ADISC - Mature Topics

Tears For Fears - Infantilism references?

Error404 — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 11:42:58 GMT

Now, you all know me pretty well, I don't generally LOOK for infantilistic things in every day life, but after listening to a large amount of Tears For Fears songs, I find myself wondering if their lyricist was perhaps an infantilist. Some of their best and most famous songs have small little references, whilst one song in particular just REEKS of lost childhoods being relived.

YouTube - Tears For Fears - Head Over Heels: Video - Head Over Heels. Small references in beginning and end.

YouTube - Tears For Fears - Mad World - Mad World. Massive references to childhood.

Now, the one that I think just SCREAMS infantilism is this one.

YouTube - Tears For Fears - Advice For The Young At Heart: Final Cut - Advice for the young at heart. The whole song sounds as if it is ABOUT infantilism.

I've put this in Mature Topics as I really believe this could spark both controversy and debate.

What's your opinion?

"While they play mothers and fathers, we play little boys and girls."

Crucifix in Schools

Target — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 10:43:24 GMT

Recently, a sentence form European court for Human Rights has been pronunced in favour to remove crucifix from Italian schools and classrooms.

The reason is: "It's a violation of Parent's freedom to raise their child with their own religious Ideas and a violation of Student's freedom of religion".

needless to say, this lead to many talks and actions, with many political parties telling to punish whoever tries to remove them from schools.

As my personal point of view, I find this sentence right, since I feel the crucifix as a symbol that recalls the christian religion and, in a certain way, "scares" children which believes in a different god or doesn't even believe it exists.
In time like this, with a spreading fear for other religions, in particular Islam, this sentence could be a little step for an easier integration of foreign people in our country, especially people from middle-east countries.

As some people points out, the main reason they doesn't want the crucifix to be removed, is that the symbol is something that represents our country since long time, like it is something needed to make us feel more Italian and proud to be Catholic.

At this point, in my opinion, there are many different symbols that could be used for this purpose instead of using a symbol that recalls religion.
Still, Living in a country close to Vatican, which have a great influence on everyday life and on politics, makes this sentence harder to accept.

What do you think about this?

Explaining...

Fire_lupine06 — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:56:28 GMT

Theres a reason I tend to get defensive whenever someones says something about weight and exercise...its cause I am alil over, but theres nothing i can really do for it besides the walking I already do.

I have a heart condition and the fact if that even sprinting or drinking some tea causes it to go haywire, so that leaves me at my wits end at times with how to cope...and yes maybe i do get jealous when i see people running..playing or just having coffee or tea and I can't, so i am left on the sidelines wondering...Why me....

Not 'visual'?

Possibly Insane — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:28:01 GMT

Ahem. Um, this isn't something I would normally talk about, and is a source of great embarrassment for me. But here it is.

Sexuality has never been a 'fo sho' thing for me. I have observed both attractive women AND men, but have never had romantic attachments to the latter. When I see an attractive person, I don't get the 'normal reaction' for a guy. Naked people don't seem to do anything for me. When I... ahem... commit a certain 'sin', I am thinking about fetish-related things, and not things related to people.

That said, in all of the relationships I have been in, when I got close to the girl, held her, kissed her, and so on and so forth, the 'normal reaction' 'reacted' as it should. :o

What does this make me, exactly? In our culture, men are depicted as visual creatures. We're supposed to thrive on seeing titties and all else that is unseen on a lady - or, for some, on a man. I seem to enjoy the intimacy of a relationship, the romantic aspect as well. What the fuck am I? :wallbash: Is this normal? Gahhhh.

