Schedules, Love and Comfort.
by, 14-Jan-2014 at 10:38 (1664 Views)
As a kid my parents never really provided me with the security of a "schedule" or some type of ritual to go to sleep in or anything. Everything was always screaming "GO TO SLEEP DAMIT"
and if I cried, it got worse.
As a babysitter, I've seen lots of mothers have a lovingly planned out schedule for their babies, and nearly each time, the child knows they are going to sleep. I thought about my OCD, I have a lot of OCD, things need to be a certain way every day for me or else I start to freak out and hyperventilate and think I'm going to die and suck my thumb.
Yes. I'm not saying whoever didn't have a schedule had a bad childhood, but my parents didn't soothe me when I freaked out, and I was always trying to predict this and that, they were both very temperamental scary people when they got mad, I was scared to be scared but scared anyway.
There is a lot of comfort in consistency, and one of the parts of being Properly babied, is having a parent who tries to create a comforting and fair environment where you as a baby won't be scared, you know whats coming and don't have to freak out and guess. Consistency is good, for adults and kids, but theres something loving about creating a schedule for a baby <3 There is no need to try to follow it to the tee, but that its there, is like a blanket for me
So I kind of have this "mommy" I made in my head when I was a kid, and she's still there (no I'm not insane, I know its just my mind lol) But, last night I was feeling really sad, and freak out ish, and I pictured my "mommy" knowing that, and I pictured her telling me "its bath time" So I did my own loving schedule for myself.
I took a nice bath, and put on my diaper with lots of baby cream all around and baby powder.....then I put my hair in a "sleep ponytail" or leepy pony tail (my little self calls it that)
and then I put my footy pjs <3
I have my paci connected to a string because I lose it at night and I picture my "mommy" putting it around me as I put it on myself, Also having it connected I find, adds to the baby feel :]
-my 2 Night lights switched on
-Lullaby on my Ipad
- and my night time bottle of water <3
After doing these "mommy moments" in my head, picturing myself being taken care of even though it was me, I could almost make it real, I fell asleep to the sweet smells of powder and love ^_^
I have never slept better in my life.
(These projection night lights do wonders too <3 I find then very soothing)
So for those who have Anxiety, OCD, or other things like that, or just feel like they want to feel more taken care of ,one of the biggest things they say is good for children is consistency....and if you have a
"pretend parent" and schedule for your baby self, maybe you might feel more soothed.
Maybe I'm insane for having a mommy in my head, but I won't complain, I slept like a baby <3 :)
I say more people should sleep like this, its so soothing to sleep with a paci and bottle around <3