Call your Senator or Congress rep. That will light a fire under the VA and it should help resolve your situation. You can tell them that the VA is supplying "SUB-STANDARD" DME supplies. You don't have to mention diapers if you are uncomfortable
I'm using Abena Abri Form cloth back, and there are times where I have leaked due to the tape coming off the wing entirely. Unfortunately it seems to be a nightmare to try and change the type of briefs I get as my insurance company is finally supplying them.
My stash currently is Hidden somewhere in my room, and usually contains a case (3 packs) of Abena Abri-form M4, and a case (2 packs) of Attends Extended wear.
Being Incontinent stinks at times but other times it it just another day in life.