In public, I'm a big strong man, usually wearing high-vis yellow, camo print outerwear, and steel-toe boots. I've usually got a screwdriver or something in one pocket, and my Milwaukee Fastback II utility knife in the other. I smoke, drink, and swear like a sailor, but I always tip my server well.
In private, I'm just as big and strong (sometimes too much), but I'll most likely be wearing nothing but a store-bought diaper and a bathrobe. I get a rush from going to big-box stores and buying all the things that make me feel little or safe, or downright sexy: diapers and pullups, boys and girls clothing (especially underwear and swimwear) and baby supplies.
I have lurked on ADISC a few times and poured through the threads, and I know this is just the kind of community I want to belong to.