Got my braces off.....

[James]

Yeah it's regular, well... It's not really like this everyday, but incidents like this have happened on and off, since I was little, it's not just me though, he did that to my sisters, (Which blocked him out of their life for ten years) and my mother, before she passed away.

No, it's not an exaggeration....

I've tried talking to him, on numerous occasions, but he seems to think he is the one being mistreated by ME, haha!

He see's it as, "I don't tell you bullshit son, i tell you how i feel."

@Peachy I would never treat another human being like that, i try to treat everyone with respect, i'm kind of tender hearted, so even small things, can really upset me, i don't think I would even have the heart to say some of the things, he does.


Also, he is not and will not physically lay a hand on me, i will tell him where to go, and will be gone in a second, my sisters know how he is and if i ever have any major trouble with him, then i can go to them.

I think one of the main problems between me and my dad is that he is a older person, sorta' like a grandfather raising me, and he expects me to be completely grown up at sixteen, just because he had to do that at his age.


On a slight less serious note:

RETAINERS SUCK!!!!

[oblivionxi1]

RETAINERS SUCK!!!!

They sure as hell do!

But, I mean seriously. You put up with this? It just seems.. wrong. Sorry that your mum passed away, that may be part of why he does this.

As for going to your sisters, I ment like someone who could do something about it, unless they can do something about it.

I just really dont think that you should have to put up with this, its like.. not okay.

[onikitsune]

James, I'd like to quote some of what you said, but almost all of it is relevant. so I'll do this...
I had a similar relationship with my Dad. yelling, fighting etc. at about the same age. it's one of the reason I decided to devote my life to helping others...
If you learn to diffuse the arguing, you won't feel like you've done something wrong afterwards. I felt like garbage when my Dad and I ignored each other, and the same when either of us "won" an argument.
Your Dad probably does expect you to "be an adult" at 16, a lot of single parents do, but between the two of you, you'll have to figure out what that means. Talking to your Dad when things get heavy can really open up a dialogue that both of you are hoping to be able to say.
As for this incident, I remember the day I got my braces off -- I had to drive myself, borrowing my Dad's car, taking him to work in the morning and picking him up... We didn't argue, but he wasn't happy. He had never had braces, didn't know the horror of the first few weeks that came with getting used to bloody mouth, and sticking metal, he didn't know the worry that came with wondering if there would be little square spots on every tooth because I didn't brush three times a day, he didn't know how much it really meant, and we didn't talk about it.
No, you didn't do anything wrong. You listened to what your father said, and took it at face value. It only seems that sometimes, your Dad doesn't communicate exactly what he's feeling with words.
post a pic of your smile BTW, I'm sure its awesome. And -- a good smile is going to help out your love life too! congrats.
And don't forget to wear your retainer! they suck, but it makes a huge difference.

[h3g3l]

Originally Posted by Pojo

What the hell? If you're not exaggerating at all, then something is wrong with your dad.

Aha, that's the problem, we just see a snapshot of things.

Still, getting braces off is a nice thing.