will notice but on the same note there isn't anything I can do other than take precautions and hope for the best and just go out and live my life and not be controlled by my condition. I am fortunate in a way as pretty much all the people I care about friends and family all know thanks to a x who thought it would be nice to tell everyone...that was probably the worst and best situation all in one really. It was absolutely terrifying and embarrassing.... But in the end I found out most the people close to me where very understanding. Still felt like a huge violation of privacy but that's another story
I feel the same way though I am not AB but am DL.Baloo said:If someone notices that I am wearing a nappy I don't care, I am who I am and I love being padded and being an AB.
Be who you are like me and enjoy your life and stay paddedWetshisbed said:I feel the same way though I am not AB but am DL.
Of course you have that choice. The question was about IC members who were asked if they wore an obvious diaper. Non-IC members sometimes post their thoughts on wearing an obvious diaper in public. Those that actually do that, most who see it understand they're simply being as an exhibitionist (and often like the thrill). Which doesn't really help IC members. Again, IC people prefer to keep their medical issues private. And we have some of them who are completely comfortable if others see their "apparent" diaper in public. The normal population often see this as "sad" or give them with empathy. It's hard to know which obvious diaper wearer is an exhibitionist or simply an IC person. But I think others can figure out who is IC verses ABDL.Baloo said:Be who you are like me and enjoy your life and stay padded
To add context, i am incontinenceVitani said:I do, i rather wear a diapee i know i can trust then to be sorry when the diapee turns out to have less functionality then a useless box
I really question anyone who makes IC part of their identity. When I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease, I was asked by family if I wanted a shirt saying so... it was just so weird and screamed "pitty me". I could see someone have it on a medical wrist band, but I think that would be unnecessary. If you want to tell people you are IC, do so in a way that says: "I'm not afraid to say I'm IC," and not "proud to be IC," as that just comes off as masochistic.daylight said:I think it has been said many times and most recently in this thread, IC folks typically want to disappear in the crowd. AB-ists, DL-ites, whether IC or not AND AND want to live their lifestyle publicly...fine it's your choice. Having a safe space in your dwelling, away from others, can be an outlet, afirming, and healing. Just remember, IC people don't have that choice. I ask, just dial back the bravo BS a bit.
To be clear, it is ok to say "you can't toilet" when asked why you can't do XYZ, or if someone asks for your medical issues. But if you are just going to announce it out of the blue in a prideful way, do it in a way that says it is a life style more than an accommodation.subanark said:I really question anyone who makes IC part of their identity. When I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease, I was asked by family if I wanted a shirt saying so... it was just so weird and screamed "pitty me". I could see someone have it on a medical wrist band, but I think that would be unnecessary. If you want to tell people you are IC, do so in a way that says: "I'm not afraid to say I'm IC," and not "proud to be IC," as that just comes off as masochistic.
I think it is fine to say "I don't toilet anymore". I don't think it is fine to say on its own: "I can't toilet anymore"
As you've said, wearing appropriate clothes sometimes doesn't hide a heavy soiled diaper. Especially when using a thicker diaper with a good booster when soaked. I'm a teacher and often I use a good booster too. My students never say anything but I'm sure some of them might suspect.Raven801 said:The reality of it is I do everything I can to try and make sure it's not noticable [sic - noticeable]...I wear compression shorts,baggy pants and long loose fitting shorts or pants....but a boosted megamax near capacity is a hard thing to hide. truthfully I hope no one does notice... there isn't anything I can do other than take precautions and hope for the best It was absolutely terrifying and embarrassing....
?. I think a majority of our IC members never tell anyone (unless it's a family, close friends or a partner along with medical workers). It's so very personal and private. Of course we have IC/abdl members who enjoy their kink. Showing or telling others that they like to announce the world, I suppose that's your choice. But I don't think you're doing yourself any favors.subanark said:if you are just going to announce it out of the blue in a prideful way, do it in a way that says it is a life style more than an accommodation.
I agree completely. When I first tired Abena M4, after only using Tranquility Slimline before that, I felt like I was wearing the thickest product imaginable. They felt extremely thick and puffy. Now I think of M4’s as being fairly trim But point being, I also use Megamax at times and I consider them to be quite discrete, so long as I’m wearing pants that aren’t too snug in the butt.newt said:Because when I was first wearing diapers, I thought even the crappy, paper thin CVS/Walgreens diapers were SUPER obvious. Now, I know I think I am comfortably discreet in a Megamax, as long as I take some proper precautions and don't wear in situations those precautions are impossible.
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