A Freudian explanation for Fetishism

samwise — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 08:28:38 GMT

I am reading Ernest Becker's book, The Denial of Death. In it he offers a re-examination of Freudian psychology. On the subject of fetishism, he asserts all fetishes are a result of the castration complex. In our case, the diaper being the last object seen before a female vagina. I know it is hard to stomach, but I am interested in all of your opinions. Try not to attack Freud's persona too much, I know its hard :), but we need to critically examine all of these origin theories for their possible therapeutic benefit.
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Freud: "To put it plainly: the fetish is a substitute for the woman's (mother's) phallus which the little boy once believed in and does not wish to forego--we know why" -Freud "Fetishism", 1927, Collected papers, vol. 5. p. 199

[The author, Ernest Becker's commentary on the above quote]: " Note the utter assurance of that last phrase. The "reason" is that the female genitals prove the reality of castration and awaken the horror of it for oneself. The only way to triumph over this threat is to "give" the woman a phallus, however artificially or symbolically; and the fetish is precisely the "token of triumph over the threat of castration and a safeguard against it..." With it, the fetishist can proceed to have intercourse [Obviously an extreme case, but not all too common]. The fetish "saves the fetishist from being a homosexual by endowing women with the attribute which makes them acceptable as sexual objects." In other words, the fetish gives him the courage to be a man. Freud was so confident of his formulation that he said
categorically:

"Probably no male human being is spared the terrifying shock of threatened castration at the sight of the female genitals... [Thus he concludes triumphantly:] Investigations into fetishism are to be recommended to all who still doubt the existence of the castration complex..." Ibid p.200, 201

From the book by: Becker, Ernest. The Denial of Death. Free Press: New York 1975

BTW it won a Pulitzer prize... let me know what you all think.

Adderrall = Success

jozie — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 09:08:24 GMT

Sorry if this thread's been done before, not sure if it has. Anyways I have done Adderral a couple times in my life, snorted it, but not during school. Has anyone tried Adderral to increase academic performance? Has anyone here been prescribed the drug normally, and has anyone convinced their doctor to prescribe it to them?

Just wondering, I don't think we discussed this one before.

body modification

r4di0sensitive — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:45:48 GMT

body modification and body art is know as the modification of any part of the human body for artistic or aesthetic reasons. modification can be a percinig, tatto, scars, etc. Body modification - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

my question is what have you done to modify your body or what do you want to modify your body with

i have
nothing at the moment

i want
a lip peircing
a skar of a pentagram on my upper right arm
and a tatto of my nick name(family tradition)
my left nipple peirced

what do you want done

Modern Warfare 2: Terrorist Controversy

Dawes — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:55:52 GMT

I am choosing not to put this in the "Computers and Games" section, because I believe this topic transcends those brackets and requires more varied input even from those who aren't gamers.

Just this week, the long-awaited sequel to Call of Duty: Modern Warfare was released. While the majority of the game involves fighting against modern cells of terrorists, there is a questionable sequence that has already been the focus of growing furor. In it, the player controls an undercover operative undertaking a covert operation, during which he walks alongside ultranationalist terrorists as they commit mass slaughter at a Russian airport.

I was considering peppering this post with both sides of the controversy -- articles in which people speak against the scene, and articles by those who support it -- but I refrain. I'll let the recorded sequence above speak for itself.

The linked scene above contains potential spoilers for the game's plot. For those of you who aren't interested in viewing it, then don't. A warning to other viewers: the scene is heavily graphic and is not necessarily for the faint of heart. Also keep in mind that when the game is started, a player is given the option to skip this sequence or to play through it, referencing its disturbing nature.

So what's your take on this? Is Infinity Ward (the game's developer) upping the controversial ante? Is this too far for a series of games that have prided themselves on being accurate representations of both the heroics and violence of war? Does it belong in the game at all?

Have at! I'll be posting my own feelings later on, too.

Is the Pursuit of happiness impossible?

Savid23 — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 05:24:36 GMT

I think it is.
.As American you have the right to �Pursuit Happiness�. Problem with that is, everyone is different. Despite we are all 99.9 percent alike. We all have different perspectives of happiness.

can anyone find a plausible explination for this?

r4di0sensitive — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 04:39:48 GMT

Ok so for the past week since I have joined adisc I have found myself with no other ambition except to involve my self in the forums and IRC. And I am a little worried because I don�t want my grades to slip further than they already are. I mean I have ADHD OOD and I am borderline bipolar so I have to tackle procrastination on a daily basis, but I am noticing a trend that can prove detrimental to my career plan for after graduation.

I have noticed this trend even before adisc but it wasn't as severe. Why do you guys think that I am showing sings of addiction to adisc? Could it be that I have finally found a community that accepts me and my lifestyle? Or could it be something else?

