Hiding stuff from significant others?
by, 17-Aug-2012 at 19:33 (386 Views)
I'm really surprised/disturbed by how many people on here haven't told their significant others that they're an AB or DL. And beyond that, how many people ENCOURAGE OTHERS to keep it a secret from their significant others! It blows my mind.
I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone I didn't feel comfortable talking to about what turns me on or makes me feel safe (whichever it is for you). I can't imagine keeping something like that a secret for the entirety of a marriage. If it's a big enough deal to you that you're on a website devoted to it, posting regularly, then I think it's a big enough part of your life to talk to your spouse or partner about!
I could never be married to someone who wasn't accepting of all my "quirks". If I told them, and they left me... I would be devastated for sure. But I would rather be honest about who I am than live a lie!
I knew most people in the ABDL community were in the closet about it... I guess I just didn't realize HOW FAR in the closet.