by, 03-Dec-2013 at 02:47 (1062 Views)
Over this past weekend, my daughter-in-law passed away.
It was, in the end, quiet and peaceful, as such things ought to be. My son was with her. My daughters had been there the previous day, though she was unconscious the whole time. (I believe that she knew they had come; it was what she had been waiting for.)
We've had plenty of tears here, and many are ongoing. There is still quite a bit to take care of. They had no jobs and no insurance--this whole thing was on Medicaid (and BTW Illinois Medicaid was wonderful throughout this and they received top quality care right to the end)--so we're now dealing with the boondoggle that is public aid cremation. But that is a small thing. The larger thing is that she was loved and that my son knew her love for so many years. He is of course heartbroken and devastated by her loss, but healing will start. And if there is a silver lining, that is it. Three years ago he told me that he would go out with her, that he would see her buried and then take his own life. Now, he is thinking about his own future. He is planning on apartment hunting with a friend as soon as that friend gets a more stable job, and he is adopting a dog.
We'll get past all of this. It will just take time.