I really appreciate any help

The Wall

PrisonerOfSociety — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 03:07:30 GMT

Today, 20 years ago, one of the most influential events of the 20th century took place, a day which changed history forever, November 9, 1989, the Berlin wall came down.

The wall which separated Germany was being torn down, piece by piece, this wall, a wall which had made Germans prisoners in their own country was now being destroyed. At that moment the Communist regime, a regime which had taken the freedoms and lives of so many people was now starting to crumble in the form of a wall. This event marked a day in history, when the oppressed struck back at the oppressors and started to take down not only just a wall, but a wall that had been a symbol of divided Europe, oppression and the Cold War.

Many people died trying to cross the wall, today in Berlin and all over Germany they were remembered as well, it has been estimated that the death toll was well above 200 people.

I know I was born 2 years latter after this event happened, but when I first saw pictures and especially the more in depth videos, I felt something special I think. I felt a sense of happiness and joy, knowing that during this point in history, people stood up against one of the most powerful regimes in the world and although they didn't win that day they vowed they would come back and finish what had started. The persistence of the people there was amazing, I honestly wish I could have been there to see such a glorious thing!

Me being the defiant kind of person I am, it was very empowering to see this huge amount of defiance and I felt a sense of pride in humanity I had never felt before. Although I was not there, the empowerment I got from viewing this spectacle in historical footage was truly amazing.

Just think about it, only 20 years ago the Soviet Union was still in power controlling the lives of millions and millions of people and now, today they are no more.

It's amazing to see people uniting together and defying such huge super power!

Anything can be accomplished if people come together!

I just wanted to remind everyone of this important day in history which changed the lives of so many people across Germany, Europe and the world.

Feel free to post some stories any of you guys have about the wall, feelings about it, etc.

Post any links you feel are important for others to see and I can edit them into my post as well.

Check out the links below if you would like to learn more about this historical day.

These particular videos are very good, it's seen from the German perspective:

Part 1: YouTube - The opening of the Wall at Berlin Bornholmer Strasse 1989

Part 2: YouTube - The opening of the Berlin Wall 1989 / Reichstag (English Subtitles)

Berlin celebrates night that changed world - CNN.com

Autumn of Change: CNN stories marking the anniversary of the fall of the Berlin Wall - Special Reports from CNN.com

20th Anniversary of the Fall of the Berlin Wall | Google

YouTube - Fall of the Berlin Wall: The moment the barriers came down

YouTube - Moments in History - The Fall of the Berlin Wall

The Good Samaritan Within Us

tk7432 — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 22:53:04 GMT

Today has been hectic with people in cars. I have seen one of my friends supposedly get stopped by the police, another get into a severe accident in which the whole top of her car was taken off (she is okay), and right in front of my house a collision between a car and a kid with a motorcycle occurred. Since I did see the kid limping and grabbing his back a lot, I had decided to call the Non-Emergency Police to send someone to the scene anonymously and they recommended that the kid should go to the hospital. I didn't get involved but I was very concerned on the kid's behalf since he was limping with some pain and the mom was just standing there. I felt that I did the right thing, and now I want to ask if you have done anything good over the past uhh 6 months that you believe that you did the right thing to assist one in need.

Anyone here a gun nut like me?

Gizmoman — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 20:03:58 GMT

Anybody here like guns, for targetshooting, hunting, home protection? If you do share what you are packin! I will start I own a remington 12ga shotgun loaded with birdshot for home defense. I also own a Glock 26 9mm loaded with 115g +p corbon DPX hollowpoints as back up as well as a secondary mag with 147g federal hydrashock jhp. And I have a Taurus PT25 .25 acp for plinking at the range. My wife packs a Cobra CA380 .380 acp with 95g fmj in her purse. We are big believers in gun rights and gun ownership. We go to the range at least once a month. Tell us about your guns:D

Sticky topic discussion!

Valerye — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 09:46:05 GMT

Ok, I think it is about time we had a Dedicated Sticky topic to Bedweting to get diapers. In it it should cover the good/bad/consequences/medical stuff/metalstuff that can happen because of it.

Padded girl=Public Property?

