Can't stand others bitching about how bad their life is?

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[ShippoFox]

Originally Posted by Mako

"Life is easy. It's YOU who sucks. People choose their situation to a bigger degree then they would like to acknowledge. If you believe happiness is outside your grasp, it's rather unreasonable or your not actually looking for it." ~Me

What!? I'm totally allowed to quote myself!

People can't always just suddenly decide to do things so easily. We can't run our entire world... other people affect our lives too. Sometimes people are harmed by bad decisions other people have made. Some people also just have easier lives than others. We are not all identical with identical life situations. I mean, I can see how that quote could potentially be inspirational, but still... sometimes things are not so easy.

[tk7432]

Sometimes this is necessary to realize how life is supposed to appreciated but for me an excess of it starts to piss me off. It just gets me irritated when it becomes a motif of someone's life as it begins for me to begin to feel guilt for them thinking of committing suicide. It seems so fucked up sometimes.

[Mako]

Originally Posted by ShippoFox

People can't always just suddenly decide to do things so easily. We can't run our entire world... other people affect our lives too. Sometimes people are harmed by bad decisions other people have made. Some people also just have easier lives than others. We are not all identical with identical life situations. I mean, I can see how that quote could potentially be inspirational, but still... sometimes things are not so easy.

And so they should just sit around, pissing and moaning about how life is so hard? It's not to imply it's easy at all. Shit happens, but sitting on your ass whining isn't going to fix it. Even in dire situations, there is shreds of happiness to be found. If someone can't, they're not looking or expecting too much too soon.

There are extreme examples that borderline on strawmen, but since I doubt anyone here will be held as a torture victim, the quote stands.

[isaactheman]

i agree when people cry about dumbass problems like a friend moved away, or u lost ur boyfriend/girlfriend. So wat? when i complain i got REAL problems...my family is so jacked up i dont think a lot of the people that whine should be doing wat they are doing. like u said, get up and do something about it? well wat am i supposed to do about a family member with a mental disabillty, a criminal sibling, a dead father, and a broken down mom? ya i have no right to complain huh? =/

[Calico]

When people complain to me about their real problems all the time, it makes me uneasy because I don't know what to do about it or what to tell them. I think that's another reason why some of us can't stand people who complain about REAL problems all the time and it's about the same things over and over.

I am not the right person for anyone to come to to dump their feelings on me and let it all out and vent.

[MyLastWords]

Originally Posted by isaactheman

i agree when people cry about dumbass problems like a friend moved away, or u lost ur boyfriend/girlfriend. So wat? when i complain i got REAL problems...my family is so jacked up i dont think a lot of the people that whine should be doing wat they are doing. like u said, get up and do something about it? well wat am i supposed to do about a family member with a mental disabillty, a criminal sibling, a dead father, and a broken down mom? ya i have no right to complain huh? =/

You just did. And it came across really bitchy. And for most peple, losing a serious boy/girlfriend is a VERY big emotional deal. And for many losing their best friend would have a similar effect.

As far as people who are whiny goes, I usually listen once, give them advice, listen once more and if nothing has changed, I no longer care. I tend not to surround myself with people who are bitchy, most of my mates and I are fairly easy going guys when it comes to problems, like, if we have an immediate serious problem, usually we'll have a discussion over a few drinks and that will have it sorted.

I think there are relationships where people need to be able to have a good whinge though. At the moment I still live with my mother, and I listen to her a lot, because she has a high stress job and no husband to comfort her. Although her issues are usually resolved very quickly, so we don't go over the some shit every discussion.

[BabyKitty]

TLDR, lets see how silly I can make this sound...

I'm here to bitch about everybodies bitching that continue to bitch about not being able to stand listening to other peoples bitching. Therefore I'm bitching about myself bitching about everyones bitching about not being about to listen to bitching.

That's a lot of cyclical bitching, ain't that a bitch.

[WildThing121675]

I have noticed that lately around here, that some people here have nothing better to do than bitch and moan about their lives or when they lose things and stuff does not go right for them. Well, so what? It happens to us all but don't go trying to get others to feel sorry for you.

I can name a few people around that do that, but I won't because there's no logic in that.

We all have bad days. I had a tough one today at work dealing with idiot cooks who wait til after we close to bring their stuff back to me. So what? You see me starting a thread about it and griping? NO.

I get tired of it, really. Deal with it. Why tell the whole damn world what's going on? I don't do that because I don't think there is any reason to. I just figure it like this. We all have our issues and I just work hard to overcome mine and deal with it. Why aggravate others with your problems? It pisses people off. In fact, I've recently had to keep myself from giving a certain member a neg-rep because he was all upset losing something and griping about his life.

So WHAT? LIFE HAPPENS. Just deal with it. I do and I don't broadcast it all over the internet that I lost something or had a bad day or something happened between me and a girl.

Why do it? REALLY? Are you really that desperate for attention. Neg-rep me if you want, cause I really don't care. I'm speaking my mind.

WildThing121675

[ShippoFox]

Originally Posted by Mako

And so they should just sit around, pissing and moaning about how life is so hard? It's not to imply it's easy at all. Shit happens, but sitting on your ass whining isn't going to fix it. Even in dire situations, there is shreds of happiness to be found. If someone can't, they're not looking or expecting too much too soon.

Sometimes you just can't help it. Sometimes "trying" isn't trying hard enough. It can be really hard to make friends if you're not outgoing and/or very shy/anxious. Does that mean you're not trying? No, but people will say that. Some people just naturally have it less easy than others. And it does eventually get to a depressing point that feels hopeless. Then you end up doing "nothing" because you just don't know what to do or you're completely just not confident about the options. Other people are stuck with situations they just can't do anything about (sick family members, deaths in the family, extreme bullying, etc.)

Yes, there are almost always shreds of happiness to be found. Unfortunately, sometimes it's hard to focus on them when they're outnumbered by unhappy things by 2 to 1. But it is best to focus on them and make the best of things.