Is the grass really greener?
by, 24-Aug-2012 at 01:13 (572 Views)
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking as of late and although I value my upbringing, simply because it made me into who I am today, but I just can’t get over the wishful thinking of being brought by a Caucasian family. Not that I’m trying to make this an issue of race, but here is what I have noticed in between the differences of raising babies. Where I’m from, in a black family, a baby is loved just like any other race and always gets what it needs. Not to say that this is the case for everyone, I’m not trying to draw statistics that aren’t proven; just experiences I’ve been raised on, but…..
Unlike a Caucasian family where I’m from, it’s rare to actually have the father figure in your life. Furthermore, things like “baby talking” and playing with the baby, documenting first steps and doing things such as baby books? Only time we ever saw any of this stuff, was on TV. I could remember asking my mother at the age of ether three or four, if pigeons made sound and I was told yes. When I asked her what one would sound like, she refused to mimic one, probably out of pride; I have no clue. I don’t regret the fact that I grew up being rewarded and feeling good about taking responsibility at a very young age, but at the same time, I envy those who say they were “overprotected”, not thinking so much of the psychological impact, but more so for that overstated “parent/child” bond.
I took this theory a bit further and came to the conclusion of caulking it up God’s will. I truly believe we are put in the positions we are put into for a reason. If we were to get everything we actually wished for in life, then what kind of person would we really turn out to be? Personally, I forget who told me to stop making all of this more than what it is and just embrace it, but I’m starting to think he is 100% right.