LuvsGurl — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 23:06:41 GMT

Ok, perhaps this will sound like a rant at first but please understand I want a legit answer.
Pussy=Public?
Dose this community as a whole see every female that is inside it as their own personal sexual toy?
I hate to say it but I have started to get very upset when I cannot make a single new friend that does not want to know if my diaper is wet and if they can change me. Even after I tell everyone that I am in a very happy relationship with my own �well known� diapered boy.
So what part of my being willing to wear a diaper makes me free fodder for every sexist, horny, perv? I am not saying by any means that everyone in this community is one of these things, but it sure seems that it is the only reason any guy has ever asked me to be their friend unless they were friends with DarkFinn First.
I understand that I am not your normal Diapered Girl. Though I have at least 6 cyber stalkers that are all from this community and a few that found me through this site. I get so sick and tired of 20 to 30 IMs, Emails, or posts to my blog or threads asking if I have shit myself or, if I play with myself when I am wet.
What makes people think that it is their business what I do, say, or feel if I do not offer them that information? I do not post that sort of thing on any of my threads, blog post, or anything else� Why would I tell a complete stranger?
Please let me know what those of us girls can do to not seem to be �asking for it�.
I understand that the ratios that you see are of far more guys then girls, though I hate to tell everyone I know Tons of girls that refuse to get online about this because of these people. You would have more Ladies to chat with if these Pervs would quit acting like they have never seen a female before, and keep their fapping to themselves.

Worst Roommate Ever

Chillhouse — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:48:31 GMT

Shitty Roommate - By Martin Random part 1

It's a long, disgusting read. But it's oh so worth it. We've all had crazy roommates, but this guy had an actual crazy roommate. As in, he went psychotic.

Ocd

1magus — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:49:08 GMT

Anybody here have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?
BTW It does not count if you have days where you quote OCD on something, REAL OCD is something that sticks with you all day every day and makes you have super anxiety, it's not fun :sad:

Ecstasy, and irrational beliefs about drugs

Charlie F — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:23:48 GMT

Ecstasy.
E.
MDMA.

A highly illegal drug in the UK as well as in other countries, yet statistically speaking less dangerous than alcohol, cigarettes and horse riding.

There's recently been a lot news in the UK about a (now former) chairman of the Advisory Council on the Misuse of Drugs, David Nutt, who was sacked. He's a controversial man because he has been very critical of the government's position on cannabis and ecstasy, arguing with scientific evidence that these drugs are not as dangerous as is made out.

My questions for you:
*What are your views on E?
*How safe do you believe E is?
*Have you ever had a bad experience with the drug (maybe not you personally)?
*Do you believe that society misjudges E, and why?

Don't answers these survey style, they're just for thinking.

I, perhaps obviously, do think that the public are irrational when it comes to E, and politicians are pressured into having to seem hard on *all* drugs. I think the fact that some drugs less harmful than alcohol are illegal is silly.

Here's a well known graph based on Nutt's data:

One chance, would you cash it, a chance to live a dream....

WildThing121675 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:49:12 GMT

I have listened to a lot of music tonight and one song comes to mind- Eminem's Lose Yourself. Would you take a chance if it meant a dream coming true and living that dream?

Would YOU take that chance. To me, I wish I had. I had a chance in the 1990s to be drafted to play pro ball but I gave up baseball. Would you give up a dream? A chance to prove yourself? If I had not, I could have been playing for the Kansas City Royals.

What if you had one shot, one shot, one moment to go for everything you ever wanted, would go for it?

Would you?

WildThing121675

What does asexual mean to you?

Raccoon — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 08:50:49 GMT

1. You have no libido nor romantic attraction towards people
2. You have no sexual or romantic interest in people; you still have a libido and non-human turnons

I am a bit confused over asexuality, and what it means to the different people who go by that one label.

I used to think it was a matter of no libido; others say it's no attraction to either sex. I gather there are many variations under "asexual." Would you care to explain>?

Anyone else notice this?

Milla — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:57:58 GMT

So this term I've started a Studies in Short Fiction class. As the name would imply, it is a class where we read a plethora of short stories and discuss them. Of course, it is also an English elective, being a one term class focusing on a precise subject.

