Changing the name won't change perceptions. As humans we instinctively know that if something doesn't smell good then it's probably not good for us hence why we have places to go to relieve ourselves. Also the fact that as soon as you hear the word nappy/diaper people will think it's to do with...
I wear them on and off as I don't like to go through my supply so quick as they can be expensive. I use my nappies for their intended purposes. I mostly just wear them because it's something I have always wanted to ever since I can remember and it brings me comfort.
Alcohol certainly can help! Staying hydrated also will make you go a lot and I find the more hydrated you are the more it swells up. I often find when I am not wearing, a shower always makes me pee.
I've had two previous girlfriends who were already into it. I found them on Instagram. My current girlfriend wasn't into it but wears with me sometimes and accepts this side of me.
If you plan on going to ABU I think they ask that you pre-order first. If going to NappiesRUs you can show up and ask for what's in stock or pre-order, at least they used to let you just show up.
NappiesRUs who are based in Bolton but ship across the UK or ABUniverse who are based in Manchester but also ship are good. I often go to the shops as they're not far from me and saves on shipping prices. NappiesRUs are also partnered with Incontinence Shop I believe.
Looks like a Pampers Easy Ups to me but I could be wrong. The little bows look like the Hello Kitty bow. I believe they were only released in the US/NA so not too familiar.
I also use my nappies to full capacity and sometimes fear about leaking when sitting down. It's just so nice and warm I don't want to change but have to eventually.