Now, in an English class, you're expected to know literary terms, right? You know, the common knowledge of what a metaphor is, the sections of a plot, and other very basic things that you learned in grade school.

At my school, you only take a semester long "core" English class through 11th grade, so that means that your credits in 12th grade, your Senior year, are to be fulfilled with an English elective.

Here's where I start getting to the point.

On the first day of class, my awesome teacher gives us a 50 point test. This test is on literary terms, with questions not unlike the ones that I listed in paragraph two. Now, Juniors can take electives mostly geared towards seniors, such as last quarter I was the only junior in a Mythology class (With GOD as my teacher, by the way) and now find myself in more of the same situation. I assumed that seniors would know their way around a frakking simile and dramatic definitions, but I was clearly mistaken.

Out of the 30 some kids in my class, I, the only Junior, was the only one that was able to pass that test (With an A, mind you), whereas everyone else now has to go through arbitrary classwork in order to make sure that they know this stuff.

Seeing an issue?

These are seniors, seniors, children, and they all failed a test that I could have aced in 6th grade. Sure, I started school a bit early, hence being 15 and a Junior, but that was for freaking Kindergarten. I don't think I'm some sort of prodigy for knowing my various arithmetic, alphabet, and potty training a touch before most of other people my age.

The same sort of thing happened in my Mythology class last term. Whenever someone (Well, most of the class at least) would read from The Odyssey they would speak in a monotonous voice and struggle with the most basic of words. Perhaps if it was one person, that would be a different case, but for this it was 25 people out of 31, give or take. I don't think that it's too much to ask for competence in such a trivial category.

Perhaps however, it's public speaking that's the matter, a bit of stage fright. Sure, that's understandable if you're in a play or a concert, but performance anxiety from reading a few lines from The Odyssey doesn't seem very justified.

I don't think it's particularly a problem with my school either, seeing as how we produce a large amount of National Merit Scholars and Scholastic Letters for each one of our graduating classes, with several of our students going on to MIT, CalTech, and Harvard even.

I guess you could call me a little bit of an overachiever; I'm also the biggest nerd that you'll find in Vikingland, but there has to be something more to it. One doesn't have to be a "nerd" or an "overachiever" to perform at a relatively lukewarm level in a simple English elective. I mean really, there's no mystery to it.

I stop to think that English, or whatever class would be the equivalent, given your country of origin, is not everyone's forte. This is true. I certainly wouldn't ask some of my friends in my A+ Computer Certification class to compose for me a sonnet or write an essay on the world situation, but this is basic stuff people! Basic, freaking, stuff!

Perhaps I shouldn't be looking so far into the matter, looking into other people's lives when mine is really the only one that matters when it concerns my performance in a class. Unless the others are dragging me down personally, it doesn't seem like my place to judge or complain. But of course, I'm going to have to do so anyway, because it seems like the "leaders of tomorrow" are fixin' to run this world straight into the ground.

Okay, rant over, I feel a little better now.

tl;dr

I'm appalled with the performance of my classmates in the simplest of matters. Reading a freakin' short story and knowing what a metaphor is and how it's used isn't Anti-Mass Spectrometry!

Should I Even Try?

briefboy — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:58:04 GMT

The "what do I do?" post got me thinking. My boyfriend just broke up with me two days ago, it wasn't a bad breakup or anything, he just felt like he fell out of love with me over the past couple of weeks.

I love him more than anyone else in the world, and I realize that I'm still deep in the grieving stage, but I am wondering if you guys think I even have a chance of winning him back? If so, any ideas? He still wants to be friends, but I just feel like it would be really awkward after what we had. I know it will be hard for you guys (or gals) to give me some insight as you don't really know my boyfriend and I, but I'm just wondering if I'm doing the right thing? I don't want to lose him, and I don't want to find anyone else, but if that's what ends up happening, then so be it...

What to do?

abmastermind — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 05:29:48 GMT

what do u do when u lost the love of your life??

do u jump back in the game

or

just wait it out and pray for the best

Of souls, spirituality, and humanity

hobojoe805 — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 22:36:25 GMT

Recently I�ve been pondering the idea of souls, the afterlife, and humans as a spiritual construct. I�ve decided to share my thoughts with you all in order to start a dialogue involving this rather illusive subject.

After much self-reflection, I have come to the conclusion that every living being in the universe has soul, or an essence of one. The essence is neither created nor destroyed, but is merely dispersed or reformed as necessary. When something dies, its energy is transferred to other newly forming beings. In a spiral of destruction and reformation soul �energy� (if we may be so bold) is recycled between the birthed and the dying.

So what of the souls� purpose; what is its role? Although I�ve yet to theorize about non-humans, I have concluded that humans are comprised of three major parts: body, mind, and soul. The body or our physical being is the most familiar thing to us, because it is always the most used part. Every action requires the body, which in its frailty must consume other beings in order maintain its form. The mind has nothing to do with the functions of the brain those are controlled by the body. The mind is the accumulation of the body�s memories, will and logic. Our mind stores what we have experienced and controls our inhibitions. The last link in the human system is the soul, what we commonly refer to as our heart and our personality. This is the center where everything we �feel� stems from.

Mind, Body, and Soul all work together to maintain the being. The body gives stimuli to the mind which records it for later use. The mind keeps the soul in check, keeping our emotions from getting out of control. The soul regulates the body, making it react in certain ways based on memories relayed from the mind. If one part is weakened� it affects the whole system. If the mind is damaged it can effectively communicate with body or soul and problems occur. If the body gets damaged the mind�s and soul�s commands are rendered useless. If the soul is damaged or filled with negative energy, both body and mind begin to suffer and breakdown.

But the soul is a peculiar thing. Although when beings are born, they lack full control of their bodies, and their minds are without prior knowledge. Yet, somehow they still react instinctually in similar ways to stimuli; beings are born with something that vaguely resembles personality. This is where my theory about souls seems to stem from. If people exhibit a kind personality upon birth, then perhaps the mind and body are fresh; but the soul is, although new and different, comprised of other souls which would account for instinctual behavior.

So now for some major questions: Is there an afterlife?

No, unfortunately once you�re dead, you�re gone: your mind and body lost forever. However your soul merges and gives birth to new lives, which may or may not exhibit any of your traits (hell you might just give birth to a tree and a human, and some sort of fish thing�).

If we�re comprised of other souls, why can�t we recall past lives, and why don�t we exhibit random or conflicting personality traits?

Simple, the mind has control over memory, which the soul uses in order to develop personality, and how you respond to reoccurring stimuli. Since the mind is non-transferable, no past lives to recall, and since the soul is new and has no memories to work with, a unique personality develops, and thus has no conflicting traits.

Is there a god?

Okay this has nothing to do with the subject, but I thought I�d touch on this anyways. My answer: doesn�t matter. Whether one is created or whether we spawned randomly from some abyss is not important. My advice to people is just to live their lives, that best they can, in the end we all return to the universe; so have fun, we literally only live once.

Thank you for your time and patience. Once again this is the product of just me and my thought, and I�m in no way imposing them upon others. Feel free to critique, comment, add, and share your own personal theories. I hope this will stimulate our growth spiritually and as a people. May our reflections bring us closer to the hardest to find answers, and may we all shine like gold upon the sea of chaos that is life. *bows*

Commercial Christmas-sickness

Entity' — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:13:39 GMT

As we all know, Christmas is approaching and y'all are having a good time spending money on your family. I do have one problem with this, and it is all about timing. Retail stores are already selling Christmas related items and it's just after Halloween. I mean, come on man; Isn't this a bit early?! The very first day we had snow the local Menards was frickin stocked to the brim with Christmas crap for sale, and it was just 3 weeks before Halloween for Pete sake. I do believe there should be a law that states this: "The sale of holiday related items shall be prohibited up to 2 days after the immediately preceding holiday. Failure to comply with this law will result in a fine of X ." I love Christmas, Thanksgiving, 4th of July, Easter, and that German holiday that involves lots of alcohol (I can't seem to think of its name right now); but retail stores have taken those holidays (Christmas especially), and have made it into nothing more than a contest of who can sell the most holiday related items the fastest just because they set it out first.

What gives?